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Hi Ladies. Just wanted to say AF was from HELL this cycle. It's dragging on an extra day making it 6 days. I rarely every have that happen. Just spotting now, but can a woman get a break. I will be taking all my new vitamins and taking a baby aspirin daily which is what I found out I need to be on from the RE in LA I saw last week. Woman with the MTHFR gene that are trying to conceive should be taking baby aspirin and lots of folate when trying to conceive. Praying with everything I have that I get pregnant this cycle.

Hope everyone had a nice Easter. My partner cooked a big glazed ham dinner. I hadn't eaten ham in 20 years or so. I ate seconds and thirds.. lol

@Lschrader - I can't wait to hear how your numbers are today. That must've been so awesome telling your families about your bfp. It's so crazy that here you are pregnant now after all this time of trying. IVF is a miracle worker. I sure wish I could have IVF.

@Rebecca - Sorry AF showed up. :(

@Zyara - So sorry AF attacked you. Sending((((((( HUGS ))))))).

@Zesty - Welcome to the forum. I'm not sure the rules for when to see a Fertility specialist based on 34 or 35. I would say the sooner the better. If you can show after 6 months all the tracking and charting with bbt and opk's to your obgyn, I am sure your dr could refer you out after 6 months. That would be my best guess. They just want to know that you are fully doing everything you and your partner can to ttc before testing. I personally would push for testing. Time is precious when ttc. I am 42 almost 43 and still trying to conceive baby #1.

I just heard back. Not the best news. My first beta was 40.1 and my second one was 78.8. Of course they did not expect it to be so low. They wanted higher. I am on the cusp of doubling, but not quite there yet. My nurse said that I either implanted late, or i will have a chemical. I am just seriously not sure what to think at this point.

Lschrader. ..sweetie, hang in there. Numbers aren't always right. Saying some prayers for you, your dh, and the little one.

I am going to sound like a big, fat witch, but I'm going to say it anyway. My dhs oldest son, who'll be 30 in a week, got his gf pregnant at Christmas. Or at least that's when they told us. They'd only known each other two months. They went today to find out the baby's sex. They're having twin girls! Call me a jealous witch, but it broke my heart. I had to wake up to stupid AF, and then this. They don't even know if they'll be together. She hasn't been to a dr. I guess in the end I'm just envious it seems so easy for some, especially if they don't want babies or aren't thinking about it. I KNOW this sounds bad, and I AM happy for them. Yet at the same time I just want to crawl in a hole and cry. And with the way my stepson and his mom hate me, I doubt I'll ever get to see these babies.

Thanks for listening to my ugly heart.

Lschrader. ..sweetie, hang in there. Numbers aren't always right. Saying some prayers for you, your dh, and the little one.

I am going to sound like a big, fat witch, but I'm going to say it anyway. My dhs oldest son, who'll be 30 in a week, got his gf pregnant at Christmas. Or at least that's when they told us. They'd only known each other two months. They went today to find out the baby's sex. They're having twin girls! Call me a jealous witch, but it broke my heart. I had to wake up to stupid AF, and then this. They don't even know if they'll be together. She hasn't been to a dr. I guess in the end I'm just envious it seems so easy for some, especially if they don't want babies or aren't thinking about it. I KNOW this sounds bad, and I AM happy for them. Yet at the same time I just want to crawl in a hole and cry. And with the way my stepson and his mom hate me, I doubt I'll ever get to see these babies.

Thanks for listening to my ugly heart.

@Lschrader - I pray that you just implanted late and that your are processing the HCG slower than some. Some people start off slow and their numbers rise slowly compared to others. I am keeping you and your dh in my prayers. When will you test again? If I remember correctly you had a bfn on a hpt 5 dt 7po making it 12 dpo right? 2 days later you got a hcg beta of 40, so that shows me you implanted late. Also don't you have a 16/17 day luteal phase? I am giving this lil bean the full benefit of the doubt to snuggle in. Come on sticky bean!!!!!

@LSchrader - I'm with miracle! I can't imagine how you must be feeling though, hang in there! My friend went through the same thing with her baby, her numbers were low at the beginning. I'm sending your little bean sticky vibes and sending hugs to you!

@rebecca - I'm sorry you're having to deal with these feelings, that's sad that you probably won't be in thier lives. Remember, your hormones are at their low point right now, and perhapsro making you feel worse.

@miracle - I'm sorry AF was such a meany to you! Are you taking vitamin D as well? We had a good Easter, we went over to the In-Laws and dinner was SO good. I was so stuffed, I haven't been that stuffed in a long time.

Thank you so much for your prayers and good thought ladies. We are not really sure what to be thinking or feeling. I feel heart broken but numb at the same time. Part of me thinks am I not emotional because i am not attached or because i am protecting my heart. DH broke down last night like I have never seen him before. We are hurting and praying for a miracle. I am pregnant right now...so why can't these numbers be going up?! They need to. I have been praying and talking to my babies and just asking them to grow. We want them so much. I have been taking HPT's at home and they are so positive it's not even funny. How could they be getting more positive if my levels are not doubling? So we wait until Thursday and pray that we have a safe or healthy number.

Good Morning. It's rainy and all stormy where I live today. We need the rain so much.

How is everyone doing?

@Lschrader - I know that this has to be worrisome for you and your dh. It is such an emotional ride. I am praying for you both daily. Are you taking progesterone?

Thank you lady. Glad you are getting some much needed rain!

Yes i am progesterone. One of my nurses called me again this morning because i asked about my tested still being so dark. She said that is great, but HPTs don't show HCG levels so the only way to know for sure is to wait. She said they have seen it go both ways so to remain positive. I asked because my sister has very low levels in early pregnancy too and she said its possible our bodies just do that but there is no way to know for sure. I also asked that what if we go in and my levels are rising, but not quite doubling again and she said that we will continue and not give up. My meds will stay the same and we will continue blood work until my first u/s. Praying we have good news ladies.

@Lschrader - Well that's good to know that your sister had low rising hcg in her pregnancy too. Probably just runs in the family. Glad you're taking all that you're supposed to be taking. Sounds like you are in good hands. Your body is going to do what it needs to do. This is where you get to "trust the process" no matter what the outcome is. I'm glad that the nurse told you that they have seen it go either way. Hopefully that is a little comforting.