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Nasake oh my goodness! Your words make me smile! Thank you so much. Having in mind that someone in the other end of the word is thinking about my situation makes me so emotional. I believe that this good energy is coming my way if more people than me wishing for it to happen then it will. I know this might not make sense to some but I’m huge believer of this kind of energy and its power!
I really hope your tests to end with two bold pink lines so you won’t have to go to the doc appointment. But if you have to and you’re still afraid you should just talk about it with your doc. You shouldn’t just do something you’re not sure about. Talk about your concerns and why it makes you nervous and I’m sure you’ll be feeling better about it after a chat with a specialist! Hopefully nothing of this will be needed
I’m sorry if you said it before and I don’t remember but where are you from if I can ask?

Shay I’m so happy to see you babe! I’m glad you’re not having morning sickness and if you’re concerned about the weight loss I believe you should call your doc and just ask. Don’t let your self being worried. One week can feel like an eternity. We know that very well lol
Thank you for sharing your bfp story. It’s so encouraging and something very useful to keep in mind!
Can’t wait to see your little baby! Keep us updated!

Flamingo Yes! I hear this kind of stories all around ,e and this is what makes me still hold on to hope! So many couples had a baby through IVF, IUI, adoption etc and shortly after it they got pregnant. I somehow sometimes truly believe that I will be pregnant and other times I laugh at my self.. anyways I just hope for my miracle soon!
Hopefully for you it won’t take this long again. I heard before that after the first baby it’s easier to have a second one but of course this is not always the case! Praying that you fall into the first group

E-massey Yay girl! Go catch that egg

Kannike I see the line on your test too! Hopefully it will keep getting darker and darker! Those next few days I’ll be so agonizing and I send all my positive energy your way for a !

AFM Nothing really! 4dpo here and rolling.. I have 10 days till AF and I’m praying so hard that In few days I’ll start feeling and seeing something different lol Can I just say that I want a baby already? Haha

I havent wrote it, but I'm from Estonia. Thank you Alex, you are amazing and I'm going to send you big bunch of my positive thoughts before going to sleep, it's my time when I think about stuff and about how much I want to get pregnant and be mom, and about stuff I'm thankful for and what I wish for us to come and so on :) I really do believe you will be mom soon, you are too amazing so it's going to happen soon

to all! Can't wait to already see all these positive tests we are all going to get

I just wanted to thank everyone for being so encouraging and wonderful! I feel really lucky to be a part of this community and sharing this journey with everyone! I think I finally have my sticky bean here and will be blessed with a 3rd and final child! I know I have a long 8 months ahead- and it could be a rough journey (high risk due to 2 preemies plus all the complications I had with my second) but I’m ready to take it on! Congrats to everyone who has gotten their and to everyone still trying!! Lots of love

K+N so happy for happy
@Shay so glad that baby is sticking
@Nasake also fingers crossed for you
@Alex I agree with @Nasake I am holding so strong for you. You so deserve a sweet bfp.
Positive vibes all around for everyone.

AFM sorry for having been away. I went for blood test on Wednesday. BFN. But got confirmed for ovulation with high levels. Today I'm 8 days late. I think that I might have ovulated later than I thought. No more symptoms. Side boobs hurt , boobs are still big , weight gain perhaps. Idk what to think. Although brother s wife who just gave birth 14 months ago , is already preg with twins. All my siblings without exception have inherited the fertility genes from my parents. I think I picked the short straw on that. Took us 4y to conceive our 1st baby. We have been ttc#2 for 19 months now. Trying to stay positive but it s tough.

Same with me, I've got three sisters and they all got pregnant pretty easy with their six babies. One got boy and twins- both pregnancies came thru pills! She had one miscarriage before. Other sister have boy and girl, both took least than year to conceive and she gave the first pregnancy news to me a month after I miscarried and when I told her about our miscarriage, she asked "So what did you do to cause this?" like omg, I was pissed at her for moths. And third sister have a boy, she had sadly miscarriage but got pregnant right after that without new period, and then there's me. In the beginning in my infertility journey it made me sad and pissed that I can't have a baby as easily as they, but later when I wasn't depressed about my miscarriage I pretty much made peace with it, and was really glad they haven't needed to go thru hard stuff. But sometimes I feel like I don't deserve a baby or something, uuuugh, I hate those mean/sad thoughts and emotions what we go thru during infertility That's why lately I'm trying to focus so much to think positive, believe in myself and not to lose hope, even while hard days (a week before AF is like cray-cray for me). My husband is amazing and really supportive, so I'm really blessed with him.

I'm having my fingers crossed for you so much Lalou3ett3 sending you some positive thoughts

Kahlan+NatsMomma what nice big fat positives

Thank you! I’m crossing my fingers that you ladies get your ’s! You deserve it!

@Nasake awww thank you. I'm sorry for the insensivity. My sister is the same. I got 4 brothers and 1sister. She is like, well you are not pregnant yet? What are you waiting for. You are getting older and blah blah blah. She is 35 and has 4 kids, 2 boys 2 girls. They can t or won t understand what we are going through. Losing a child is 1 of the worst pain that no one should endured. That already give you a pass for everything. Stay strong. And you are right. Let s stay positive. Will you try for iui if this cycle does not result in bfp? That is my plan.

Nasake Thank you for the positive thoughts! It really means so much to me!
I’m so sorry you have to deal with insensitivity. Sometimes people around us won’t even understand that they said something hurtful or something that sounds so so bad to us!
Once my very best friend who knows me for years while talking about my hubbys Low sperm motility asked me “why don’t you go without him knowing in a sperm bank and do IVF?” I was so shocked I couldn’t even talk.. I realized after showing her my confusion and disappointment that she didn’t mean it as it sounds and she hardly thought about wha she was suggesting. I haven’t kept hard feelings after that but I can’t stop thinking about it sometimes...

Lalou I’m so sorry girl! I held a tiny hope for you (and still am tbh till the witch comes)! I know how you feel about your sister. My brother had a baby 4 years ago and his wife got pregnant on 1month postpartum Now they have two sweet boys almost at same age with only 10months difference and they struggling NOT to get pregnant again. But here I am struggling to get pregnant for almost 9 years. Once my brother told me “you have to believe it will happen and you’ll see that it will”.... “when we wanted to have our first one I just said ok let’s do it and we did it on first try... you have to just believe it will happen” ... that was his advice on my infertility. He said that with pure love of course and without even imagining what I’m going through every day of my life the last 9 years trying.. I don’t blame ppl who never tried to conceive. They just never been in our shoes and I cannot keep hard feelings. Their journey is different and only thing we can do is smile and agree with them!

K+Nmomma I’m very happy that you got your bfp girl! Just on time! I hope you’ll stick around for a while and keep us updated! Old friends who got their bfp is always welcome and they keep us motivated! At least that’s how it works for me

AFM I’m 5dpo today and I’m not feeling it! Yesterday around noon I got really depressed and I kept thinking that I’m an old lady who never got her own family... I’m compromising with my two cats and I’m “stealing” moments of joy with other people’s kids (my brothers for example) and that’s so very sad.... I cried yesterday a lot. Alone... When I told hubby how I felt he took it personally saying that he thought he was my family.. he was right from one point of view. He is my family but that wasn’t what I meant. I hope he understands and just trying to be hard on me in order to “wake” me up from my depression... sorry ladies that I’m using this board as a journal today but I needed to vent... from tomorrow I’m expecting to start feeling differently if I got pregnant this cycle which I highly doubt. 8 days left....

Awww Alex I'm so sorry. I hope that you will feel better soon. It is very different for men. And it is even harder for us to explain them exactly how we feel. You are one of the bravest people that I know and still you do not give up. I hope you had a good glass of wine. Wipe off your tears, put your chin up and be proud of all your accomplishments. Being a mother is also being amazing aunt to your nephews. There is no shame to have or to be. Stay brave and do not give up. Like ever. You rock!!!

Thank you lalou! How are you? Any signs of AF?
You’re right.. it’s different for them and we have to accept it!
I don’t give up because I have no other choice.. I tried to give up. I wish it wasn’t in my mind 24/7, I wish I could just roll with my life and enjoy my every day as it is but I cannot. I see it all around me. Babies, pregnant women, happy families and my heart aches... I want to be a mother and I know I’ll be a good one.. I wish I didn’t want at this point, really!
Today I’m 6dpo. Temps are up and stable. Boobs hurting as normal and I have a small skin break out. Everything is normal for me. Nothing off here.. I know it’s still early but who am I kidding right?