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Lalou I’m not sure that he doesn’t want us to have a baby and that’s why it’s so confusing to me. My hubbys parents are always so helpful and supportive on everything and they always been so sweet to me even though we cannot communicate through language. Ok his father is always a bit more strict than his mother but this is just who he is. I cannot understand why he wouldn’t help..l and it’s not that I’m 20 years old so he maybe holding back just to be sure you know? My family is very supportive but there’s nothing really they can do to help like hubbys father who’s indeed a doctor and more importantly a gynecologist.. I really don’t know..
You can complain about your uncomfortable days whenever you want mama! You’re a part of our TTC family too and we’re all here to support you even during pregnancy.

Dragonfly I hope you both will have an amazing anniversary and hubby is gonna be feeling better! Go catch that egg!

E I’m here having everything crossed for you that this last digi is gonna clearly saying PREGNANT!!!

Luana Hopefully your cramps are pregnancy related and Af will stay away! Remember you’re not out until af arrives!

Mill I know girl, I know!! It is so freakin frustrating and it’s not really their fault. I can feel your pain and I don’t have much to say than don’t lose hope! Remember.. You got pregnant on your own when you were least expecting it! You never know when your new little one is gonna get cozy in there! I’m so very sure that your body is more than capable to get pregnant again and I’m 100% positive that your turn is coming soon! Take a break from social media and try to avoid watching posts or stories from people with families! Take care of yourself and don’t let this bring you down. This is your story and future you will want to remember those days as something so precious and not as something which will bring you sadness! I’m rooting for you girl! You got this!!

AFM I’m on fertile days and probably will ovulate either today or tomorrow. I’m not using opks anymore so I’m calculating it only by CM, O pains and temps..
Yesterday I saw a favorite YouTuber who is also struggling with fertility for the past 7 or so years. She made her first video about her journey and there are more episodes to come. Even though it is so very sad to see that there are women who are going through this, it feels like you’re not alone.. her video made me feel normal and not a freak that I cannot have kids by my own as it is something so natural! Her name is Desi Perkins for anyone who’s interested to watch and she has two channels on YouTube. One is make up related and the other one is hers and her hubby’s channel called “the Perkins”. This is where the video is if you wanna watch.

Hi ladies, it’s been a while since I’ve posted but I do drop in to read from time to time.

Lalou, I hope this pregnancy goes smoothly for you.

Alex, I wish I could give you a big hug. You have been trying for so many years and you long for a child of your own. I think it’s time for your husband to support you in this and explore all the options available to you before it is too late. I am not religious, I don’t believe in god answering prayers. I do believe in natural selection and for a long time I was waiting to fall pregnant without medical intervention. It didn’t sit right with me because I thought if a couple can’t have children that is nature’s way of dealing with the world’s overpopulation crisis. Eventually my desire to have a family of my own led me to seek advice from a fertility specialist and start the path to ivf. If I had cancer I would have chemotherapy, radiation, surgery to survive, so why not try ivf to have a baby? As it turns out, we did end up falling pregnant without ivf treatment and I’m writing this now at just over 38 weeks pregnant and two days before my 40th birthday.

Long story short, have the laparoscopy to clear your blocked tube, do whatever fertility treatments you need to do, leave no stone unturned and have no future regrets.

Hi everyone! I haven't been on here much since my Dec. 2018 baby was due... @Dragonfly I remember you from that board!! Hi!! I've read up on the last 2 weeks of posts here. Nice to meet everyone!

AFM, hubby is 34, I'm 32. We have 2 kids. My youngest is 17 months. Since last October, we haven't been trying necessarily but haven't been preventing either. Then in January, we had an early loss and I realized I really do want to work on another baby. My cycle following the Mc in Jan resulted in nothing. Feb - nothing. March we took off bc of all this craziness. But this month we did awesome with our timing. I'm hopeful this did it! My 17m old is also a rainbow and was conceived the 4th cycle after our loss and that's where we are now. I'm CD16 and should ovulate today, hopefully. Big temp drop this morning so I know it hasn't happened just yet. Both of my losses occurred when I didn't take my progesterone cream so I'm really going to be on top of it this time!

Good luck to everyone having to start over again and everyone nearing O or testing!! We're all in this together!

@E. Praying this is it for you. Stay high temps. I would save the last test until your periood is really late.

@Alex. Thank you. I hope things go well as they aren't opening restaurants until May 11. Our COVID-19 stats in our city is really low. North got hit hard.

@SheRiskers. I remember you too. Sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. I'm still using the progesterone cream as well and just ordered two more and that should arrive hopefull before I ovulate. I still have one full tube from the last time. Hope this will be your rainbow baby. Good luck.

Russian so happy that your pregnancy is running smoothly! You’re almost there
Thank you for being so supportive and hopefully I will get my baby one way or another.
I don’t really like to compare my infertility with such an ugly thing like cancer. I lost my dad 3 years ago from it and I’m very sensitive in this subject. It changed everything for me and I cannot even watch movies that pretend to have it. Cancer can definitely actually kill you.. take your life..infertility won’t. It might be draining inside and depressing but it won’t take anyone’s life. But I get what you mean. Science is here to make our life’s easier and keep us from heartaches sometimes. I just cannot find my self to agree doing IVF for many many reasons other that I believe some things are meant to happen naturally. I though about trying IUI but hubby really doesn’t want to and now that I reconsider, I don’t really want to either. I guess we’ll have to keep trying every other option.
I will talk again with my doctor about the laparoscopic procedure to unblock my tubes but everyone I talked to, said it’s not really necessary. I also have in plan to try serrapeptase. It has so many good reviews for unblocking the tubes. I have nothing to lose anyways!
I wish you a safe and smooth delivery and I will be very glad to see you around soon!! Thank you for not forgetting us!!

Riskers Hi and welcome back! I’m so sorry for your loss and I really hope from the bottom of my heart that you will get your rainbow baby this cycle! Good luck hun

Dragonfly Here in Greece things with Covid-19 are so good. We’ve been in a lockdown for two months and the cases are thankfully so minimum. They’re slowly open things from Monday but unfortunately my dance studio is not allowed to open till middle June. I’m not really sure I will be able to afford all the expenses that are running till then since the government aren’t really helping with it.. It is a very difficult time for us and like my infertility journey now this is something I have no control of and it’s so hard. I’m hoping for a miracle in both cases!

I bought more tests yesterday and took one straight after shopping..... BFP on frer! Later took the digi, BFP! We're so freaking excited. Having bloodwork done today after we drop in and tell my in laws, and I made a funny tiktok to tell my family. All the prayers please that this is a sticky healthy bean, and that my having painting furniture during the tww hasn't hurt it!

Hi all, back for another round. If I tracked that high cervix and EWCM right, I should've ovulated either Sunday or Monday which should put me about 2-3dpo. Crossing my fingers I get lucky this month. I want a BFP for mother's day!

@E. Yay. Congrats. That is exciting. So happy for you guys.

Alex, I didn’t mean to be insensitive regarding cancer, I lost my dad five years ago to pancreatic cancer which was incredibly difficult and life changing for my whole family. I wish every day that he was still here, and especially now so that he could meet his first grandchild. I hope the baby helps to heal the hole in my heart. It was a poor analogy for something else that also happens naturally, yet we use every available medical option to resolve.

I read your posts full of optimism, hope, frustration, disappointment, sadness all the while being so supportive of everyone else. I hope your desire for a baby is realised one day, you may just need a little nudge from science to get there.

@Alex. I agree with Russian. If you and your husband can afford one; just one IUI then by all means go for it. It's still going to be your husband's sperm and your egg and who knows, you may end up with more than one. You don't know what will happen. If I wasn't on the fence about progesterone cream. I could of had my baby on either near my husbands or my birthday. But I wouldn't change a thing about my son as he was born on my brother's birthday. God works in mysterious ways.

Try this out (anyone reading this), from 6-9dpo (implantation time); any noise you hear, speak to it. I say this as you don't know what's actually going on inside; if you or you guys are in there; you latch on and you latch on strong. You are strong and can fight this (based on how long sperm lives in the body); and then speak life into it (loved, wanted and cared for). Sorry for rambling but this is my experience. I had a pregnancy scare back in early October and again, a one time chance BDing and I didn't start the progesterone cream until two cycles ago. I was two days late, and cervix was closed. I freaked out in fear saying, please God no as I was still on the fence of having another baby. The next day AF came. I even bought FRERs to take the next day but didn't get to use it until my last cycle.

AFM, after my long story lol. My hubby is a little overwhelmed with everything that needs to get down and now I am unsure of what route to go; wait till things are close to being done (new house/Will) or proceed with #3 and hope to get the other things done at the same time. The longer you wait (age) the complications (down syndrome, etc.) are higher or have a healthy baby. The uncertainly is the unknown. I will be 36 this September and my max is three kids and that's it; unless I have twins lol. Night all and stay safe.