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I am 8 DPO today and going a little mad reading up on early symptoms and implantations facts and what have you. I had some cramps in my left ovary on 6DPO and some stabbing feeling more in my uterus direction yesterday, so now of course I'm convinced that the first one was the corpus luteum giving me an extra shot of progesterone pre-implantation, and that yesterdays stabbings were implantation pains. I know, I know, it's most likely just in my head, but oh MAN, how it's taken up space in my head! I've been at work for 4 hours so far today, and 3,5 of them were spent on googling and surfing the pregnancy fora ... Roll on test day!

@snowwhite I do not think it is a question of attraction, ttc is stressfull for everyone not just the woman. He may feel pressured to "come" instead of doing it for pleasure. In my case I actually added some porn to foreplay that put both our minds off the pressure and we just went crazy wild.
Please stop beating yourself up about this, this is a hectic period. Mý OH once said he is pressured and he wish I knew that keeping it up is harder than staying wet especially around fertile week.

oldbiddie -- I'm TOTALLY with you right now! I'm making myself crazy. Had some serious ovary pains on Saturday (4DPO), and although I know in my mind that it's too early for implantation, I can't stop obsessing. My husband isn't helping either. He keeps asking, "why don't you just go take a test?" IT'S TOO EARLY FOR THAT! AAAAHHHHH!!!! :D

Happy Monday Ladies, I hope everyone is doing well. Hubby and I had a great weekend, lots of BD'ing. LOL!! I guess we kinda screwed up our every other day plan, but if he wants it I will take it. LOL!!! :)

RPope84[b/]: Don't worry too much about O'ing late, remember your period is not based on an "average" it is determined by your LP length. If you O late your period will come late. Last month your LP was 11 days. So lets say that is about average for you, so i wouldn't expect AF to show up until Monday 7/28 or Tuesday 7/29. But hopefully she will stay away. A cruise sounds very nice, hopefully you and hubby will have a great time. Happy early anniversary. :)

[b]snowwhite: DH and I had a similar issue last month. I was putting way to much stress on TTC, I posted a JE asking for help from other CTP members, and they really helped. I just brought it back to the basics. I know my hubby always told me that it turned him off a little when I came onto him, but I knew that if I left it up to him we would never BD. :) So you really have to get creative. I know another member suggested the adult videos, we use those too everyonce an awhile. It spices things up a little. Try wearing something skimpy when going to bed, or use a perfume that he likes. You honestly have to take it back to the basics. I try to remind myself that what got him into the bed to begin with will keep him there. LOL!! Yeah I know those big sweatpants and old T-Shirt is comfy to wear around the house, but every now and then you have to remind your husband/bf what he's got. Another member told be to keep my TTC to myself. Yes I want to share the experience of TTC with my husband but honestly it puts a lot of pressure on them, which takes the fun out of the entire experience. I have to remind myself that yes I want a baby, but I don't want to sacrifice my marriage and sex life to have one. You know that you are an attractive women, and your man thinks so too, you are just going through a rough spot right here. You have to feel attractive to be attractive. Keep your head up hunni.

BTW sorry about the bolding, not sure how that happened, I tend not to be the computer savy type.

@ snowwhite - My DH and I had a similar issue earlier this year. It got so bad that I felt like he was cheating on me. I wasn't sure we were going to make it through the first year of marriage. But it took a lot of communication and explaining how I felt and how his actions were coming across. I felt very unattractive and he wasn't doing anything to help that. I felt like the roles were reversed (and I still do sometimes) I was the one begging for sex (even before we were TTC) and he was always coming up with excuses. The stress of it was really getting to me. So I decided fine if he is going to be like that then I am going to focus on myself for a little while. I'm going to do things that make me happy. One thing I wanted to work on was losing weight so I did it. I signed up for my fitness pal and started feeling great. If I wanted to go to a store or go do something then I did it. He could come along if he wanted but I wasn't going to beg him to. Within a few weeks he noticed. He noticed I was losing weight, he noticed that I wasn't around all the time and he started to miss me. And he even jumped on the weight loss wagon with me (which made everything a whole lot easier). Now the only time an excuses are given for not having sex is being sick or super exhausted/sore from some other activity. It has made our relationship a lot better. And I know for sure that not only is our relationship ok but that we are on the same page with the TTC as well.

Hopefully you can have a conversation (or multiple) with him about it and you all can work through it. But I agree with some of the other ladies. It may be best to wait on TTC until your relationship is more solid. My step son is a product of a rocky relationship where they tried to stick it out because of him and it made it even uglier. Even as an outsider it is rough to deal with the drama. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.

Today I'm 7 dpo and I don't really have any symptoms. I've felt some twings/pain from the area of my right ovary but nothing super noteworthy. Still trying to wait it all out. I have 7-8 days before I would normally get AF so we will see what happens this week. I know I O'd last monday so I'm just hoping that that there was a lucky sperm that made it to the egg!

Thanks Randall0123. I'm so glad to hear that y'all had such a fun weekend. I wish my DH wanted to BD more often but like you, I'll take it when I can get it. Lol. Today I am 4 dpo and my temp dipped below the cover line. It took a huge nose dive this morning and nothing changed in my sleep pattern... I've been having mild cramping for the past two days, so now I'm expecting AF to show on time this Wednesday or Thursday. We'll see.

So sorry to hear that you had a rough weekend snowwhite. I totally understand. My DH and I had the same issue when we first started TTC because he felt so much pressure. It's just something we had to talk about and get our feeling about it out on the table before we could get on the same page and relax and enjoy it. I hope y'all can get it figured out soon.

Ababy2love, thanks for looking that up for me. I really appreciate the help. After my temp drop this morning, all I can do is wait to see what happens.

Hope everyone is doing well this morning and had a good weekend.

ummm I think I just got my bfp!!!!! ahhh I'm so ecstatic right now! I'm 11 dpo and havent felt any symptoms except sore boobies that started yesterday. check out my picture i posted! After a year and 1 month of trying our prayers came true Now just gotta keep my fingers crossed it sticks!!

OMG Rose!! I see a positive!! Congrats!

Congrats Rose! Hope I'm with you in a few days!!!!