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Thinking of you (and everyone else) today, SSURRA.

As suspected - negative.

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I'm so sorry.

Please let us know when you decide on your next move.

ssurra - I am so sorry!! *big hugs* Like Mrs. Fridley said, please keep us posted on what your next move is!

Ugh! Double damn! I was so hoping you would get lucky...unlike me. This news just makes me super mad!

MNOR: I was just reading an article about cinnamon and it was discussing how it might help with PCOS???

Google it?

You know, I've asked my doctors a million times if I could change anything in my diet, DO anything at all, and they always say no. Sure, it can't hurt, but there's no reason at all to do anything other than they prescribe. It's so frustrating.

We met with my doc yesterday who confessed she did IVF 3 times before she got pregnant. I appreciate this because she truly knows what I'm going through, and she said she also believes this can happen for us.

So ... another round of IVF it is. Strangely (and luckily) enough, we still have ample allowance in our insurance to continue the torture, so on it goes.

The one thing we're going to do differently is the endometrial scratch, so I'll essentially be taking one month off before becoming a human pincushion once again.

Mrs. Fridley - I can't stand the sight, taste or smell of cinnamon! LOL So even if it was proven to help that would be a definite no go.

Ssurra - Glad to hear you still have ample insurance coverage to keep pursuing IVF!

I was pretty much told the same thing about diet, exercise, vitamins, blah blah blah. I didn't believe my RE who said I was fine even though I didn't feel healthy. For this last cycle I went on a strict diet, lost 15 lbs, walked daily and took extra vitamins and apparently it didn't help so I believe that it won't have much effect now.

We also did the endometrial scratch thing basically last cycle. The hysterscopy with polyp/scar tissue removal surgery that I did is about the same thing. They are making a small incision/cut in the uterine lining hoping that will make a "target" spot for the embryo to implant.

As for me, the DH and I have done a lot of talking lately about where we go from here since we are getting down to our last 2 transfers out of the 6 we paid for. We have done a lot of research and decided to talk to our RE at our follow up in a little over a week about testing for elevated NK cells, ATA's, and APA's. These are all immunological issues which I truly believe is our issue at this point. I think my body is over-reacting to the embryo as a "foreign" object because it's half paternal dna and my body is attacking it before I can get a good implantation. I think this is what is causing the early failed implantations, chemicals and early miscarriages. I am by no means a doctor but out of all the research this is the explanation that sounds the most plausible to me.

We are going to do 1 more FET, hopefully with treatment for NK cells. If we get to our last retrieval cycle we want to bring in a surrogate. I have to talk to my RE about this and see if they will allow me to do the retrieval and just put in the embryos in someone else with the money we have already paid. We have already paid for 6 transfers so I don't think it should matter who it's transferred to, but you never know.

Also, we talked about starting the foster to adopt process. This is going to be our back-up. We don't want to go through 2 more rounds of ivf, then the orientation and homestudy process and then wait for a child to be placed. We have contacted our local social services and are waiting for a date for orientation. We are trying to simultaneously complete the orientation, required classes and homestudy process while we are doing our last 2 ivf rounds so that if those both fail we will already be approved for the foster to adopt program and will just have to wait for a placement.

Ssurra - That is SO great that your insurance covers it!!! That is a rarity. I also love FS doctors who have been through it themselves. That is how our FS doctor is and I think he absolutely has another level of sensitivity towards our situation.

MMOR - It sounds like you have a great plan mapped out!! Have you looked into what it would cost to do a surrogate? I'm assuming so. It is so crazy how much they charge for it but is so worth the money if you have it! Adoption is always a great option too...just make sure especially if you go through the state that you are advocating for yourself to get the WHOLE history/background of the child you are getting. I have a bit of experience with that that I won't get into from my immediate family. But just be cautious. It's a wonderful and beautiful thing if done right.

I'm really happy for you that you have a plan in place and seem to feel good about it! I know that is always a big relief just to have a plan.

I wanted to share with you all that a couple weeks ago on May 2nd I found out that I was pregnant....naturally. This was only two weeks AFTER our fertility specialist told us that we virtually had no chance of conceiving on our own. He said miracles can happen but there is a very slim chance...like 1 - 3%....meanwhile we were already pregnant apparently. It is truly amazing and my husband and I are still very much in shock. I'm having a hard time getting excited about it because I feel like it is too good to be true...it doesnt even seem real. I am continually trying to trust in the Lord with this one because I feel completely out of control...because I am. We were planning on IVF in November and now we are expecting to have a baby in our arms early January....I just don't understand. I am SO grateful and excited but there is a definite caution there. :) I wanted to wait a little while to say anything because I know it's hard going through failed cycles and I wanted to be sensitive to that. Hope you understand! :) Eeek!!

gracealone -- Congratulations, and thank you for your sensitivity, but it's not needed - at least not here.

What made me laugh though -- and I only mention it in the privacy of this anonymous group -- there's no way I could get pregnant naturally at this point because my husband and I hardly have sex anymore! Everything is so programmed with all this crap, and then my docs don't allow it post-transfer -- the last time we did, we joked if we remembered how and if we should go get the NP and have her stand in the room with us -- LOL.

Congratulations, best wishes on a healthy pregnancy and baby.