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Went to visit my new great-niece in the hospital. Such a sweet little face. I wanted to hold her, but I was afraid because I had my kids with me & I didn't want to share any more germs than necessary. I didn't think until I left that I should have asked for a gown & sanitized my hands so I could hold her. I lovebabies!!

Moral dilemma - I'm pretty sure my niece is on this site. She doesn't know I am ttc & I'm not supposed to know she is ttc, but a family member "mentioned" it. Should I hint around that I know her & see if she is responsive or just let it go? I thought it might be a bonding experience & let her know she isn't alone.

Good question...I dont know. On one hand it could bond the two of you or do the opposite. Hmm...are the two of you close to begin with?

Yes, and no. There's a significant age difference, and she's just now fully coming into her own. I will wait a while until I think it's better timing. In the meantime I will post comments on her tests & be supportive. Maybe once she's preg I will say something to her that incorporates my screen name so she'll realize it was me all along. She lost her mother about 4 years ago unexpectedly, and I hate to think of her going through ttc without anyone to lean on.

Good Morning Ladies!

Phat- Are you positive it is her? I dont see what conflict it could cause unless she shouldnt be ttc, as in to young or you know she wont be able to take care of a baby, but it doesnt sound that way, I think if you were to write her a message telling her your here for her and you know her pain she may need someone to talk to about it and it may benefit the both of you. I think if you were to wait till she gets pregnant she may feel bad and kind of steer away from being around you just to not hurt your feelings.. I only see 2 reasons not to say anything to her and that would be if you didnt trust her to keep yours a secret as well or if you felt she shouldnt be ttc. Good Luck hun!

So, first day back at work been here 45 minutes and i am already exhausted! It feels really weird not ttc this cycle, DH is a little taken back to be honest, i turned him down last night after sleeping ALL day no kidding Took my daughter to school at 9:30 came home and slept until 6pm, (i needed it) and i tried using the excuse "im to tired" he got a bit angry with me rolled over and was asleep in 2 minutes. I guess i will have to talk to him tonight.

Tara- How are you feeling? What did DH say? I do not know what it is that makes them question it, just put it under positive! They will get the same comments as if it was unsure and everyone knew it was positive.
I agree with you jlgulley im sure its the same for me I just want one of my own! Dont get me wrong i am happy for them and will congratulate them but with pictures like the one i put on her forum its like really! lol

Good morning new friends! Well I did a major no no and tested yesterday afterwork on 9 DPO and guess what a bfn. Grrhh.. Why do I continue to do that to myself. I need to stop testing and just wait for the month and which I FINALLY miss my period. I need some self control cause those bfn every month are starting to wear on me and freak me out! I keep thinking I am broken now after my DNC in January, which I had to have cause my body and heart just couldn't seem to let go of the no longer growing baby inside me!

Shay - my dilemma is that I would love to have someone close to me know I am ttc, and I want to be able to be there for her, but I'm afraid I will scare her off the site if she doesn't want me knowing her business. I don't want to ruin this as a resource & outlet for her if she thinks she's being "watched".

phatgurl - dont say anything about this site just drop hints other ways i agree with others that it will be good to both of u . i only have you lot to talk to

jlgulley - have u been check out by doc since the DNC ? might be worth talking to doc about it

as for me last night i had one of them dreams that feel soo real and they hurt your feelings as if they are real . i woke up quite upset today over a dream that was stupid i dreamt that my brother in law and his soon to be wi fe had a baby before us as i was upset that she didnt tell anyone till he had given birth and that they had a baby 1st when i wanted to have the 1st grandcild on both sides . i was veryannoyed with my self at how selfish i was and i really did hurt my feelings . but in the dream the baby was soo cute and all i could think of was how much i wanted that 5 days till or not

Phat- Say something to her in person or over facebook, Slowly hint at it by saying, Hey how are you doing? create a convo and ask her if she is planning on having any kids anytime soon and tell her your ttc and if she comes back with Yes we are ttc too then just refer her to this site (even though she already knows about it) Just ease into letting her know shes on here. Is she married if so when did she get married? That may help create the convo as in "How are you liking being married, Are you guys planning on kids soon"

Lammy- I HATE those type of dreams! I feel like they set my day up for failure because i let them get to me so much, OH i had i a horrible dream last night, You know that feeling you get when you "fall" in a dream and it jolts you awake? Well my dream was I was at work and that jolt awake feeling i got because in my dream I had just got AF i was like WTHECK! It was weird thats for sure! Keeping my fingers crossed for you hun! STAY AWAY AF!

Shay - she's been married a couple of years & her hubby is quite a bit older, like 15 years & has 3 kids already that are teens - I think initially she was OK with no kids, but if my familial source is accurate they mentioned having a reversal of his vasectomy done because she wants to ttc. I've asked her b4 if they ever thought of doing a reversal & she told me no, so I'm concerned she might put 2 + 2 together about the person who mentioned it. I thought it was her b4 I was told that & now I'm a little more certain. The screen name combines her first initial, maiden last name & age. Could be coincidental, but I'm pretty sure it's not. I'm also not really ready to disclose I'm ttc. Where I live is a very small town, so one slip of the tongue could make my day to day life uncomfortable with lots of busybodies.

I hope your hubby understands about taking a month off while you recover.

La my - thanks for the perspective. Good luck with your BFP.