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Hi everyone! Sorry for being MIA! I want to say a BIG thank you to all of you for the positive thoughts in regards to my spotting. I have not had any more since then. My OB/GYN said she noticed more blood flow to my cervix but nothing to worry about. :)

I got to see Baby on Wednesday and while I didn't hear the heartbeat, they did measure it at 146 beats per minute so I'm very happy about that! They measured baby at 7 weeks 3 days so they are keeping the original due date 12/25. Next appointment is at 13 weeks.

I finally told my best friend and she is overjoyed for me and is already helping me plan my family photo shoot to surprise the kiddos. I chose June 12 to tell my folks since I'll be exactly 12 weeks. Right after we tell the kids, My plan is to use the family photos and a letter to drop at my parents house. ( My kids are so close to my folks and I don't want them to have to stay mum about it for too long. It's not fair to them but just goes to show how nervous I am. ) I just can't tell them in person. I got anxiety bad enough telling my employer & my best friend! Ive replayed over and over how I want to write my letter and may preview it here to see what you all think and revise if needed. Kelliria, I'm so glad you mentioned how we are grown women who still worry how mom will react. I feel better knowing I'm not alone!

As for symptoms, I am having a hard time trying to drink enough water. Warning TMI: My urine still stinks so strongly at times. So far the tests at the dr came out normal but she did say drink more. I don't know why but drinking is actually off putting to me lately. I feel so short-winded just drinking as much as I can. It's just weird. Never experienced that in my other pregnancies. Any helpful tips would be nice and welcomed!

Hope you all have a wonderful week and a Happy Mother's Day tomorrow to those who celebrate it!

@midnightrose3. Happy Mother's Day to you as well. I'm so glad the spotting stopped and that you were able to see the baby. With regards to water you could try those mia juice you just squirt in the water. As long as it doesn't have aspertane. I made the mistake of buying two boxes of single serve packets of Cryatal Lite as I too get tired of drinking normal water.

Dragonfly23 thank you, it feels very good to have it all out in the open :) feeling very happy at the moment, and bought a few neutral sleep suits for baby with the kids yesterday so they are feeling involved. My daughter keeps writing very cute letters to baby too.

Midnightrose3 I'm glad the spotting stopped and you see all was well with baby, you must feel so reassured. Maybe try carrying a small bottle of water around with you at all times and just keep sipping on it? I do that, but I find I am thirsty all of the time too.

And happy mothers days to everyone, we celebrate it here in March and was the day I got my bfp xxx

Good morning ladies. Hope everyone had a good weekend. In a few minutes is my doctors appointment so I am sure everything will go okay. Hope to hear the heartbeat on the doppler again. Been feeling more pushes so I know things are going smoothly but still have some worries at the back of my mind that just don't seem to go away even after hearing the heartbeat last Monday.

Hope your appointment goes well. I think the worry never goes away for us mum's, the worry in pregnancy never goes away, so I think you're feeling normal, I'm all ready started to worry a little about my anomaly ultrasound, that isn't until the beginning of July. Hope they listen in for baby again. Good luck :)

@Lakarmw. You are so right about the never worrying as it never ends. I am still worried my 2 year old daughter will kick me or do something that will hurt the baby At the last minute of the appointment I asked him if I can hear it and he said sure, hop on the table while I get the doppler and get the belly ready. Measuing on schedule with a heartbeat of 161. Still praying for a boy and I only have to wait two more weeks (May 28). My other lab tests came back normal for Spinal Bifida and I am sure the baby doesn't have down syndrome so that is a bonus. I really hope your appointment in July comes fast for you. How far along are you and have you got to hear the heartbeat?

@midnightrose (and anyone else who experienced this), I'm 6w,6d today and for the past week I've had blood or brown tinged CM when I wipe. I wouldn't even call it spotting, but it comes with almost constant cramping and heaviness. I kept a journal last pregnancy and I didn't have any of this till much further along. On the flip side, I have no headaches, no nausea, and although I have a bloodhound nose, no smells are offensive to me. I was D-Driver/babysitter for my sister's bachelorette party on Saturday and actually cleaned up someone's vomit and it didn't bother me at all. It's downright weird compared to my last - when even brushing my teeth at 6 wks would make me throw up. *Sorry so graphic, ladies.

Anyway, I know a certain amount of low grade cramping is normal, but the brown discharge is making me nervous. I have my first U/S scan on Wed and it can't come soon enough. I need to know baby is viable.

Question - has anyone refused a pelvic? I have such an irritable cervix that sustained a bit of damage my last birth (which I think is probably influencing the spotting), so I'm refusing the pap smear and the STI swabs. I'm not due for them, had them last year and I'm in a married committed relationship. I don't mind her looking at my cervix (although still don't feel I need a pelvic) but I don't want her touching it. I'm hoping the RN I'm dealing with will respect that choice and not come down hard on me. I hate bursting into tears at the drs office when I feel like I'm getting bullied.

@calvingirl I refused my pap smear! She said no problem, let's do it at your 6 week postpartum appt. She totally got why I didn't want anyone scratching around in there. I've read it's not good to have a pap when you're pregnant and was happy she understood.

Well, we're still down in FL and just told my in laws and sister in law and her husband the news yesterday. There was no "I knew it!" I'm shocked!! Lol just a couple happy tears and they've been chill ever since. I'm so glad! I still have a bunch of people to tell but definitely won't any time soon.

Drangonfly23 I'm now 13 weeks :) and yes I've heard baby, I have my own doppler too so I can listen to baby when I please as I can now find baby really easily :) it's so so reassuring. They won't listen to baby at the midwives until my 16week appointment. I heard baby today and was 153bpm. They do the anomaly ultrasound here at 20 weeks, and that's when we can find out the sex if we want, but I don't think we will :)

Calvingirl, I can see why would be worried about the cramping and spotting, I'm sure it'll be nothing too worrying, when I had my spotting they told me I only needed to go back if I was bleeding heavily or in a lot of pain, so hopefully it's nothing. Good luck for Wednesday, I will keep my fingers crossed for you :)

Where I live unless there is cause for concern they refuse to do any kind of internal examination until 40 weeks for a sweep, as they think at times it can cause the cervix to become irritated. I'm due a smear in October and I know they'll refuse to do it until at least 3 months after birth. So yes you are well within your rights to refuse xxx

@Lakrmw. I thought about getting a doppler but I think I will become obsessed with it and want to check it every minute or be the opposite and freak me out if I can't find it and throw me into a anxiety attack. My husband and I want to find out as I have been waiting so patiently and it makes it easier to plan things and sort things out; like do I need to buy bunk beds if it's a girl or stuff like that.