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No good news for me :( Still NO AF and STILL BFFNS! Going tomorrow to check for ectopic.

Shay - good luck!

Tara - she only has to pay taxes in 2 situations: 1) you want to count the income on your taxes; 2) she wants to write off what she's paying you on hers. Otherwise, my feeling is what the government doesn't know won't hurt them in my opinion. Here's the thing - if she thinks she's going to get a huge tax deduction for paying daycare, she won't. It's a percentage of what you pay in & only applies to offset the taxes you already pay. So, if you only end up owing $200 in Federal taxes, the most you would get to write off in any situation is $200. If she's like a lot of people who end up getting back everything they've paid into Federal, she won't get any tax credit. Even though she's your sister, I would have to say, "This is supposed to be mutually beneficial for us, not just you. If you don't want to pay me a decent wage, put your child in daycare. I would prefer to watch him because I know I will provide better care, but you are NOT going to take advantage of me.". Then ask her how much money she's going to have to pay down her home loan while paying full daycare tuition and how long she thinks her employer will keep her on staff when she has to be out with a sick child. Day cares will not let you bring a child who has fever or is sick in another way. I lost several jobs due to my children's illnesses, and it's not illegal for them to fire you if the illnesses are not covered by FMLA which most childhood illnesses are not. What a jackass! The only major drawback to you not claiming the money you get paid on your taxes is that you cannot use it as proof of income if you need to get another loan. See if you can find some middle ground on your rate if you can both agree on not including it on your taxes. When you consider that you don't have to drive anywhere every day & you don't have to pay income tax maybe you can take a little less than $5/hr IF AND ONLY IF she agrees not to report the income. You are not required to claim income under a certain & amount. It changes year to year, so check out filing requirements on IRS.gov if you're worried about doing something illegal or it makes you feel dishonest. Also, I would not be very surprised if the nanny tax wasn't designed specifically for people who come into your home to watch your children or who live with you, not for caregivers outside of your home.

Shay - GL!

Tara- I TOTALLY agree with Phat! You cannot allow her to take advantage of you- family or not!

Shay: GL! Saying prayers sweet girl!

Good news... Hmm, let's see... Umm it is Friday eve! :-/

@Tara I also agree with Phat. Not to mention the fact that your waking up early AND driving to her. And if she's trying to jip you out of $4 an hour then she's going to need to pay your travel cost. If I were you I would encourage her to take her son to a babysitter that isn't family and let her see what she's going to have to pay then. But it really comes down to not letting people take advantage of you. And Phat couldn't have said it better when she said "It has to be mutually beneficial to you BOTH" And to me it sort of feels like she might be using your "baby blues" against you. she knows you want a baby and I know you like being around your nephew but family is quick to use you sometimes. Don't accept it girl! And please let us know what the outcomes is!

Quick update. AF is late again. 2 days now. But I'm not anxious about it at all or even really thinking about it. DH and I finally decided that we are going to move to Colorado. So we're looking for real estate agents out there to start the search. Just opened our joint savings and he is FINALLY going to start getting unemployment again. We're also filing a Labor Commisions claim against his last company since they still have not told him if he is fired or not "officially" but they won't respond. So now we're going to go after them for those 3 hours a day they were not recording that he was in the office. Pretty much not paying him for a min of 18-20 hours a week he was going unpaid. We also have a meeting with our lawyer today to review some small claims docs that our lawyer is going to file against this lady that hit us while on her phone running a red light back in 2010. Praying we get some money out of that as well. I'm SUPER amped! I feel like I have direction and purpose in our life again!

Well, sort of good news here
Af showed.. :( but at the same time this means i will not be ovulating around Coopers Birthday.

so ladies i think im out this month as u need to to make a baby im not saying we havent at all but DH has been working long late hours and is too tired all his does is work eat sleep work

things are hard work wise atm as his being made redundant in nov and they are giving everyone the bad hours trying to make them leave on there own so they dont have to pay out
but we are strong and we can get through anything we have in the past and we will in the future

My sister asked if I was mad at her this morning so I emailed her back and told her I had my feelings hurt and that I felt disrespected. But I wrote it really sweet and told her that I understand that she wants to save money so i was afraid to tell her that minimum wage 7.25 which 2.25 more than I asked for. I knew she'd freak so I told her to think about it and if she wanted to hire someone cheaper I understood. That was all. Minutes later I got a text from my brother in law telling me how frustrated he was with me for upsetting my sister with the email and that I'm mean. I've been crying really hard for the past half hour. My face is red and puffy and my skin is dried out from the tears. I told him it wasnt meant to be mean and that I cried while writing it. He told me I should have told her in person. Based on past experience I knew my sister would freak about the $7.25 and didnt feel like dealing with it again...that's why I sent the email. It doesnt matter how crappy I'm treated, my family always makes me out to be the bad one. I thought I was imagining it til Dh came into my life. He's shocked how I'm always made out to be the bad guy when I'm the one with my feelings hurt. I guarantee that i'll be the one to have to apologize to smooth things over. So glad I'm going out of town for a few days. Going to TN, maybe reminents of issac will flood the reunion and I'll be carried away. Please everyone say a prayer for my sanity and that everything works out. I'm exhausted and just want to curl up in the fetal position and hide.

Tara- That was wrong of your brother in law to even get in the middle of it, They should of considered the idea of child care before they had children it is not cheap and they can not take it out on you that there are laws! Now im mad at them! I know the feeling of always being the "bad" one, I suffer from being the middle child, older sister is best friends with mom and little bro buddy buddy with dad which leaves me to highlight the screw ups mind you I am the only child with a college education & not living off of them. I really dont get it sometimes but seriously you are doing nothing wrong not even a little bit but your hormones are also going mad seeing as this is your first period in a while hang in there babe and please do not apologize for you are not doing anything wrong and maybe this will teach her to be more appreciative of you and show them you can not be walked all over!

She even admitted to me that they didnt even think about childcare cause they automatically thought my mom would watch him cause she said she'd babysit him (everyonce in a while!)
I'm the baby of the family, but apparently an abandoned one. lol. My oldest sister is the 'black sheep' and we get along great lol but I was forced to grow up fast when she ran away as a teen and got pregnant. My parents focus switched on her for most of my childhood. My middle sister (the one we've been talking about) got most of the attention cause she was the most 'fragile'. It's like walking on eggshells around her, as you can tell. I'm just always the bad guy. My bday was in June when i first started the forum and i told my mom I was surprised my parents remembered my bday with my sister getting ready to pop. Instead of them loving on me and telling me they love me and could never forget....I GOT YELLED AT 2 SECONDS BEFORE I BLEW OUT MY CANDLES! I was made to be the bad guy somehow and was dripping tears all over my bday cake.