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Well today went from bad to worse. The nurse just called to tell me My Dr won't prescribe me any more clomid or anything and will only give me a referral to an RE at this point. I can't do that for sure until after the 1st of the year to take any vacation time but my hubby isn't sure that's what he wants do due because of the financial concerns not only of the treatment but also the travel cost with gas, hotels and all. This sux!

Kiki -

TTC - I'm sorry that the Doctor doesn't want to prescribe you anything for another month and it really sucks that the RE is so far away for you guys. I hope your DH comes around a little bit so you can at least meet with the RE in the new year. I hope your day gets better.

I know exactly what everyone means my best friend is pregnant 2 months found out at 6 weeks and her dude doesn't even want the baby but she does it so sad being that me and DH have been trying for our rainbow baby since Feb now we have to sit up and deal with this being that we are god parents it's a bitter sweet moment for me

I'm out! Shark week started today! Good luck to everyone else!

well it's official-The witch just showed. This day was horrible. So I guess if she was going to show I'm glad we got it over with today

Kbervin-I'll see u on the other board!

For the rest of you ladies-good luck! I am praying you get ur bfp's! I'm moving over to the August board

@TTClatethirties - ugh. I'm sorry. It can be SO HARD to be around pregnant people. )-: Heres to hoping you will get pregnant on your own without the climid. (-:

~K

Thank you ladies for your sympathies, support and prayers. Sorry I have been MIA. Just giving a quick update... Got my blood work done today and it's official, I did miscarry on Monday. And to make matters worse, we can't do another IUI until I have 2 periods. I did ask what would happen if we had sex and I got pg before then and she said to at least wait until I have 1 period but suggested we use foam and condoms til after the 2 periods. (I so don't think so...even DH is like no way.) We will wait till I have at least one period. I have a follow up blood test for next Thursday (the day before my bday) and a pelvic exam with Dr set for early Dec.

My step kids are here this weekend too...which is really hard for me right now. Even on Tuesday my brothers GF and baby stopped by for a visit at the office...granted I can't blame them for insensitivity because they had no idea the night before I had had a mc or that I was even PG but still it feels like the universe is out to get me or something. And I feel like even though I have cried every night and every time I have had a moment to myself, I feel like I haven't really had a time to wallow. Hopefully Sunday I will get that chance.

Had no idea how heartbreaking this would be... even this early on. I know I should take comfort in the fact that I was able to even get PG and in some ways I do but right now I find it extremely unfair and can't help but feel like it is partially my fault. DH keeps saying he doesn't believe it's my fault but if I had called up as soon as I had seen a BFP then I would have been on Progesterone pills right away then maybe I would have at least had a chance or at least felt I had done everything I could think of to have a sticky bean. But no, I kept hearing my doctors voice in my head saying wait till 16/17 DPO and if no AF then call. Those days landed on Sat/Sun. I should've called sooner. But by the time I had called I had to wait to get in for the blood test and wait until the doctor could review my tests the following Monday when it was obviously too late to make my baby stick.

Please forgive me if I don't say much or end up responding for a bit...I think, since I can't TTC, it is just too painful to be on these forums right now. I will be checking in, but probably not as much as I have in the past.

TTClate30's: Aww, neighbor, I am sorry AF arrived and that you have had such a rough time of it too. Looks like we are in the same boat...meaning having to wait until the first of the year. Which also sucks because that's the start of the calendar year which is the start of the insurance year as well. Which also means IUI won't be fully covered until we meet our deductible. And to top off everything else my hours at work got cut for at least a few months. Not sure if can afford to do the IUI next year...even though DH is determined and said he would pay for it. I don't see how he can afford it either. Guess we will see what happens. Just feeling extremely depressed right now.

Bumpin4Baby and to all you ladies: Thanks again for all your hugs, sympathies and support. You are all very sweet and I know a lot of you have been through this before.

I do have 1 question for you...is it normal to still feel some slight cramping even after you are done spotting? I felt constipated earlier and maybe it's due to that? I just still don't feel well. I just told my step kids toady that I was suffering from PMS.

Well hope you ladies have a good weekend.

Thanks While. I hope so too. I don't have my hopes up though.

Lolo-I am so sorry your baby didn't stick. My MC in July was at 5 weeks and I was completely devastated. And it happened like 30 minutes after someone at work announced their pregnancy. I was destroyed because we had been trying for so long. So it can be devastating no matter how early it is. My doc said there really isn't any reason to wait. She wouldn't give me any clommid because she wanted to wait a cycle for "dating" purposes but no medical reason. So she told us we could try on our own that cycle and we did. But of course because we have the lovely diagnosis of unexplained infertility we didn't get pregnant. I'm so devastated my dr gave up on me. I felt like she just didn't want to deal with me. She didn't even let me make an appt with her. She had the nurse tell me but she said if I wanted to talk to her I could make an spot in late Dec (she usually squeezes me in). That would mean I miss 2 cycles. If this wasn't such a small area I could go to another clinic. But I did make an appt with another dr in the office for early Dec and maybe she will give me something for 1 cycle since I can't see an RE until I accrue some vacation time. I'm 39 so I feel like it's never going to happen. Back to you, rest up, cry when u need to and hang in there. It's so hard to go through a MC and nobody understands it unless they have went through it.

TTClate30's: Thank you for the reassurance that my MC at also 5 weeks is ok to even continue on TTC on our own. I am not going to bother this month and I told DH that. But next month as long as AF seems normal-ish then I don't see why we couldn't try next month on our own. It does annoy me that they won't do the IUI in Dec. That I have to wait till Jan and even then...all they said was to wait till I have 2 periods. I pray that doesn't mean I have to wait til the 3rd period to get the IUI done.

I think another reason why I am so down is because my bday is Friday and I am going to be 38. I was really hoping and praying that I would at least be PG by now. I hate getting older, especially now. And I completely know how you feel when you say it feels like it is never going to happen. So here I get to go through yet another bday and another holiday season of family members asking how the baby making is going and if we are PG yet. I think the only thing that is making me feel even a tad better is that now that I have to wait until Jan...praying that it happens again for us at that time...I can then wait till we are about 4 months along before telling anyone. Because after Christmas the next time we have a big family gathering is Easter. And I want to try and tell both families at around the same time. I am so glad that I only told 2-3 people and not the families. But I also know that now if I get PG I am going to be too scared to share it with anyone until I am almost half way there.

I am so sorry your doctor seems to be giving up on you. Hang in there! Hopefully the other doctor will give you something.

I know exactly how u feel. I miscarried on July 22 (a day I will never forget) and turned 39 on September 3. I was hoping to have a baby by 40. Looks like that's not going to happen. I'm so unsure what's going to happen now. I don't know that seeing an RE is going to be an option with all the traveling. I have older kids who are in school and I can't just pick up and go. My almost 10 year old wants me to have another one so badly. And it was sad over the weekend she asked me when the baby we lost would have been born. TTC is so hard! I hope it happens for us both soon! Take care Neighbor! I'm thinking of u