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@neomasie - so sorry about your sister. It can be very triggering, the sympathy alone. Encourage her to seek outside support too - even early losses can really mess with your head. I'm not a big "therapy" person as I pretty much don't trust anyone, but I've gotten a lot of support from groups on FB. I hope both of you get through this together. Right after my loss (actually the day before I went into labor) my sister found out she was pregnant. She hid it from me for a long time. It was hard watching her successful pregnancy when my arms were empty, but spoiling my nephew brought its own joy and healing - she'll probably get both of those things from you and your baby.

It has been quiet in here, and I noticed that with Oscar's pregnancy - the middle couple of months where nothing much happens - people get quiet. However, I have news today. We had our anatomy scan today! I'm 19wks, 2days. She's definitely a girl - flashed us pretty good. All things seem fine, although she was wiggling so much that they couldn't see the upper chambers of her heart. I have to go back in four weeks and get that re-checked. I'll get some prettier scan pictures then too, because she looks like an alien right now. She was very active and is swimming in a good amount of fluid, so that explains why I don't feel her much. Can't wait till that changes. Here's a pic of little (this week anyway) Phoebe Rose:

Oh, and we should post bump pics! I take one every week for the other site, but here's this weeks. I feel huge already and walking is awkward. Apparently I have a lot of fluid, because baby is on the small side of normal.

Hey ladies! Been busy lately. I hope everyone is doing ok. I am 22w and feeling huge! Still at my starting weight but my hips are getting wider as well as my belly. Lol.

Here's another i liked.

Beautiful picture Kelliria.

Beautiful picture! Excellent! I don't feel so huge now - you have a great bump!

Ik! I get really big for some reason. I have a shorter torso and longer legs to make up my 5'7". Plus, bf is almost 7ft and my 1st was 9lbs, 23.5 in. Measured a month ahead with dd! Hoping for no stretch marks this go around, too!

Thank you all for your kind words. My sister is doing well and coping marvelously. I admire her strength.
I hit official viability today which is a first for me. I'm feeling more and more confident in this pregnancy everyday. I can't wait to get to hold my child??

You ladies have some beautiful looking bumps ???? It makes me so happy to see everyone progressing so so well!

Hi again ladies, my husband's taken the kiddies out on a jet ski today, so I've stayed back relaxing :)
Smoseman good luck for your scan I really hope you see the heartbeat! I was the same I had to constantly snack to keep nausea at bay :( it was awful, it eased up around 12 weeks I think.
Calvingirl so glad your scan went well, I love the name you have chosen, and you look just rigjt size wise I think :)
And great pics Kelliria too. I'm just like you huge from the get go, everyone keeps asking when im due and are in shock when I tell them November lol. They even needed proof on the aeroplane here that I wasn't over 28 weeks when you needed a doctors note. Here's my baby bump today. He/She seems to be growing fast, any weight I had gained on my hips has now disappeared and it's all belly hehe. My husband thinks it's a boy as I'm carrying like my son now, but I literally have no clue at all what so ever.
So lovely to hear everyone's progressing well :) xxx

Dragonfly, you have a beautiful bump! All you skinny minnies look sooo cute pregnant! My weight gain is still under 10lbs, so I'm happy - pic below at 20 wk mark. Not getting super big, but feeling more round ligament pain and it's harder to walk now.
I've had a rough couple of days that only resolved itself this morning. I had my OB appt. and he basically said he was going to turf me completely to the MFM doctors because i was so high risk, and I would have to give birth in the same hospital where my Oscar died. I can't walk in there again. The doctors were awful last time and instead of finding some sensitive way to tell me, she just said, "Your baby is dead" and walked out of the room to let the nurses deal with the delivery. I'll never forget or forgive that. I can't go back there. So when he told me that, I flipped the &*^% out and started hysterically crying, DH got all mad and tried to explain to him what that means to us. Baby's safety is the most important, yes, and we know the Norfolk hospital is right next to the children's hospital and the best NICU in the state Apparently I scared him enough and made the argument that Baby girl is doing JUST FINE right now, and how about we not switch me till there ACTUALLY is a problem. He said he'd think about it and talk to his colleagues and I got a call this morning that they've decided to keep me. They got her anatomy scan results which were great, and they put off the non-stress tests and the growth scans till 32 weeks (they had me scheduled to start those at 24 wks - which is ridiculous). So I'm breathing easier, and hoping baby girl keeps growing well so we can have a normal birth and I don't have to walk into that death trap of a hospital again.
Oh and btw, Phoebe might become Juniper - It's a winter name for a Christmas baby and we can call her June, which is the month my Oscar was born in, and the connection makes it feel right to me. DH still likes Phoebe, so we'll see what we end up with.