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Dragonfly23:
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on it with me. Definitely needed some insight! I think you may be right about the husband although I'm sure he also is thinking about what happens with both of us when we are due. ( We are 4 months apart) I'm not worried about my friends reaction. I think she will be a great support. I'm more worried about my mom's reaction. It's never good at first.

We have a compost toilet in the cabin. I had never heard of it before but it actually works out well!

@midnightrose3. No worries. I'm here to help the best way I can. I too was afraid to tell my mom because of what she said the first time "are you keeping it?" My dad (sorry for language) gave her shit for three days straight. This time, she was calm because she noticed I was different at Easter supper and couldn't hise the belly and all the pickles I ate lol. All she asked was why I waited so long. I just told her that I didn't have my second ultrasound and wanted to make sure things were progressing well. I've never heard of the compost toilet but glafmd it works okay. Just remember that it is only temporarly and that things will get better.

Congratulations 4thbaby4me :) how exciting!
Midnightrose3 I think if you feel you'll get great support from your friend and it will help you, then you should tell her. So far we have told my mum and step dad, and my 4 sisters, it's lovely to have people to moan about when your feeling sick and tired. They all took it brilliantly as I knew they would. I know the traffic my side of the family will, hopefully my husband's will too, I'm not sure...... Hopefully we won't get asked if it was an accident being our third, that would make me angry

dragonfly23 and Lakarmw - your announcements sound so nice!! I will be 13 weeks the week of June 25th... I would like to announce it then because I am very open with my friends and family and keeping this is killing me inside LOL. I'm not sure what kind of announcement I want to do... my boyfriend has two kids - a 13 year old girl and a 6 (will be 7 in Nov) year old boy... I know the boy will be fine with me being pregnant, but the girl, I'm not really sure and I'm a little worried. I know no matter how she feels when we tell her once the baby comes she will be like mama number 2 to her/him! It's just getting her to that point that may be a challenge. Maybe once the baby starts kicking me and she can see it she will get excited if she isn't when we tell her.

4thBabyforMe - CONGRATS and welcome to this group of amazing women! I found out I was pregnant super early too! Right now I'm just over 5 weeks pregnant. I'll find out exact due date when I go for my ultrasound next Friday - May 11th! I cannot wait to hear the heartbeat and set my mind at ease a bit!

midnightrose3 - I think it's good you told your employer - if she is pregnant too, she may need time to find someone to help her for when you won't be around. I think that was a really nice thing to do. Why was her husband not happy about it? You are giving them PLENTY of notice!

I can't wait to tell people. I've told those I'm closest to, I told 2 of my aunts, 2 of my cousins and about 5 of my friends. After suffering through 2 miscarriages, I feel I need all the love and positive vibes and comfort from those who know me best, so that's why I told so many. I plan to tell my closest work friend when she gets back from her trip as well. I know you're not supposed to tell anyone til you're in second trimester, but I say eff it LOL. I'm gonna tell who I want, when I want and I know they'll love on me and support me through the pregnancy just like I need. And, lots of them are mamas and anything that I go through I can ask them and get answers and feel better about what I may be experiencing. Anywho - I plan to tell everyone/post on my FB the last week in June - just not sure how I want to do it... maybe make it Christmas or New Years related depending when the dr says my due date is. Like "we'll be popping a different kind of bottle in 2019" or "this Christmas we'll be receiving the best gift ever! Baby B is due to come December __!" Idk, just kinda tossing ideas around in my head and looking stuff up on Pinterest. I am just counting down the days til May 11th for my first ultrasound... I know seeing/hearing the baby's heartbeat will ease my mind like WHOA! My symptoms come and go and I'm just trying to stay relaxed and calm and do all the things I'm supposed to do til then.

Who else has a big appt/ultrasound coming up soon?

@BB2018. I hope your ultrasound goes well and you will get to see the little bean and heartbeat. When I announced my first pregnancy, I took the poem, I'm not alone and I wrote it out and then attached my ultrasound picture. I really enjoyed the poem. Maybe you can use that one. The one I am about to post is a little long and I just hope people don't think it's a joke as I would never do something like that. It's just wrong in my books but the post itself is cute. I have my doctor's appointment on Monday morning and then my next ultrasound is on May 28th which makes it seem so far away. I just hope everything is progressing smoothly and that the baby is growing on schedule.

BB2018 your definitely right about your boyfriends 13 year old being a second mummy, I was to my half sisters (twins) when they came a long when I was almost 11, she will love having a baby brother or sister to look after, she will also be very handy for baby sitting duties in a few years too! Your announcement ideas sound lovely chriatmas/new year baby sounds brilliant, such a magical time of year. I'm like you I will be announcing once I have my 12 week scan too, I'm getting such a belly, it's usually pretty flat so it's obvious (maybe because it's number 3) I'm so glad I only have just over 1 more week of hiding under big jumpers and scarves. I have my 12 week scan on Friday the 11th too, so I am literally wishing away time from now until then as I'm sure you are too :) xxx

@BB2018. Here is the post I used. Some of the words are cut off but I am sure you can find the whole poem somewhere.

@Lakarmw. I'm on baby #2 and couldn't believe how big my belly got. They say that second, third, etc the bellies get bigger sooner and things happen sooner as in stretching. I still get mild cramping and stuff like that but it comes and goes. I hope your scan goes well on Friday and things are progressing smoothly.

Aww thank you ladies!! Having you all here really helps me make it through the days!! THANK YOU!!

dragonfly23 - I love that poem - super cute!!

I swear I already have a bloated belly - it happened right away last time too... like I can't button my pants and I used an elastic today...yup, and I'm only 5 weeks, I'm in trouble! I heard you can bloat in beginning, then it can go down, then it can come back? idk how much truth there is to that because I have only made it as far as 8w5d.

Here is my belly from last week

I found first time around I did bloat loads until around 9/10 week then panicked when it went away then came back around 15 weeks. Second time and I'm guessing the same again I just went straight from bloated to bump and no in between. I'm feeling massive at the moment :( I think my tummy muscles have just given up. I've not been able to wear jeans since 5 weeks either. This was at 8 weeks 5 days I know it's not baby as they're only about 3cm xxx