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O...M...G.

Ok so I might sound selfish but PLEASE ADVISE.

My husband and I got married in Oct 2011. His brother proposed like a month later to this girl he's been dating for awhile. I never really liked this girl because I thought she was shady for some of the things she put my brother-in-law thru at first but then I put it behind me and became "friends" with her. We would hang out all 4 of us together for a few months on and off and everything was fine.

Then, I had my second miscarriage, which was in December. So a couple months went by and my doctor was running tests and blah blah and then we started trying again. I didn't want anyone to know really that we were trying because I was unsure of the outcome. I confided in this girl and she knew about the miscarriage. She told me that she knew we were trying and that her and my brother-in-law were going to wait until they got married in April 2013.

Then, she had to get her Mirena out because she had it in for 5 years (she already has 3 kids). She told myself and my mother-in-law that she had a new one put in. 3 days ago...BOOM she's pregnant. Her and my brother-in-law weren't even thinking about having kid until they knew we were...they lied to everyone and now she's pregnant. I feel betrayed in a way because she was supportive of me at one point and I just feel they were conniving about the whole situation. My mother-in-law said she told everyone that she got the bc put in because my brother-in-law didn't want anyone to know they were trying.

Am I selfish for feeling this way?? I just don't get it. Everyone I talk to understands the way I feel, even my husband does (at times). But idk what to do or say or think or anything.

thanks bauer will look into that thanks
hey baby please wow that was so wrong of her especially if she knew your situation thats just out and out mean bot saying anything to you at al and by the sound of it your mil new aswell they were trying which she could have told you aswell if she knows your situation hope you will be ok if that was any of my in laws i would be so pissed off and utterly hurt hope ur ok

babyplease I understand her not wanting to put her relationship on hold because you are having trouble TTC but she should not have lied to you that was wrong. When I got pregnant I was worried about telling my SIL because I knew she had been trying for over a year. She did not know we had been trying for 2 because I never told anyone.(we wernt married yet and I knew everyone would have a problem with that) 4 months after we tied the knot I was pregnant and in her eyes it looked like BOOM Im pregnant. My DH insisted we did not lie or keep secrets and she ended up getting pregnant just 4 months after me. I hope I didnt hurt her feelings!

Hey all I'm back! Had blast on our 2part Florida, then Bahamas cruise vacation. I kid you not we had a blast!!! We'd never vacationed together so this was a first in many ways. We came back singing the praise of our holiday and already folks wanna join us for the next one! I'm seriously considering becoming a travel agent as a result! lol

Anyway how have my fellow CTP ladies been? I am good. I'm now day cycle day 20 (of 24) and 8dpo. I'm not tracking any of my symptoms, but I am secretly hoping I am preggors. I'm not feeling any differently, and is certain I'm out for this cycle, but I'll know by weekend as AF is due then. I'm gonna stop trying after this for a few months as I'll be away for the summer and I do think it will give my mind a break from all of this wanting a baby. Will make pick up where I left off when i return.

I hope all is well with everyone, sorry I've been off for so long. Will try catching up on what I missed out on on vacation.

So how is everyone's TTC coming along? Will any of you be trying for the next cycle?

Stephanie

Babyplease:

Chin up chica! I empathise with you, as I too would feel the same feeling of betrayal. Some people are always in competition mode. As they never knew they wanted to do something, until you started doing it. Say you've been taking the bus all your life, then you decided to learn how to drive so you can buy a car, only for a girlfriend who was also taken the bus to suddenly decide she wanted to learn how to drive! Like what?? Since when you realised you wanted to drive? Madness! People like that are everywhere. Your situation is no different, she wasn't planning on a baby, yet had the merina coil removed and got pregnant the moment she knew you were trying. Man that sucks! I would encourage you to run your own race, try not to be down about it. I know it will be hard, but celebrate with her and let her think you are the least bothered by it. Yet still are you running your own race in trying to conceive. You're turn will come, and when comes you'll be the most celebrated especially after all the hurdles you jumped over and bridges you crossed to have a baby. Looking forward to sharing that journey with you. Be well, and I wish you much success. Keep us posted.

Stephanie!

WB steph things have been pretty quiet without you. I'm glad you had a great time. You should drink some wine to encourage implantation. LOL I'm only on CD 5 or 6. haha i'm not even sure.

Eden what happened with you are you on CD 60 or preggers did come?

How are you doing wilson? its almost your O day right?

I'm starting to feel like Scarlett is never going to have a little brother or sister

wb steph so glad u enjoyed ur vacation hopefully u have a bun in that oven not long now to no if u are preggers or not
eden how are you keeping what happening on ur side
hey bauer i think i ov.d on tuesday had my +opk pn monday and some serious pain on tuesday even doubled over in pain so hoping it was ov but my chart doesnt have my usual dip im charting vaginally this month last few months have been orally have a look at my chart see what u think hoping i did ov on tuesday
ah dont feel that way it will happen when the time is rite

Thank you guys for being supportive. My dh and I were fighting a lot due to their pregnancy (which I feel is what they wanted). I came to terms with it and figured the 3 kids she already has and the one she's pregnant with are going to be my baby's cousins so I had to get over it. I'm not going to let anything come between my dh and I. Like you guys said, our time will come. So I apologized to her for being upset and we had dinner together and all is settled.

Good news is that I go to the specialist tomorrow morning at 7:30AM! Who goes to the Dr. that early in the morning?!?! haha. But we are going and I'm hoping he starts me on the medicine I was on in March because it helped me conceive and I'm not sure when I would start the blood thinners. But hopefully we can start this with the next . The down side of the medications I was on is that it made me gain weight...and I'm not a big fan of that but who would be?!? The food I eat doesn't help my weight either but those meds are harsh! I'll keep you guys posted on what the Dr. says tomorrow.

I hope you ALL get the results you wanted and little buns in the oven!!! Hope all is well with everyone and can't wait to hear from all of you!

hello ladies how are you all keeping
this thread is gone to quiet steph my dear any sign of ur after your vacation so im in the dreaded 2ww only 4days till testing but i just no its going to be a

morning wilson,
and . after all your why would you even think your going to get a I feel like I should be sending you for that your going to get.
Morning babyplease I hope the medicine works for you and sorry you have to go the doctors so early in the morning.Its nice that you were able to work it out with her she is practically family.ugh, no I don't think I would enjoy gaining a few lbs either. I have this tiny bit of extra skin from scarlett that just hangs there Im always picking it up like it think it just stay where its suppose to be. when I loose weight or get bloated its even more noticeable. at the end of my pregnancy I looked like a normal person that swallowed a basketball.
I'm on CD 14 with no ov in site i saw some super super light spotting yesterday i hope i dont have another crazy long cycle. i wonder what happened with eden is she knocked up? I think im going to try the soy next month im just worried it will get in my milk. do i have to take it at night? i dont nurse her from 12-7 pm so that time would be ideal.
for the rest of you quiet ladies.