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Emma maybe take a little break and try again. xx I got pregnant after my ectopic when I just turned 40 and my husband was 37. We are trying now and he's 40 in May and I'll be 43 in April. Age is just a number. As long as you are healthy that shouldn't stop you trying.

I'm starting acupuncture on Saturday which was helpful before for me. Have you tried it? xx

@Emma I'm so so sorry babe

Ladies in the uk, do you know if I’m supposed to see a gp for this or do I just ride it out until af turns up ? X

Scuba my husband doesn’t want to try anymore, we wanted a close age gap and he’s now feeling too old, tbh we both didn’t think we would still be trying over a year later , we have never had this before x

I’ve inly ever had a eptopic pregnancy before when something has gone wrong so I don’t know what I’m supposed to do now/ if anything ? Any advice would be appreciated x

Bimini I know! Sometimes I wish I could be busy till I drop from tiredness around tww in order to avoid thinking about all this!

Sam I hope you’ll get your clear positive soon

Emma I’m so so sorry! This is so unfair.. sending healing prayers your way! I really hope you and your DH talk about this and maybe he changes his mind. I know you wanted to surprise him and he doesn’t know you had several positives but I think is time to talk to him about it... This is not something you should go through alone. I know it’s non of my business and I’m sorry if I’m making you feel uncomfortable. It’s not my intention at all. Hope you’ll feeling better soon.

Anna Your timing is exactly what it needs!!!!! So exited for you babe! Truly hope you’ll have your rainbow this cycle!!!!

Scuba I know how you feel... I’m not counting you out yet tho!!

Sorry I thought I had said, I told him Saturday night, he was over the moon too x

I was left with the idea you were gonna surprise him for Valentine’s Day. Emma..... I’m so sorry! Hopefully he felt that loving feeling and he might want to try again as soon you feel better. Sending hugs

Emma where in the UK are you? Reason I ask is I'm in London and can recommend a specialist if you are interested? I saw her after my ectopic.Otherwise I definitely suggest you go to your gp. They are very helpful and can refer you for some testing. Did you do the dye test to check your tubes are clear after the ectopic? xx

Scuba I’m East Midlands, I had surgery with my eptopic and then conceived my twins straight away with no period in between, never had anymore tests but my cycles have been off ever since, this was 12 years ago, then 4 years ago I had surgery to check for endometriosis with the pain from my right ovary still and the irregular cycles which all came back with nothing wrong and I was told to just have a hysterectomy anyways I went on to have my youngest who is 2 next month and we’ve been trying since my cycles started back 13 months ago, this is my first cycle I’ve had a positive ( well 5) and now they have gone negative but with no pain, no cramps or bleeding so I don’t know what to think, my husband said he would think for me to be getting a negative test now he would think I’d be bleeding but I don’t know how it works tbh, when I had my eptopic I woke up bleeding and in pain so this is new to me

Alex yes your right my plan was to wait till Valentine’s Day but it was my birthday Saturday so I decided to put my youngest in his “I’m going to be a big brother top” before we went out in the evening lol it was really cute and he was really happy, glad I did it then though so I’m not going through this on my own x

Oh gosh that's a bit extreme to suggest a hysterectomy How lovely you got your rainbow twins after the ectopic.

Definitely go and see your gp. Maybe you can self refer at the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital? We can do that at my local one. Then they can do a blood draw to see what is going on xx