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Let me know if it works or not. I think our ovulation days can vary but I don't discount that they may have taken advantage of you. If you are charting and show a clear shift in increase in temp then I say you are ovulating it just may vary on which day you do.

I'm very confused by the temperature thing.

Angelgirldel I couldn't see your chart...my work computer is probably blocking it :-(

I'll keep taking my temps in the morning and hopefully see a rise in the next few days.

I'm in two minds about what to do: stop trying so hard, or continue tracking and desperately trying.

Part of me thinks I should just make sure DP and I BD every second day for the rest of our lives (or until we get a BFP!), and another part of me can't resist getting out the thermometer and OPK each morning.

It's kind of driving me a bit batty.

I don't know how helpful my RE is being. She totally scoffed at the Ovaboost I bought online, but I read a few pages back that the American Reproductive people (can't remember correct name) said it showed some positive results in fertility studies.

It's been sitting in a drawer since I bought it weeks ago.

Dammit I'm going to start taking it and also ask my acupuncturist for some help.

I've decided I'm off this babymaking train.

According to my OPK and maybe baby I'm STILL not ovulating. It's cd 10.

Now I know that's early, but for the past two months the fertility clinic has been drawing my blood for ovulation tracking and both months I've ovulated on days 8 and 9.

I'm so fed up because last month when I was supposedly ovulating I peed on my digital OPK stick and I didn't get the smiley face.

I rang the clinic and they said the blood test doesn't lie, that I was definitely ovulating.

I had a positive OPK ONCE, back in April, and none since then.

I know low estrogen can make an OPK negative, even if you are ovulating, but the past two months while I've had tracking at the clinic, my estrogen levels have been excellent.

I give up. I think it's just not on the cards for me.

Oops. Double post.

Sydney,

The conflicting indicators would bother me too. Have you gotten the specific numbers of whatever the clinic is measuring? Are the home kits and clinic measuring the same thing? Are there "similar to" hormones that can influence home kits (eg., early on I used an LH test to check for pregnancy because I didn't have a HPT - hCG and LH are very similar in chemical structure)? I am sure there is corresponding sensitivities for the strips too.

It would bother me, and I'd probably squeeze the clinic a little to help me understand what they were measuring and why there is a difference between home kit tests.

Either way I would not count yourself out! I'm not going to blow sunshine your way and tell you it can be easy, but your uterus is still a contender!

Have you and your partner considered any options to bypass the risk of everything meeting perfectly? Maybe an IUI or IVF cycle? The IVF with your eggs isn't easy, and the biggest risk is the quantity and quality of eggs retrieved at any age after 35, BUT the can really get good indicators of blastocyst quality before implantation and a better likelihood of success.

I know it's not cheap -- the donor egg portion only of my IVF was $22K out of pocket, not covered by insurance, with no guarantees -- but at my age it was the most reasonable option for success. And at the moment, the little fellas net out to $11K/ea. :)

But, yes, I am sympathetic because it would also bother me that I was getting conflicting information. I would want to understand it all better. I would NOT give up!

Sydney,

PS -- I seriously seriously doubt you are not ovulating.

Sassyhayngrl, welcome to the group! 10 dpo is still early, so I hope you have some good news in 2 days!

SydneyNat, I agree with Onemorebaby. Each cycle can be different as far as the ovulation date goes. the Wondfo internet cheapies work great for my LH surge, (but the Wondfo hpt test don't work as an hpt test for me, I have to use the Clear Blue Easy digital brand). My temp also drops when I'm preparing to ovulate, then rises again after I do.

Onemorebaby, I hope the witch didn't get you. If she did, then hoping this cycle is your time!

Busterdogs, those are some expensive babies! Wait till you start saving for college funds. I'm so happy they are growing so well and everything is working out for you.

AFM: I'm 5 dpo & of course restraining from POAS until 14dpo, but you all know I'm thinking about it.Thank you ladies for your kind words. I hope this is my month, too, but if not I'm ok with it & onward to the next IUI if I have no left-over cycts. The good news is that I would be able to actually use more than 2 days of the herbals if I have a cycle w/o stims.

Eattonourish,

The college funds are already allocated. Part of the cruel dichotomy of being able to afford children, but being too old do so without medical intervention, haha.

Best of luck to all!

Eat2nourish, I pray that this is your month! Babydust!!

Wow Busterdogs, that is expensive! I'm so lucky here in Australia I guess.

The Fertility clinic I use costs $8900 for the first IVF cycle, but after a medicare rebate the out of pocket expense is $3758.

An IUI cycle is $2330 before the rebate and $1660 out of pocket.

Those costs include ultrasounds, blood tests, labs costs, medication, specialist fees for day surgery, local anaesthetic and counselling.

I peed on my sixth OPK stick yesterday and nothing.

I used the maybe baby this morning and it looks like it MIGHT have some slight ferning, which means I'm getting ready to ovulate.

However, I find the maybe baby really, really difficult to decipher.

I didn't think about my temperature today until I was already up and ironing my clothes for work, so it was too late by then. But I did have a dip over the past few days, with a rise again yesterday. I'll get back on to it tomorrow.

I'm so reluctant to try IVF because I know just how very low the success rate is.

I think I need to book another appointment with my fertility doctor and have a chat about options and why last month when the clinic said I was ovulating, my Clearblue digital OPK said I wasn't.

When I called the nurse about that at the time, she said the home kits are a scam and just designed to make money for the manufacturers and are not accurate - but I don't buy that. If that were true, nobody would be using them.

Confusion reigns in my head again today. Part of me thinks I should give up, but at 43, I just don't have the time to dilly dally!!

Some people really annoy me because I don't look 43. Most people don't pick me for over early 30s, and they say "oh don't worry, you still look so young, you'll have a baby".

Grrr....Even my DP says that. I'm tired of explaining that my eggs don't give a toss how old I look. My eggs are 43 years old!!

Well, I just called the clinic and spoke to one of the nurses...the one I find the least helpful, but anyway.

I asked her why my OPK would say I'm not ovulating at the time their blood test said I was.

She didn't really have an answer, but as somebody said a few pages back, maybe when the clinic said I was ovulation, the LH surge had already taken place, which meant my test wouldn't have picked it up...I think that's how it works anyway.

She had a look at my past two months for me and my first cycle of tracking they triggered me on day 10. I was sure it was much earlier than that, but there you go.

The reason they triggered me was at my request - they wanted me to come in on a Saturday to see if the levels were rising but DP and I were going to be out of town so they triggered me to make sure I definitely ovulated.

If we left it to nature, it might have been around day 12 or 13.

Then last month it was day 8.

So clearly I don't ovulate at the same time every month.

This makes sense to me because my cycle is no longer 28 days. It ranges from 27 to 31 days.

I'm going to keep testing over the next few days and see how I go.