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Same with me, I've got three sisters and they all got pregnant pretty easy with their six babies. One got boy and twins- both pregnancies came thru pills! She had one miscarriage before. Other sister have boy and girl, both took least than year to conceive and she gave the first pregnancy news to me a month after I miscarried and when I told her about our miscarriage, she asked "So what did you do to cause this?" like omg, I was pissed at her for moths. And third sister have a boy, she had sadly miscarriage but got pregnant right after that without new period, and then there's me. In the beginning in my infertility journey it made me sad and pissed that I can't have a baby as easily as they, but later when I wasn't depressed about my miscarriage I pretty much made peace with it, and was really glad they haven't needed to go thru hard stuff. But sometimes I feel like I don't deserve a baby or something, uuuugh, I hate those mean/sad thoughts and emotions what we go thru during infertility That's why lately I'm trying to focus so much to think positive, believe in myself and not to lose hope, even while hard days (a week before AF is like cray-cray for me). My husband is amazing and really supportive, so I'm really blessed with him.

I'm having my fingers crossed for you so much Lalou3ett3 sending you some positive thoughts

Kahlan+NatsMomma what nice big fat positives

Thank you! I’m crossing my fingers that you ladies get your ’s! You deserve it!

@Nasake awww thank you. I'm sorry for the insensivity. My sister is the same. I got 4 brothers and 1sister. She is like, well you are not pregnant yet? What are you waiting for. You are getting older and blah blah blah. She is 35 and has 4 kids, 2 boys 2 girls. They can t or won t understand what we are going through. Losing a child is 1 of the worst pain that no one should endured. That already give you a pass for everything. Stay strong. And you are right. Let s stay positive. Will you try for iui if this cycle does not result in bfp? That is my plan.

Nasake Thank you for the positive thoughts! It really means so much to me!
I’m so sorry you have to deal with insensitivity. Sometimes people around us won’t even understand that they said something hurtful or something that sounds so so bad to us!
Once my very best friend who knows me for years while talking about my hubbys Low sperm motility asked me “why don’t you go without him knowing in a sperm bank and do IVF?” I was so shocked I couldn’t even talk.. I realized after showing her my confusion and disappointment that she didn’t mean it as it sounds and she hardly thought about wha she was suggesting. I haven’t kept hard feelings after that but I can’t stop thinking about it sometimes...

Lalou I’m so sorry girl! I held a tiny hope for you (and still am tbh till the witch comes)! I know how you feel about your sister. My brother had a baby 4 years ago and his wife got pregnant on 1month postpartum Now they have two sweet boys almost at same age with only 10months difference and they struggling NOT to get pregnant again. But here I am struggling to get pregnant for almost 9 years. Once my brother told me “you have to believe it will happen and you’ll see that it will”.... “when we wanted to have our first one I just said ok let’s do it and we did it on first try... you have to just believe it will happen” ... that was his advice on my infertility. He said that with pure love of course and without even imagining what I’m going through every day of my life the last 9 years trying.. I don’t blame ppl who never tried to conceive. They just never been in our shoes and I cannot keep hard feelings. Their journey is different and only thing we can do is smile and agree with them!

K+Nmomma I’m very happy that you got your bfp girl! Just on time! I hope you’ll stick around for a while and keep us updated! Old friends who got their bfp is always welcome and they keep us motivated! At least that’s how it works for me

AFM I’m 5dpo today and I’m not feeling it! Yesterday around noon I got really depressed and I kept thinking that I’m an old lady who never got her own family... I’m compromising with my two cats and I’m “stealing” moments of joy with other people’s kids (my brothers for example) and that’s so very sad.... I cried yesterday a lot. Alone... When I told hubby how I felt he took it personally saying that he thought he was my family.. he was right from one point of view. He is my family but that wasn’t what I meant. I hope he understands and just trying to be hard on me in order to “wake” me up from my depression... sorry ladies that I’m using this board as a journal today but I needed to vent... from tomorrow I’m expecting to start feeling differently if I got pregnant this cycle which I highly doubt. 8 days left....

Awww Alex I'm so sorry. I hope that you will feel better soon. It is very different for men. And it is even harder for us to explain them exactly how we feel. You are one of the bravest people that I know and still you do not give up. I hope you had a good glass of wine. Wipe off your tears, put your chin up and be proud of all your accomplishments. Being a mother is also being amazing aunt to your nephews. There is no shame to have or to be. Stay brave and do not give up. Like ever. You rock!!!

Thank you lalou! How are you? Any signs of AF?
You’re right.. it’s different for them and we have to accept it!
I don’t give up because I have no other choice.. I tried to give up. I wish it wasn’t in my mind 24/7, I wish I could just roll with my life and enjoy my every day as it is but I cannot. I see it all around me. Babies, pregnant women, happy families and my heart aches... I want to be a mother and I know I’ll be a good one.. I wish I didn’t want at this point, really!
Today I’m 6dpo. Temps are up and stable. Boobs hurting as normal and I have a small skin break out. Everything is normal for me. Nothing off here.. I know it’s still early but who am I kidding right?

@alex I heard a lot of people that said that shooting pain was a good one. I have good vibes for you.

AFM AF came today!! IUI cycle is on the way. I will be taking Femara cd3-7 50mg. And I am waiting for nurse called to go in for ultrasound and blood test. So excited!!!!

Alex- I had a corpus luteum cyst with pain like this. Pain started after ovulation and it was from time to time, nothing serious. But like a week after, I went to ER because terror pains around my ovary and in my back started at night, couldn't even breathe when pain hit me, it was huge corpus luteum cyst, but luckily it went away by itself in few months. But it can be whatever, so try not to worry too much and relax. I'll keep you in my thoughts

Lalou3tt3- I'm so excited for you!! I'll keep you in my thoughts, I really think your IUI will be a success and you'll get your

I'm CD34 and yesterday I took two tests, one had really-really light pink line, but another one was empty, today same thing. I think my tests are faulty ors, because you can see two white lines on them if you take them out of the package. Still no PMS or AF symptoms, but I think I'll get my AF on 3 days, then I have my driving lessons and I always get my AF on that day and then almost die because of my tummy pain in my lesson :D it's like real murphy thing lately. ps: just to clear it, it's more complicated to get your driving license in here than in US. We need to pay and take 30 hrs of driving lessons, take 30 hrs of classes about traffic rules and everything, then complete driving test+traffic rules test at driving school, then if w succeed we can go to county and do those tests there too, and if you succeed you get your license, and if not, you need to do them again. So I've been busy with that lately and it helps me keep my mind busy with something else than overthinking everything about my cycle.

And thank you everyone for being so nice, sensitive and supportive. I really love this community to everyone who's waiting and to lucky big fat positive test owners

I had cysts before. Twice to be certain. One when I was 19 years old and didn’t end well. It burst and I ended doing laparoscopic surgery to clean the abdomen area since at my first hospital visit when I started being in pain they send me home saying it was nothing and I will be fine. The cyst caused problems being 3 days without treatment. I don’t remember much but I remember the pain. Second time at the age of 27 fortunately it went away by it self but the pain was the same and it’s something I’ll never forget. Nothing like this pain now. Hopefully is nothing near this and it’s something irrelevant.

Lalou I’m so sorry Af came but I’m happy to see that you’re excited about this cycle! Sending hugs your way!

Noodle that’s so amazing being there on your sisters labor! Where I live they allow only one person with the mom and usually the husband. All babies are delivered in a surgery room.
Hopefully you won’t be feeling very uncomfortable with morning sickness!!

AFM I’m 8DPO waiting for AF next Monday! I’m not having any feeling at all of me being pregnant so
Everything is as normal. The shooting pain calmed down fortunately and I’m only feeling light cramping and breast pain which are very common for me! I wish I could be pregnant pffff