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hi ladies.

im on cd14, and my doctor has given me a NO GO for iui this cycle. there's something funny about my lining and she's pulled the plug.
i am not going to be able to do another round of IUI till 2017, because of travel and work commitments.

i was very very very sad the last few days, but now i have come to accept it.

storm - im sorry to hear. are you going to try again this cycle?

cocoa - how are you? you have a few more weeks till ivf round 2, right? all the best. i am going to remember everything u say, cuz i can foresee DH and i going for ivf too.

hello my ladies.

I am waiting for you here! I am so sad to read that this cycle wasnt in your favour. it really really does make me sad.

I havent been connected much the past weeks due to the fact that both my phone and the computer screen make me nauseous. I am gaining a little bit more energy now (Hopefully) even though I faced my first public puking this morning... that just has to happen once every pregnancy doesnt it.

I do have faith for you girls though so please never give up. sometimes things happen even when very least expected.
I do am curious though (Im not sure if it is right to bring it up here) but what are your opinions on adoption?

I ask since I am adopted myself actually and even though I was lucky to get pregnant now I do know that one day I will want to adopt or foster too, mostly because I am so grateful for having had the chance of a good life myself which I could not have had in my previous situation. (adopted when 3Y) My mother(adopted) even had her pregnancy dream before she decided to adopt a child and it really felt like the destiny brought us together.

Anyway. you dont even need to answer this. I am just curious.

Storm - good luck on your next try. Every cycle is a step closer.

Prima - I'm so sorry your IUI is a no go this month, you must feel so frustrated. I don't have to tell you to stay hopeful as I know the fact you are going through this treatment means you have hope but look after yourself too. We put our bodies through so much with this treatment but the focus rarely involves our own mental health (we're meant to just pick ourselves up, keep going and keep trying) so hopefully you can take some comfort out of knowing that this is a time you can use for yourself and relax.

Kunfupanda - I hope your nausea clears up soon, public puking sounds aweful.

I have thought about adoption. Not a lot as its more of a back-up plan at the moment. My friend from school adopted 3 kids last year (a brother and 2 twin girls whose parents had died). I was so humbled and proud of her taking on 3 kids at the same time and things seem to be working really great for them all. The only thing which would scare me is if the birth parents wanted the child back, or worse, the child chose to get in touch with the birth parents later in life and I got pushed to the side (not sure if this only happens in the movies though). Have you ever contacted your birth parents?

A xx

oh wow, that is incredible she did that.

I do understand your fear though. It is pretty common that people get curious about their roots and at some point go "searching". My sister did that.. (we were fostered together). For her it did not end so well, but she was older then me and more "damaged".

As for me... I always knew where I came from, I actually have memories since i am 1-2 years old (i think it can happen when there are dramatic changes or shock in children life).
But because I know, I am not really curious about it.
I never wanted to be a part of that life anymore and never have felt the need to get back in touch with my biological mother. I have always just felt very lucky to be where I am and I try to minimize the contact I have with the biological family to almost 0.
I have become curious to know about my biological father but only from a distance. I dont have any intentions to make contacts there while still it is interesting to just know a little bit about the destiny of people.

I do come from a very small country though so it is a bit hard to avoid all contacts, and when you have tons of biological siblings you at least need to know their faces so you dont make mistakes in the future ;) but facebook takes care of that and i know just enough without having to be involved at all.

hey ladies,

sorry ive been away for a little while. sinice this cycle is a no go, i have stopped tracking completely. no OPKs, no forced BD, no BBT... absolutely nothing. its cd24 now. i usually ovulate around cd26 but since i took femara earlier this cycle (before my doc said to give this cycle a miss), i might have ovulated already. who knows. like i said, giving myself a clean break till 2017 since i will be travelling in nov and dec for work and pleasure.

kungfu - so glad to hear your pregnancy is progressing well. well pleased for you.

cocoa - you are right, we put so much of ourselves in the treatments, we forget to take care of our own mental health. i also think the iui has messed up my cycle a bit, i hope it will reset by 2017. how are things going on your end? when is the next round for you?

storm - how are you girl? are you trying again this cycle?

and kungfu, in answer to your question: i have honestly never thought abt adopting. my bff is adopted so there is absolutely no stigma , my dh and i dont view it in a negative manner at all... its just something that hasnt come up. i guess if we didnt have DS already, we would discuss it because we really really wanted at least 1 child. but since DS is around, i think we have already decided that the furthest we will go is IVF, failing which we probably will not push it any further. no surrogacy, no adoption. i always think its a beautiful thing, adopting. i have so much respect for people who do it, but where i am now, i guess it's not something we are considering.

much love for you all.

Hi ladies.

Cocoa I think adoption is a wonderful alternative. I have it as my back up plan as well.

Prima it'll be just your luck that letting go of the "trying" portion would work in your favor.

Kung-fu I'm hoping you are feeling better day by day.

AFM: yes I tried again. I'm 2dpo as of Wednesday Oct 18th. This cycle has been the most relaxed. I didn't even use opks. I think they threw me off anyways. I was inseminating cd 14-16 which is when my opk were positive but i read that opks can read positive after ovulation if youre over 30 yo. According to bbt I ovulate on cd 14 or 15. So this cycle I inseminated cd 12-14 instead. Feeling more confident then previous 2 cycles. Also I gave in and did NI instead of softcup. Yikes I'm glad that's over lol. I'll keep you all posted

Storm - What's NI? Good luck this month, it would be lovely if this board got another BFP soon.

Kungfupanda - I've now actually started looking into the adoption process. I'll see how the next IVF goes but its good to know the process if we ever decided to go down that route.

Prima - Have fun over the next few months, you deserve it! I've heard a million stories of people getting BFP's as soon as they stopped, one girl from my IVF clinic actually got a natural BFP after a failed IVF cycle and waiting on her next IVF round to start. When I heard that story I found it hard not to track my ovulation in between cycles just in case though (so I haven't ever really stopped trying) - hahah.

AFM - AF started on Monday (which I needed to start before I could schedule another appointment) so I am now booked in for IVF round 2 on the 7th November. The whole process takes around 6 weeks and I am utterly convinced it's a waste of time already as the hospital haven't changed my treatment at all. It is funded so I basically need to try this one like they say. For my own sanity and to feel like I am doing something proactive I have booked a LOT of acupuncture appointments over the next 8 weeks, continued with my high protein diet and vitamins and cut out alcohol and sugar *almost* completely. I'm also super relaxed about it as I know whats coming, feel more comfortable at the hospital and am being realistic of our chances. I did ask to postpone the treatment as I'm not sure I'm mentally ready for this again as it is our last funded cycle and if this doesn't work we need to pay for it ourselves. However, the doctor advised me to capitalise on how healthy my and DH's bodies are just now and do it as soon as possible. He convinced me and here we are. In some ways it is good because, either way, we will know what the outcome of our IVF journey will be for the holidays (we won't do another cycle unless this one produces better quality embryo's).

storm - all the best girl! Yes, whats NI? really hoping the trying earlier will work!!!!!!

cocoa - its great that ur ivf is funded. thats my concern, all my fertility treatments are self-funded so its been another source of stress for DH and i. really hoping this cycle produces better quality embryo for you.

i am hoping that the "Dont give a damn" attitude will serve me well, so heres keeping my fingers crossed for myself and all of you

keep us posted both of you!

Natural insemination

Storm - hahaha YUK