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Thank you so much everyone for sharing all your personal experiences with me regarding the IUD. I’m the first of my friends and family going through the TTC journey and I have to admit it’s been super lonely. I’m so happy to have found this site as it makes the journey so much easier!

Lisa congratulations again on your growing little bean and I hope we get some more healthy beans this cycle????

Hey Shay! Glad to hear all is good and you have a plan going into this cycle. We never plan anything or really talk about it at all.
We are on month 20 of TTC and thinking my body just isn’t wanting anymore babies. Who knows? It could be him. He is almost 40 and has no children of his own, so maybe he’s sterile. He doesn’t want to do any testing though. He says he prefers fate to take the wheel, and if it happens it happens. Well I don’t like to rely on “fate” and I’ve been raising kids my entire adult life, so if I don’t get a BFP soon I’ll be getting a hysterectomy.

Good morning ladies. Well not so good of a morning for me. I woke up super early and was in a lot of pain. Didn’t get to temp this morning because I didn’t sleep well. Turns out I have the start of a UTI and it’s awful. That also gets in the way of our BD every other day because I don’t like to BD when I have a UTI. I already have a bad feeling about this month and I haven’t even reached O. Hopefully I’m wrong and everything will go well

@mama sorry to hear that. I had a UTI last month and finally went and got meds the day before O. Hopefully your month has better results than mine did!

It seems to be getting better already so I don’t think it was too bad of one. We BD last night anyway because I don’t want to miss out. My CM seems to be changing already which is pretty early for me. It was kinda watery yesterday. I can’t take OPKs because I’m taking pain stuff for my UTI and it turns my pee orange so I can’t really read the stick. My temps have been sitting pretty high. Well today and the other day when I remembered to actually do it they are pretty high for pre O temps. So I used FF to see comparison between now and a few other months it seems strange to me the blue is this month

@Shay yes so it seems! We will get them BFPs.

@lissa, thanks for being our cheerleader.

@colie, I understand you completely. I am the only one in all the girls sisters and cousins who have had to deal with infertility. They can just open their legs and get pregnant. My best friend as well. I wish it wasnt this hard and it was easy cause nobody close understands. That's why its wonderful to have this site of understanding women.

@mama my temps have been higher than normal to but I am chalking it up as the clomid.

CD 9 finished my Clomid two days ago. Havent BD yet. I was hoping the fiance would last night but he fell asleep. If it does not happen tonight I am going to be so upset. It's been 3 weeks 3 long weeks without. I kept telling him it's not just about TTCing, I just want it. He goes to his urologist appointment tomorrow and he says hes going to be honest about how hes having difficulties still well when he first started taking clomid and an estrogen blocker he didnt have these issues. Maybe he needs a higher dose or something to help with ED. Really hoping we can get a decent amount of BDing in before I O. Last time it was early at CD 15 so I do hope it is early again. But also that we actually BD.

@Bug maybe we should all try BDing in our cars parked in a high school parking lot...seems to work well for the teens ;) I’m kidding well kinda haha

@mama those are kind of high temps but could just be from the UTI. When we have infections our temps tend to be higher so it can fight the infection. I am sure it will all even out.

@collie I totally get it too. I have had the hardest time. Four of the gals at my work were pregnant last year. One did sadly end in a miscarriage and I felt so bad for her. The other three are doing great and we have had so many baby showers!! Not to mention I have cousins younger than me having kiddos on accident....ugh so frustrating!!! I am so glad to have all of you ladies here that know how hard it is!

@bug I am sure you guys will get that bding in!! It is good that he is going to be honest with his doctor though. Only way to fix things is to be honest about them!!

I am also on cd9 and man it has been weird!! I keep cramping for no reason!! Way too early for O for me. Plus cm is still creamy. Yet I keep getting sharp twinges on both sides near my ovaries. I swear my body is just trying to confuse me beyond reason. My one somewhat regular cycle back in February I O’ed on cd22 so I am at least hoping for then or earlier. This last cycle it wasn’t until cd36....so not cool, but better than just having no O. Time will only tell. This pain is just annoying and it isn’t constant. Like it will be there for a few minutes to an hour and then nothing...if this continues I will need to call my doctor. Still keeping to bding every other day! Today was a break day after four days in a row hehe ???? then it will be back on to the schedule!!! This is the month that timing will not be the issue!!

Good luck ladies!!!

@colie oh to be young again. But even when I was young I never used protection and never got pregnant. A I had really good timing of not being near O or B it was never my time and seems to not be my time still.

@Shay, cycles are so weird and when tour TTCing and paying more attention to them you pick up on every little thing. Like the past two days I would wipe and see a pink tinge to the TP. Not my normal spotting color. CD 10 and NO BDING
last night again. Apparently he's to stress and knows he will not be able to perform. I told him I'm wasting my 3 cycles with Clomid with him not being able to BD every other day like the doctor says to do. So flipping frustrated.

@Bug i'm so sorry you're going through this. We had the same issues for the last few months when the doc changed his medication for restless legs. The medication works great for restless legs, but not so good for BDing. He ended up going to our primary care doc who prescribed generic viagra. We still struggle sometimes, but at least we have a fighting chance during O time. If your fiance does get viagra, just FYI go to GoodRx to get the best price (i think we get ours at Costco with GoodRX coupon).