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To the ladies that have it, we share the annoying ness of it. Only the first outbreak for me was awful. The others just itch a little, but I won’t let my husband touch me in case he is still unaffected by it. He’s never had an outbreak and refuses to get tested cause it’s not going to change us or anything if he knows. If we see an outbreak on him, we’ll cross that bridge when we get there. I went years without having to take the meds, due to no outbreaks. I’m only going on suppression to try to get pregnant and to carry our second child. I will take it towards the end of our pregnancy too. I went into labor at 36 weeks with our first baby so I’ll probably take it around 32ish weeks, just in case we have another early bird baby.

And yessss the jerk that I heard had it, apparently possibly knew he had it. I was infatuated with him as a 21 year old girl, and him being 27, successful and exciting (we rode motorcycles and that’s how I met him). When he broke it off, he started doing drugs and sleeping with multiple people. I left my motorcycle the night he broke it off with me and wasn’t going to get someone to take me back and pick it up the next day (I couldn’t drive my car and my motorcycle at the same time ). I went back and it was stripped down to the frame with the bits and pieces in a box. Both tires flatted. He turned out to be full on psycho. We dated for 4 months and he seemed totally normal. I really dodged a bullet on that one. My husband knows him, and I thought he wanted to kill the ex when I told him who was possibly the cause of the herp for me. My hubs rode motorcycles too, so thats how he knew him. I knew my husband for years before us ever thinking of dating, so it was uber embarrassing to tell him, but he was cool as a cucumber and didn’t hesitate to tell me he planned on being with me for s long time and that he looked up transmission rates and that it would be hard for him to get it from me.

It just sucks now we have to tip toe around it and it’s kind of putting a damper on TTC, and on just our sex life in general this year! Even if we weren’t trying to make a baby, just having sex worries me... the first outbreak we had sex the night before anything physically showed up. I was sore down there like I was bruised, but there were not visual signs of anything, and never having and outbreak, I didn’t know what the crap was up! The next day, with the blisters appearing in a silver dollar sized cluster, I got sick realizing that was happening and that I could have exposed my husband. It took me a full month after healing to have sex again, and after much reassurance from him that he still loves me and doesn’t care if he’s ultimately affected, because lets get real, even though he doesn’t want it, I could give it to him without realizing, heck, maybe when we are 60! Lol, it’s just hard to work around in trying to make our second baby! Ughhhhh. I want so bad for my babies to be semi-close, and we got pregnant so easily without trying with our little girl, that now it’s going on 6 months that we haven’t been able to conceive properly. My new doctor thinks my progesterone is not letting me carry when we get preggo (because of the chemicals this year), so that is another issue to be overcome if we can get ovulation and sex timely correct!

I'm so teuely sory that you are going through all of this. After the birth of my daughter in 2016 my progesterone never went back to normal. Tried progesterone cream on a whim without doctor's orders and got pregnant that month after trying since April 2017; due October 10. I hope things will settle down for you and that your ovulation and the sex timing is perfect.

Thank you Dragon Fly. Trying the whole temping and ovulation sticks so if this isn’t my month, we can look back and see when ovulation is happening, and also just learn more about my cycle! It’s kind of interesting to see how the temping follows your body and shows the changes it undergoes as the cycle goes on. My cycles are getting longer and longer too, so maybe we’ll gain insight on that.

Oh my... what a jerk... men can be such douche canoes, sometimes... I'm happy for you that you found a good one afterwards.