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@calvingirl i'm praying you get your rainbow baby soon! As happy as I am to be on this next journey i will not be at ease until i'm leaving the hospital with my live, healthy baby in my arms.
@beaut1ful38 stretchy cm before a bfp is a very good sign. Fingers crossed so hard for you!

@BB2018. I know exactly what you mean by wanting a baby so bad. I was with my ex husband 2003-2016 (19-31 y/o) and he couldn't have kids mainly because nothing comes out and two, he has type 1 Diabeties and is scared to pass it along to the baby. He always told me to go out and get pregnant by some random guy. Met this guy whom I liked but turned out he already has kids from a previous relationship and my goal was not to have a kid with someone who didn't have any, and plus he was into the hard stuff and I didn't want that in my life or have some of it passed down to the baby through semen. Even though we did it, I always got anxiety attacks, mostly the fear of pregnancy itself and it never happened to me the few times we got together and I thank God everyday as I would have been a single mother. Anyway, my ex and I even looked at IVF and using another man's sperm but when I had my first ultrasound they told me that I might have a blocked ovary which made me really sad and depressed and thought I will never have a kid. My ex-husband and I knew that things weren't going anywhere in our marriage and we drifted apart; plus my life was passing me by and I really wanted a family. Fast forward to 2014 where I met my now husband and made the decision to leave my husband (not because of infertility) and pursued my now husband (he pursued me actually) and we just hung out for the month just being friends and we have known each other since 2009 and he doesn't date married women. Anyway, we started trying October 2014. After about 6 months of trying I found this website called (conceive easy) and decided to give them a try. I started the pills April 2015 and I just started the third bottle (maybe 5 pills) when I found out I was pregnant. For many years I thought to myself that God sometimes puts obstacles in our lives because one, we aren't ready or two, with the wrong guy. I'm not saying that is what God is doing in your life now but that is what I believe. When we stop focusing so much on things that we have no control over and start living our lives without the intention, then things can and will go our way. When we were trying for our second after 8 months of trying, my hubby said to me a couple months before, that when we speak negative, then negative things happen and when we think positive then positive things happen. It took a bit to get out of that thinking pattern and worries of not getting pregnant again that it finally did happen. Sorry for the long post, but I wanted to share my experience. Try not to worry so much hun. I know, I am my own worst critic as I am a huge worry wart and everything worries me but you will get your rainbow baby and be able to experience all the joys of carrying a child. I enjoyed my first pregnancy, all the hiccups, kicks and pokes gave joy to my life.

@BB2018 at 8/9 DPO, its perfectly normal not to have any signs. with my first I didn't have symptoms until 12 DPO and got a bfp at 14dpo.This time around I didnt have noticable, specfic to pregnancy symptoms until the evening of 10 dpo. EVeryone is different. and some people dont get some of the symptoms you named until well into the first tri e.g. nausea, vivid dreams.

Don't give up hope.

@BB2018. I agree with neomasie. My first pregnancy, I didn't have any symptoms. All I had was very bad cramps and I would rush to the bathroom to think AF was there but nothing and my bf (now husband) kept asking is she (AF) here yet and I kept telling him no. I will tell you if she does lol but then I took a test about 4 days late and two lines came up and starred at it for a long time. This pregnancy, same thing but I started testing at 8dpo (very faint) and all the way leading up to AF where I took a digi and it said "yes". Every woman is different and implants at different times. Don't give up.

Thank you ladies! I seriously feel like a crazy person the last couple days... I go from thinking I'm definitely pregnant to nope, no way I'm pregnant to oh maybe that's implantation feeling to nope, negative test, to oh I see a faint second line, then nope that's probably an evap/indent line, then oh let's try a dip strip - and then hmm is that a second line? I took a Wondfo dip strip with my SMU and I feel like I see a second line on that (i posted it on my page)... but I feel like I can't even trust my own eyes anymore... I know sometimes you can want something so badly that your body will feel certain things...

That's literally my thoughts the past few days... sounds crazy, right? I so appreciate you all listening to me and especially the ladies who can relate to me and share your experiences!

@dragonfly23 - I was married in 2012 for a year and half - we tried to get pregnant and couldn't - he had something called vas deferens (he had zero for sperm count because nothing comes out). It was a big issue for us and along with other issues, that marriage ended quickly. Then I reconnected with an old bf from high school - we moved in together after 3 months together and I found out I was pregnant a week later.... crazy fast! I ended up having a MMC at 6.5 weeks, he broke up with me and kicked me out of his house about a week after the miscarriage... I had nowhere to go and no one that could really help me, it was the lowest point of my life I'd say and I truly believe that's why I lost that baby... him and I were def not meant to be. Then I went on some dates but never with anyone I saw a future with. Now I'm with the man I've waited my entire life to be with... he is AMAZING! We got pregnant by accident last September, but then we were so excited about it once we had time to sit with the thought of it... but then at my 10 week checkup there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 8w5d.... we were both devastated. He has 2 kids from his previous marriage, but we want one together now. I do believe everything happens for a reason, but I can not fathom the reason my baby girl's heart stopped beating. I saw it on the u/s screen at my 7week appt and then nothing at 10 weeks - I broke down hard!! Just wanted to share my story since you shared yours XoXo

Neomasie- thank you so much means a lot!! Congratulations to you!

BB2018-I don’t have much symptoms this go around as I did last month. No sore boobs till today. So every women is different and I heard that no symptoms is a good sign too!! Keep positive

Dragonfly- thank you I will test this weekend as I will be 12dpo Saturday! If get a BFP I’m going to cry cry cry lol and jump with joy as I can be one of the lucky one to conceive right after a MC.

@BB2018. Thank you for sharing your story, it made me sad and it is absolutely horrible that the ex kicked you out like that with nowhere to go and no one to talk to. I'm very glad to hear that you found the love of your life but so sad that it ended so quicky. I don't like talking about miscarriages as I am 10w 4d and that is just around the same time you lost yours but I won't ask if you had symptoms or anything like that. So, I have to keep reminding myself that just because it happens to other ladies at that stage, doesn't mean it will happen to me. Guess that is why I am stressing about this upcoming ultrasound as I don't think I can handle what you went through or any of the other ladies who suffered a loss at that stage. So, to change the subject as I don't want to dwell on it. I'm sure my baby is fine and growing but it's the what-ifs that still lingers in my head. You will get your rainbow baby. Stay positive.

@Beaut1ful38. I will be jumping for joy as well. Hope you get your rainbow baby as well. The symptoms sound promising.

You're right dragonfly23 - Positive, happy, beautiful thoughts for you and your baby!!! Are you going to find out what sex you're having? Does hubs want to too? It will be here before you know it!!!

@BB2018. I do want to find out and I am sure he does too. I'm really hoping for a boy as we have a girl already and this will be our last pregnancy as he isn't getting any younger. I know age is just a number but he will be 61 when the baby is born. Thank you, that puts tears of joy in my eyes as I don't think I can handle a third pregnancy because of all the what-ifs and not knowing how the baby is doing. Only 12 more days till the ultrasound and it isn't until 2:50pm so I have to go all morning thinking about the ultrasound and trying not to stress out. My boobs are still sore and they feel like bags and I am sure they wouldn't be like that if I... you know. Thank you for you kind words. It means a lot to me.

Quick question for you ladies. I’m on cd 9 and got my static smiley today on the advanced clear blue digital OPK. Cd9 seems really early for an Lh surge... my average cycle length is 28days. I do tend to ovulate early but this is the earliest Lh surge I have ever had. Do you think it’s means that it just takes my body longer to release the egg after surge? Maybe closer to 48-72hrs after surge instead of 12-36? Any thoughts are appreciated. We Bd’d last night and will again tonight and tomorrow but I wonder if we should try to do it everyday until around cd 14? (I think we’re gonna run out of steam! Haha) I don’t record my temps but will probably start if we aren’t successful this cycle.