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I have had these done before for same reason (ASCUS) and everything turned out ok. It was painful and I hated it too. What made you feel violated though? Was it the procedure itself or was it the way that you were treated? If it was that then you should look for someone with a better bedside manner who is more compassionate to your situation. I am sure you are anxious about the results as well. hopedully once you find out everything is ok you will feel a little better. So sorry you are feeling like this but it will get better.

I don't know why I feel so violated. I think it is a combination of the pain and humiliation of the procedure, combined with the doctor's bedside manner, which I found very condescending. It made me feel incredibly uncomfortable. She kept refering to my private parts in the diminutive form (it's probably hard to imagine if you're english, but in my language (afrikaans), you can pretty much diminutise anything and she kept doing that when refering to my cervix, ovaries or uterus). It really freaked me out. What does she think I am, a todler?
When I got home, I couldn't even look at my husband or talk to him for hours, which totally freaked him out. I just cried and cried. It was horrible.
To be honest, the way I feel now, I actually couldn't give a damn about the results. I never want to hear that woman's voice again. I would actually rather not know and just live my life than have someone poke around inside of me like that again.

That sounds terrible! Do you have the option of a new doc? If so I would go. now. This is not the person you want dealing with your impending pregnancy for sure. Are you feeling any better?

Hi there
Yes, I also decided yesterday that I needed to change docs asap. I did my research on the internet this time and found someone who comes highly recommended. She specialises in fertility and is apparently very free thinking when it comes to birthing options (something that is very important to me), so I think (hope) it's going to be a better fit. I have an appointment to meet her on the 6th, so we'll see how that goes. My husband is going along this time for support, (her practise encourages that) so I'm feeling a bit more confident about the whole thing.
I am feeling much better today, thanx. My hubby has been incredibly supportive and understanding and he's promised to take me out on a 'date' this weekend , so I'm looking forward to that.
Thanx for all the support, guys. It means a lot!

That sounds awful...out of sheer embarrassment i put off getting my first pap until after I was married. Once i became sexually active I figured I couldn't put it off any longer, and my insurance called again to remind me to go. I was super nervous and whats more...I started my period the day of my first appointment! It was so embarassing! I mean, I don't even like to share that time of the month with DH! I really appreciated how sensitive my doctor was, letting me cover everything not needed in the exam and staying super professional and kind the whole time. I can't even imagine how much worse it would be with a demeaning doctor!