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@E. Thank you. I'm sure she will come around. I hope my parents will be happy; it's another grandbaby. I don't have a birth plan in place yet but I will be delivering at the hospital in case something happens. I'm glad your midwife was there. I waited too long with my boy too. I assume my water had broken as during the night I got up to pee and my pajamas were soaked. Changed out of them and went back to sleep and woke up around 5 I think, and in a bit of pain so it was time to go in. I was supposed to be induced the next day, but he wanted to be born on his uncles (my brother) birthday. I hope you get to experience home birth with this baby. Will you be having any more after this pregnancy?

@calvingirl. I had the brown spotting when I wiped once with my last baby and it threw my anxiety way up as I didn't have it with my first and didn't know it was even possible. This time, I didn't have any. So, that was a relief. I'm hoping that what you are experiencing is left over implantation finally working its way out. My baby won't be due until February so, he or she may have to be put in a warmer if that is the case; my last one did but that was based on his levels. A home birth won't be possible for me but that's okay.

Hey ladies!
@E. thank you for your advice! I have the MTHFR gene as well and I am on the same vitamins. My doctor also has me on Diclegis. I think it helps a lot, I really think I'd be worse without it. But I still get bad nausea spells off and on throughout the day, worse at night for me. Seabands take the edge off.

I did some research on my subchorionic hemorrhage and asking my doctor some more educated questions, I am feeling much better about it. Commonly these are found behind the placenta, which can cause issues with the placenta partially detaching and causing growth issues with the baby or miscarriage. Luckily, mine is not located behind the placenta and is also considered to be on the small side. So I am feeling much more relieved.

I am almost 8 weeks and so relieved to make it this far. My doc may do another ultrasound next week to check on my SCH and hoping so, I want to see my little rainbow bean again!! I am going above and beyond with excitement, I think. I already have my baby registry made and have absolutely everything on it already I have boy and girl items picked out as well, as once we find out the gender I can go remove what we don't need.

I am high risk, as I have been with all my pregnancies ever since I have my 19 week missed miscarriage, so I will be delivering again in the hospital. I don't mind this, my house is usually too busy and full of family popping in and out anyways, so I'd probably get more rest and peace in the hospital after birth

@dragonfly I hope we will be able to have more! Our plan is to have as many as God blesses us with, or as many as I can mother well with my chronic health problems (POTS, anxiety.) We both come from families of 6 kids - we're Catholic, can you tell?

@calvin I'm glad that you got to experience home birth! I ended up being transferred AFTER the birth because I was fainting. Turns out that giving birth makes POTS flare really badly! All they did that helped was give me fluids. The experience at the hospital was awful really, they treated me like trash, and my private midwife too (they blamed her for my problems, because they are ignorant of how POTS works lol.) If I was in my right mind I would've made formal complaints afterwards. They severely neglected me - they pumped me full of fluids, then ordered me not to get out of bed to pee unless there were two nurses to assist me, then left me for literally hours. I called again and again, and they always said oh OK we'll send nurses, but never did. By the time they got to me I was in so much pain I was almost in tears, and when they let me get up I passed a clot that was the size of a softball - that's how long they left me sitting in bed, all of the blood I was losing coagulated! (gotta love public hospitals.) So yeah, I'll be avoiding the hospital like the plague unless I absolutely have to go because there is a medical necessity. Public healthcare is such a double edged sword! Luckily I live only 15 minutes from the hospital, in case I do need to transfer. My worst fear is ending up in an emergency cesarean, because they will have to do it under general anaesthesia as my spine is fused from scoliosis surgery, making a spinal or epidural physically impossible. That's why I'm so passionate about facilitating natural birth, it's natural or bust for me!

This time if I am able to birth at home, we will be much more careful about managing my POTS - that will mean not climbing stairs like I did last time to try to get to the shower (it'll be a sponge bath in bed and a bed pan until I have slept and recovered enough to get up safely!) and my midwife will be able to start up fluids during labor, which will help mitigate the effect that normal blood loss during birth will have on my already low blood pressure. Lessons learnt from last time!

I will not be having a Spring baby - because I live in Queensland Australia! I moved here from the States in 2015, so I will be extremely pregnant for the worst of the scorching Australian Summer, just like last time when my son was born in April! It doesn't start to cool down here until at least April - May.

@crystal I'm so glad to hear that your SCH isn't as bad as you thought! I hope they so another u/s so you get to see baby again. Also MTHFR solidarity. I'm hoping that now that I'm taking the correct vitamins my baby won't suffer the same issues with tongue tie that my son did!

@afm, 10 weeks today! I see my midwife for the first time on Tuesday, and I can't wait to hear that little heartbeat on the doppler! b6 is working miracles in the morning sickness department, and I am outgrowing my brand new bras again. Seriously, the girls need to CALM DOWN already, this is getting ridiculous. Working on getting ready to put our house on the market, and waiting for pre approval on a home loan so we can start seriously looking. Crazy busy, but all I want to do is eat pasta and sleep!

Sorry I've been MIA the past 10 days. We're still moving from one temporary house to the next waiting for our visas to move to the UK so things are a bit chaotic! Glad to read everyone is doing well.
@E that hospital experience sounds horrible. I had hospital birth for my first two but with minimal intervention thankfully (although still more than what I was comfortable with) but I can't say they were good experiences either. Definitely planning on a home birth if possible this time.
@Crystal glad you are feeling better about things and can't wait to hear good news from you after your next ultrasound! Also I had some spotting at random times for both of my healthy pregnancies (one at 11 weeks and the other around 20 weeks I think). It wasn't anything serious both times.
I'll be 12 weeks tomorrow and I have my first trimester screening in the morning. I'm a bit nervous and can't wait to make sure everything is ok. I got the results of my blood test screening (the one they do at 10 weeks for old ladies ) and everything was normal. I also found out we're having a girl. We ended up telling our kids last Tuesday and they were both very excited! It's actually making me even more nervous because if anything is wrong I think they will be really upset (especially my daughter who is almost 6), It was time to tell them though because they could tell something was up and my daughter was starting to ask questions and worry about why I was tired, having doctor appointments...etc.

@Dragonfly I think I could have written this post. Taking my kids to get something done is often a disaster and my daughter encouraging her younger brother to misbehave is common occurrence! Also my husband definitely has way more patience with the kids than with me. I guess that’s a good thing because I would hate for him to lose his temper with them but always being the one on the receiving end of any bad mood is not fun! Hope you had some better days since then.

My first trimester screening went really well last week but then I woke up in the middle of the night with some brown spotting about an hour ago so I am now freeking out! We just drove down yesterday to visit my husband’s parents so we are staying at a hotel 2 hrs away from where my doctor’s practice is. I’ll call first thing in the morning and see what the doctor says but am assuming I’ll have to go to the ER yo get checked out. . I know it doesn’t necessarily means I am miscarrying but with my history it is really concerning. Plus there is no reason why I would be spotting (no recent pelvic exam and we haven’t BDed in a week). My cervix also is low and feels really soft right now

@agatch. I hope things are going well and that the brown spotting is just implantation bleed finally working its way out. I know how you feel with that as I had it with my last pregnancy. We are in the same boat with how our children are "trouble makers". It's very stressing. My son loves to be kind to his big sister and she craps (gets mad) on him. I feel sorry for him somedays. Hope she grows out of it soon.

Other than that, I hope everyone is doing well.

AFM. I made rainbow cake cupcakes as a way of anouncing my pregnancy to my parents and tomorrow we are going to visit my grandma (kids great-grandma). I'm anxious and hope it goes well; then bite the bullet and see my mom and dad.

Here are the cupcakes that I made today before it got too hot outside (+34C) and for my first time they turned out pretty good. I still have to put icing on them. I hope you all can see what my intention/plan was. I hope they can see it too. Keep you posted.

Oh wow Dragonfly!! What a great belly for 16wks! Very pretty. I always just look fat at 16 weeks lol. I haven't had a nice belly on me till in the 20s.

@calvingirl. Thank you. I thought most of it is due to bloating.

So, I told my grandma and she's excited for us. She said to me that I looked big but didn't sink in yet. She figured it out when I told her to name the colors; then it did. Phoned her when I got home and we chatted briefly. Then she said, God will take care of you and that I have a pretty good job. I like what I do and better than what it was when I first started almost 11 years ago.

Hope everyone is doing well and keeping safe.

Dragonfly, what a beautiful belly! I'm just looking pretty chunky at 11 weeks now. I'm so glad your Grandma took the news well! Fingers crossed your parents do too!