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Hey there. Just wanted to say that i've been going through the initial round of consultation and appointments with RE. I'm 41 and we don't have a lot of time to "waste." I have felt like we have been wasting time from the first appointment because they want you to do the testing at certain points of your cycle and then you have to wait for an appointment to meet with the doc to interpret the results. So i feel your frustration. On top of that, we got a BFP naturally in March and then lost the baby at 7 weeks. So it has been a roller coaster for sure and i always feel like time is slipping away. I just have to remind myself that when it is meant to happen, it will happen. It is mostly out of my control. Also, we don't have any insurance so they whole process so far has been expensive and will only get worse if we have to go for IVF. So i would say please be grateful you have any coverage at all, because a lot of us don't have any. That being said, i certainly understand your frustrations with the timing but try to remember that when it is meant to be it will happen. God has a plan. Good luck to you!

You are totally right Lisa. I know I should be grateful with the insurance issue. Its just been a really long yr and a half. Even with that I know people have been trying for even longer than that. I just think I am mentally drained. My husband and I have discussed maybe taking a month off just to give us a break and I think that's what we might do if this first round of IUI with injectable doesn't work. But again even that gives me anxiety because what if we do take that month off and that was the month we would have conceived lol.

Like i said it will happen when it is supposed to. If something is telling you to take a month off, then there is a reason and you should listen to that little voice in your head! My DH always tells me one month isn't going to make a big difference in fertility even tho i'm older and reaching the end of the line. Really one month won't be the edge of the cliff, as they say. If you want to take a break, then i think you should! I'm so happy for you that you have the insurance coverage. I really wish that i did. Maybe next year when we price our insurance options I will look for a plan that provides some coverage in case we are still trying.