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LOL!! I love your JE. I swear I have to save this one, just to give me a good laugh everyonce and awhile. I am sorry I know I am laughing at your expense, but do you know how often I feel the same way. Go mama bear!! Hope they don't stay too long.

Ya know, they say animals are the best judges of character...haha. Although we don't have children, we go through similar things with my in laws, particularly my MIL and her family. They are retched people! Good luck lady! I'm sure we could all pitch in for bail money if necessary ;)

Your comments are too funny!!! I know it's truly hard/sad, but my mother, whom I love dearly, has similar "boundary issues". Good thing she doesn't live close =). My dad is a lot better. Dh gets caught in the middle =(. They also ask us, separately, the same questions, too! The only way for mom to not get in between my dh & I is for ME to stick up for him/us & create boundaries. I think in these situations it is the child of the parent with issues who has to stand up for their home life/spouse.

To sum up: be polite, yet firm if something is a big deal to you. Pick your battles, then straighten out one at a time/visit. You & dh choose ahead of time to set certain boundaries ie pick a day/time in advance. CHOOSE not to fight with dh about it-you have to discuss things before hand w/dh. Sometimes some people subconsciously enjoy creating drama b/c it gives them the control. Decide to accept (ie tolerate, lol!) her despite her flaws, after all, they are your famil

Woohoo for bail money...ur making it all wayyy too tempting!! ;)

As for boundaries, o-m-f-g, Ive been trying for years. I still cant get her to take her shoes off. And hubs has to be pushed to his limits before he'll say anything. The last time he blew up was in 2003 when she called him at work to tell him he needed to "divorce that bitch"...yup, I would be "that bitch". He knows I have a yap on me and wont tolerate much crap, so I guess he kinda slacks off becuz Im that way...Idk.
Im so bored...they never have anything to talk about. She always asks the same questions. It drives me IN-SANE!!

I logged back in now, just to see what you wrote. I laugh every time I read your post, even the headline, lol. I'm sorry...I'm in the boring tww, what can I say? Just try and hold the peace & hopefully she'll be gone before you know it. Good thing she doesn't live with you, lol!! I think I would pitch in for bail money for you then. Hang in there. Stress is not good for us tying to conceivers. xx

Wow your MIL sounds absolutely charming lol "divorce that bitch"--seriously who says that to their son about the woman he loves?! GL I would suggest sneaking in a glass of wine, or something stronger, but that's not very sound TTC advice. GL

"Hopefully she'll be gone before u know it"...lol dont tease me!! Oh u meant gone hoooome lmao, yeah theyre gone! Hubs offered me some retail therapy if I kept my trap shut. It was shut...no one said anything about glares tho. Hubs said something about them doing the long drive (it takes them 5hrs...I do it in 2.5 w/ 2 pee stops) and staying for 2hrs...she pipes up to say she wanted to see Braelyn so bad so she doesnt mind the drive...lovely thing to say when ur grandson is in the room as well. They fuss over the baby so much that they dont see how much it hurts our son. The last thing I want is for him to feel like she's held at a higher level than him. I do my best to make sure he knows he's loved, but shit like that...Idk, they just dont think before they speak and it pisses me off.
Lol Sonata! Shes a real piece of...work! The whole family's fucked up. Hubs even said if they didnt invite themselves they'd never end up coming cuz we dont invite 'em! He has a point lol!!

Shit, I wish my hubby offered retail therapy! My hubby's moms side has tried a million times to run me off but he's smart enough to know that their main concern is control. With me in the picture, they can't run his life and it drives them batty. I saw it from the beginning. They once tried to feed him anti depressants because "he was always so angry" but lied and said they were vitamins. When I told him what it was he flipped. I butted in (of course ;)) and said "he's not angry, you just piss him the fuck off!" Good luck with future visits!! I'm always good for bail money!

Omg, thats horrible! Id be scared to have my kids around ppl like that, u cant just drug ppl into being what u want lol...wow! When I started dating my husband, his mom used to get his bank balances from the teller and question where his money went, how much he made etc. It was a small town so the bank wasnt too concerned with privacy if u were the mom. 7 months later we made it a joint account and I made it very clear the bank was to give no info to anyone...that didnt sit well with her. Then we moved in together a cpl months later and she wasnt given a key...that didnt fly well either. She hated me for taking her son from her, but I didnt take him, he was already on the way out. She drove him away and I was the scapegoat...it just got worse from there. Theres a lot of history between us and unfortunately none of it is good. I should write a j/e about last Christmas lol!
Im good for bail too...hell, we'll share a cell hahahah! =))

Damn!!!! She sounds horrible!! Hopefully it'll be over soon and you won't have to see her again for a long time!!