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It will happen but I know it is so depressing every month to get BFN'S... Maybe you should try not talking about it to your husband so much and just kind of planning every step that way it doesn't seem like your obsessed to him... you shouldn't give up, but I heard that lots of women concieve after going on a little break... you may want to try that...

I don't think you should give up on it..
trust me, i know its hard. some days i'm so angry over everything and how hard it is but we just have to keep moving forward. you might want to take a break from actively "trying" for a few months and decide..i'm not getting pregnant for 3 months or 6 months and take no tests or no charting and just BE.
I try not to tell my husband too much of the extremity of my obsessiveness with ttc for similar reason and for other reasons because he also gets excited every month and gets disappointed. I think men just can't understand what women go through when trying to concieve.

Thank you both Destiny and Angeluv for your comments. I feel better today,..and yes I'm gonna have to keep things for myself from now on. Men definitely don't understand what we go thru when it comes to TTC. I'm trying to relax a bit more. I stopped taking HPTs since last Monday. Not that I gave up,..I just decided to wait for my next AF, or my next doctor's appointment, whatever comes first...
Is hard to keep hoping, but is ever harder to give up.

Thank you girls. Let's keep going!! :)

I know exactly what ur talking about. I keep a journal where I write down symptoms and stuff and I lost count of how many times I've written "this is it,..I'm quitting. No more keeping track, no more OPKs...nothing"...but then I always end up hoping for next month.
You're right. Men just DON'T understand.
Im just scared this won't happen to me, because I fear if is some kind of issue that needs those expensive treatments...then I'll be really out. I dont have the kind of resources for IVF or surgeries, or hormone treatments, and I think to myself... Does that mean regular "little over minimum wage" type of people are not meant to be parents when it comes to fertility issues??... :(

I feel you.... Never give up on your dream. It's coming, however don't give up. I use to say dreams aren't meant to stay what that are called. They are meant to become a reality. So hang in there. Our men don't fully understand. It's not there fault, it just they don't understand or know the feeling. Keep trying

Thank you girls for all your support. Well today is day 3 of AF, and I wont lie, before AF started I actually still had hopes on my ultrasound next week. I thought "what if I'm one of those rare cases where you don't show a BFP on a HPT, but maybe I could still get a big surprise on the ultrasound" ....or "what if I come out of my next appointment with tears of joy???"... So silly...
Now AF really hit me, its letting me have it for all I didn't get since May 8...its day 3 and still super heavy.
Yesterday I kept thinking how I've neglected my relationship, my house, my job, my family and friendships.
I've been so focused on myself and my fertility issues I've been forgetting about everything else...

Does anybody else feel like this? If so, what can I do?