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You're not alone. Miscarriage is so painful regardless of how far along you are.. especially if you've been trying for a while. You'll let go when you feel strong enough. When you feel ready to put your emotions to the future and try again. All the best and best of luck...

I had the same thing happen to me last month. Finally, after 2+ years of trying, i saw 2 lines. DH and i were so crushed when i turned out to be a chemical. That was 4 weeks ago and i just now threw those tests out. It was tough to move on to the next month. I wish you the best of luck this month!

I just went through a chemical pregnancy last month as well. I also had a miscarriage at 15 weeks this past December after TTC for 2 years. Everyone is different and grieves in their own way. For me, it helps to just focus on the month ahead. I can't change what happened and by looking to the future it keeps me thinking positively.

I went through the same thing last month and I still have my tests. I'm a psychologist and I know that it's only self-sabotaging to have them around but I just can't throw them out. I think I'll probably hold onto them until I get my next BFP. It's such a difficult situation to go through but we are all here to help each other!! We know exactly how you are feeling! Stay positive and hopeful!!

I had a miscarriage in Oct 2011.... I was packing up my house on Sunday and found all my tests I had taken the month I got my bfp... i was throwing things away and I put the bfp's on the counter and told dh "I cant part with these yet"..... and then all of a sudden I grabbed them and threw them all out (I had ALOT of tests)... I dont know why I threw them out, I thought to myself "this is your month so toss these so you can have new bfp's" and they went in the garbage. I think its normal to hold onto the tests and I think you will part with them when its your time. I feel much better now that I have thrown mine out, I cant go one day without thinking about about my m/c and it still hurts me emotionally/mentally but I think I just reached the point where I had to accept it, throw them out and be positive about this cycle. Best of luck to you, Im so sorry for your loss... Baby dust!!!

I had a MC in June 2011 and still TTC. I understand wanting to hold on to them. I held on to mine until almost Christmas when I decided that MC are a part of many women's lives and I needed to get over my grief and let go. It is amazing how many friends I have found that also had a MC and I was not the only one who had to go through this horrific tragedy. I am sorry about your MC and hope you can eventually find peace but for now if keeping the HPT makes you feel better then hold on to them a little longer.

Thank you all for your responses, it's helped me not feel so crazy :) It's been over a month and I'm getting to the point where I feel a little better about it. Back in November I had my Mirena removed and at least now I know all of my "plumbing" is in working order and I can actually conceive now. Now I just have to pick myself up, dust myself off and keep moving forward. I have my fingers crossed for this month and I hope all of you get your BFP real soon :) Thanks again!

You are definitely not alone. I still have my positive test from over a year ago when I had a miscarriage. We all grieve differently and some might want to hang onto something that someone else might feel like they need to throw out and get past. I'm sorry for your loss.