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Shay, don't be sorry. I question why God allows horrible things to happen to babies and young children. Of all of the things I question, that is highest on my list. We had a tragic accident at a church daycare here where a 4 year old little girl was playing in the gym and a scene prop for one of their productions came untethered from a cart and fell on her when she went to get a ball from under it. She lived through it, but they were never able to get her to come back to, and she died at the hospital. A friend of mine from work told me about her son-in-law being the one who picked it up off of her and doing CPR on her. He was there to pick up his kids when it happened, and the little girl had told one of the workers the ball was under it, and the lady said, "Well, go get it, honey," because they were so heavy & so tightly strapped down they weren't seen as a danger. My daughter was also 4 at the time.

Just about a week before that happened, a local preacher's son died in a small train accident when it derailed over a little overpass above a rocky creek in a park nearby. His whole family was on there, and his mother was very pregnant with their 4th child. My son used to play for the preacher's football team, and I remember that happy little boy smiling all the time. His parents were so gracious and forgiving and thankful for the time they had him here. All I could think about was her losing one child while trying to be happy about the joyous addition of their daughter.

As a mother, I see danger everywhere, and it was like I started worrying about every little thing to excess. The only thing that got me through it was thinking maybe He saw something so awful in their futures that God decided they needed to come on home to spare them from that pain. I don't know if that will help you at all, but it gave me comfort.

Wow! That is some scary stuff.
Right now the way i look at it is God needed him more then we did but i tell god every night that he is just baby sitting till the day i can come get him and i thank him and tell him to play games with him and teach him how to play baseball because mommy and daddy thought he could of been their little sports star!
I know he is no doubt happy up there I just wish we could have held him or had a chance to say good bye.

Shay - every mother who experiences that type of loss should be given that opportunity. I'm so sorry you weren't.

Hi ladies! I just want to cry for you two right now! I am so sorry what you ladies have gone through. You are so much tougher than I am, I don't think I could have gone through the things you ladies have had to endure. I respect you so much!
Not alot happened at the Fertility Doc today- just an initial consultation. Gonna do some hormone testing and such once AF rears her ugly head this month, along with a semen analysis my DH is far from excited about.
Probably won't be on much tonight- I feel terrible- apparently an ugly cold has made it's way to me and I am drained!
I am thinking and praying for you ladies. All my love to every single one of you!!

Lmpotts - feeling drained & having a cold can be preggo symptoms!

Girl, don't get me excited!! Lol. I took a test yesterday (9 dpo) and the day before and both were bfn. I'm certainly not gonna give up hope until the wicked witch comes though! Thanks for the inspiration!! I love you girls!

Impotts- I agree with Phat & id say test again tomorrow 11-12 dpo.
Good Luck Hun, & everybodie endures their own hardships i am sure there has been something happen to you that i couldnt imagine happening to me, Its great friends like you and these ladies & family that get you through it. <3 Get some rest hun and i hope you feel better or get your BFP!

YOU'RE MAKING ME CRY!!!! I dont know if I could go to the party but at the same time, it's almost better to celebrate God creating your son than be home depressed and crying. Growing up I always wondered why God called babies and children home too, even after my miscarriage I wondered. But my pastor said something one day that jolted my soul...we ALL have a purpose here on earth...ALL of us. Including the unborn and children. Some of us fulfill our purpose later in life and some fulfill it before our first breath. There are no mistakes! Even though our babies seemed like only pictures on a sonogram...they changed our lives and their short presence on earth...changed history. That small innocent creation that was lost too soon, fulfilled their purpose that God gave them. Some of us may have many purposes and live longer lives while others were sent to change our history in only a few years, months or even days. And even though we want our children with us til our last breath...they are in a better place than we could ever provide....in the arms of Jesus as he sings them lullabies

On another sad note...Dh fell asleep and I didnt get any nookie!!!

so i been writing a poem which i have loved to do since i was little im also going to start writing a TTC book about how i feel while TTC so if i have a girl and when she TTC she will know her mum felt the same way and its also fun to look back on .

i will post my poem but remember i wrote it so if its not good please be nice lol

mummy and daddy long for you so bad
mummy keeps getting one line that makes her mad
we know deep down our blessing will come when the time is right
but some times we just cant see the light
as the months go by
our emoticons are spinning some times we cry

one day we will hold you tight
but right now i need to remember when the time is right
you will be loved
you will be hugged
but untill that day we will plan
plan the months till we see you on that scan

a child is a gift from up above
and when that gift comes we will shower them with love
so no matter how hard its going to be
i will sit tight till i can tell everybody about baby and me
we are going to be getting ready for you to come
when ever god thinks the time is right so i wont be glum

so one day i will look at this and know it was all worth it to be called that one word MUM

Is it just me, or does it seem like there have been tons of + in the image galleryin the last week?

Tara - I need some professional advice. My top vertebrae on my back, the big one just before it becomes your neck & starts to curve in, is very tight feeling &when I try to rub around it or press on it to try to relieve strain or pressure, it is very sore. It's been this way for about a month, and I can't tell if it's some sort of muscle strain or a serious injury from sleeping in weird positions to avoid lying on my daughter because she tries to scooch up under me. When I press on it, I feel a shooting pain, too, that seems to go about one vertebrae further down my back. Any suggestions?