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Oh Lolo, I am so so sorry.

Thanks for your sympathies and condolences.

The RN says since my numbers are so low now that there isn't any chance the fetus is still in me and since I never saw any clotting come out that is why I believe I was much earlier in the pregnancy than I thought. I just wish I understood as to why I have had 2 mc's now. But sadly I don't think the doctor will be able to do any further testing until I have another loss.

I just don't know if I want to continue trying on my own after I have a period that is or if I should wait for 2 periods now and plan on getting an IUI for a late Dec baby. It would be cheaper if we tried on our own but I don't know if my heart can take another loss...but as we know IUI's are obviously no guarantee either. *sigh* I just don't know what to do.

Oh Lolo, I don't know what to say other than I am truly sorry. It is such a heart breaking thing. You go from a happy high to a devastating low.

Afm : I am trying not to get to excited because we know all to well what can happen

Hey Lolo, I just wanted to check in on you and see how you are doing.

Hi Ladies,

Hope you all had a great weekend!

lele79: Thank you checking in on me.

AFM: Well, I got "hopefully" my last blood test for this pregnancy done this morning. When they call with the results that is when I will be making a follow up appt with the doc to see how I am doing.

Except for feeling a bit off this past week, feels like when you are just coming off of a cold or flu, kinda like that light headed feeling or daze...but for the most part I am feeling OK. I feel like I am doing better than I did the last time. Not really sure why. The only thing I am dreading is now that I have had 2 mc's and the holidays are now officially over, DH and I are telling our parents that we have had 2 mc's now. It has been so hard not telling them and I think I will feel better if I just come out and tell them. I tell my mom everything and not sharing this with her has been extremely hard. I just can't do it anymore. So, the last thing I wanted to do was tell them at a restaurant but they are dying to try out this new place so hopefully having both sets of parents there it will just be easier. My mom can get emotional when she knows something sad has happened and that is why I would have preferred telling them at home but hopefully she will take it better than I think she will. Maybe I will wait til the end of dinner before I tell them...that way I don't ruin their experience at this new restaurant and they can enjoy their food...? Hmmm.

Oh LoLo, that's so hard. :( But I hope you find comfort and support in telling them.

Afm ,10dpo and ugh. I feel like af is going to start, but I also fel things like before my last . I'm so confused! I wish there were clear signs for each. I'll keep testing each day until either af or a positive!!!

tcinks: Thanks. Hope you see your BFP this time around.

AFM: Well, I told my parents the news last night. My mom took it exactly how I thought she would...teary eyed but tried to hold it together, probably because we were out at a restaurant. My dad took it better than I thought he would and he was saying how great it was and that we are on the right track and how optimistic this is and blah blah blah. To be honest I wasn't sure how to take it. He said that his Aunt on his mom's side, had 12 mc's and ended up adopting 2 kids before finally getting pregnant and having a healthy boy. Well, I know he was trying to make me feel better and that it will happen but I'm sorry that sorta freaked me out. Makes me think that there really is a genetic problem and that I will probably end up having more mc's too...before we get lucky. My mom while we were in the bathroom before leaving the restaurant said she had one as well. I told her sorry to hear that and then she said that it was fine because it was before she met my father. I am glad they know now...I just now fear that I have some sort of genetic problem keeping me from getting pregnant.

I know I keep going back and forth with this but I have decided that we are going to wait the 2 periods and do an IUI. The first IUI I know something started to form and maybe this time, with the help of the meds, it will form and we will get lucky. If we do get lucky and it doesn't stick then that will be our 3rd mc and we will be able to get special genetic testing done to see why we can't get pregnant. Maybe then we will find out if it is genetics on my side or not. If we do get lucky then my due date will be Dec.

I am also feeling concerned that somethings not quite right...I am using OPK's and I haven't see even a close +OPK yet. I know cycles can get weird after a MC...I just hope I see something normal here soon. I just went to the bathroom and had a glob of cloudy ewcm come out of me...I wish I could say that it was normal but the last time I had a lot of it come out like that was when I had the HCG shot...and still confused because of how negative my OPK looked this morning. Guess we will see what happens. I know it's no big deal since we aren't trying but I like to see if things return to normal...ya know?

Hi there everyone, hope everyone is doing a bit better today. It's been a few weeks since I posted here. I'm on Cycle day 5 today. This cycle doctor prescribed 50mg fertomid (generic clomid) cycle days 5 to 9 and metformin 500mg. Emotionally I feel a bit better but I am very cautious to try ttc after MC, I feel i'm ready but i'm just scared that things will go South again. I've been praying so hard for my rainbow baby. hopefully our prayers will be answered this cycle. I know I shouldn't but a began smoking again it seemed to help with the coping of our loss. I also drink coffee like crazy and I've gained some weight
So scared that all of this will have a negative impact on getting my
I can quit smoking and drink less coffee but the weight gain is hard to get of because I have pcos

I'm hoping that this year we will all be posting our success stories here

Praying4miracle1: I know if I could've I would've started smoking again too...but glad I didn't. The stress was definitely there. Instead I allowed myself to have a few drinks here and there. I remembered how hard it was to quit smoking for me 8 years ago and I just had to remind myself of that. But I think if you are able to quit smoking it shouldn't impact your chances. Hope you get lucky this month.

I know I will be a wreck when it comes time for me to do the next IUI in hopefully March. The RN suggested we wait the 2 periods after the first mc and the doctor said we could try on our own after one period...so we did and after we got lucky and then sadly lost it again, I decided I will wait the 2 periods this time around until we try another IUI. After 2 losses I am having a very hard time with the idea of going through another loss and pray that the next time I have my IUI it sticks.

Hi laddies hope you are all well

Lolo1176: I hope when you do your next IUI that it will be the most stickiest bean ever
It isn't easy to stop smoking I should have never began again. But like I said it was a comfort. I do know that if I do conceive this cycle that I will drop the smoking like a hot potato. Will do anything for my little bean

Here is to hope, praying and lots of

Will keep you posted how things go for me