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Thats awesome Violet!! I'm excited to hear how the ultrasound goes! Be happy with it, you've earned it :)

Hubs said I should call tomorrow too. I told him I emailed and he was like "Why don't you just call..that way you can get an answer right away" lol My IVF nurse told me it could take 3 weeks or so, its now been 2 so I don't want to seem TOO pushy expecting them to find someone, I don't know what I would even say if I called. They've been very responsive via email up until now though..I wish she would just give a little update.

Congrats Violet!! That's so good to hear! You can breathe a little easier now. Yay for ultrasounds!!

Babybump-- you sound like me! I always avoid calling the nurse, probably because I subconsciously want to avoid bad news or hearing what I don't want to hear. But I inevitably feel better once I'm informed. I would call-- worst case she's still working on it.

Well the problem for me is they have a nurse who's sole job is being in charge of the donors and matching, and I've never met her in person! My IVF nurse (who I'm sure y'all know basically becomes your BFF) gave us the paperwork for fill out for our profile and we emailed it to the donor nurse. So I've never actually spoken to her except for email, which is why its weird she isn't responding this time. I know if I message my IVF nurse though she'll give me a response, so I may do that instead because I'm too much of a pansy to call and say something like "hey just wanted to let you know I'm still waiting..so..whats up"

Haha! Well hopefully your ivf nurse can be a good intermediary. I hope you get good news about a match soon!!

That's such a reassurance to see that ivf actually does work

Ive started ivf in Feb for the 1st time . Am 39 and DH 42 . My transfer was on 2/12 at 3DT . Been having all the symptoms you read about ever since that day . Today my AF is due and no sign of it ...however am still seeing negative on HPT . My blood test is due 2/27

When have you guys got a positive in HPT ...Am so skeptical

Hi Happiness! Since you did a 3 day transfer, it may be too early to test. I did a 5 day embryo transfer and got my first positive at 6 days past, so the equivalent of 8 days past for you. If your beta isn't scheduled for a few more days, I wouldn't count yourself out.

Are you taking progesterone and estradiol? I'm pretty sure for me the progesterone really contributed to my "symptoms"... sore boobs and night sweats and cramping.

Did you do a fresh transfer right after your retrieval? One embryo? Any frozen? My fresh embryo was the positive but my beta dropped at 5 wks and I mc'd. We're doing a frozen cycle now.

Yeah ...holding it through till Monday for the Beta

Have been on progesterone supplementation since my transfer ...so yeah I guess it could have contributed to the symptoms ...I did get some spotting which I think was implantation related on 7DPO & 8DPO ... still not ruling myself out ...

I finally heard back from our donor search nurse..she said it could be several months before we are matched with anyone. Ughhhh. I feel like I've waited several months already. This is just a rough process all around.

babybump: several months??? why so long? I would think they would have hundreds of donors, no? OMG - how frustrating. I'm sure it won't take that long. Maybe they are just trying to give you worst case scenario.

Happiness, how did the beta go today?

Taurio, how is everything going on the frozen cycle?

That was about my reaction too! I'm going to a clinic in the state capital, and I live in the south so I think the donor pool may be smaller in the ethnicity that we desire. There are 2 other couples in front of us too they keep saying, and I guess everyone wants a tall blonde hair/blue eyed baby so any donors they do find are going to those couples first. It just sucks. And with hubs going through chemo we can't even be trying naturally just to appease the time. I'm just so sick of waiting and so angry at my body for failing so badly.

I hope everything is going well for all of you though! I'm so happy there are so many of us going through *generally* the same thing!