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No, I haven't done anything but blood work, which is why I'm going to see someone who is in the business of women and babies rather than my PCP. What did your ultrasound entail??

Did you see the specialist?

My ultrasound was all good actually thankfully.

What do they do, since I'll probably be having one? I see my GYN on the 30th. Once again, similar to last cycle but much more pronounced, I am cramping, bloated and starving as if AF will be here ASAP. It started last Thursday and she still isn't here. I'm confused and a little bit scared...

the ultrasound- just check ur pelvis and confirm everything is working in order etc, but did you have one when they said you had pcos? its the same type of ultrasound I believe.

Some of the things ur mentioning seem consistent with pregnancy? did you do a test?

Hi ladies, I just need a shoulder to lean on other than my hubby and family.... So a little background info about me: I am 26 yrs old, husband is 31 yrs old, been together 5 yrs, my husband and I made the decision last August to try for our first baby and neither of us thought we would have issues getting pregnant, but unfortunately we are. I get ovarian cysts from time to time, about 4/5 a year, so that means about 45% of the year I can't conceive. And this little "happy" fact next is why I need to talk to someone other than family: my 22 yr old sister told the family on Mother's Day she's pregnant, she wasn't trying, was by accident she was switching birth control and oops she's pregnant. She's now a little over 3 months. I've been off any contraception for 7 yrs now, all my husband and I were using before were condoms. And now don't get me wrong I am soooo happy for my sister and so excited for her and I've been going to the Drs with her too, but every month I end up seeing AF I can't help but cry and think and say why wasn't it me first!? Why couldn't I be the one to tell everybody I'm going to be a mom first. My mother understands why I get upset but she says just be happy for my sister. I'm not trying to take her happy moment away from her but why can't it be me, I'm the one who's trying for a baby, who's married, who isn't living in their bfs parents home. I'm just upset and frustrated at this point....

Maggie: I haven't been diagnosed with PCOS (yet?). It's just a fear I have and will hopefully be able to put to rest after my appointment. My ovarian area on the left is tender... It ached when I laid on my stomach this morning. Probably a bad sign.

Kristyyylee: Welcome! Sadly but luckily, you are in good company with your current woes. I am currently TTC my second while my man-whoring brother has his mistress (he's not divorced yet) pregnant with his third but she nor the wife is the mother of his other two, whom he doesn't see or know. I am married, my husband is military in the medical field, I have a college degree, a house. and I have my mess together but I'm struggling? The first thing I do is tell myself that we all have different struggles. Since he has no skills or education, he will constantly struggle to support his family. While we are more comfortable and have options, we obviously struggle with conceiving. I'm sorry it is so hard on your first one but, even if you didn't get to announce it first, your family and friends will be most excited for yours. As bad as it may sound, they are probably all wondering about your sister's future with the baby's father, their living arrangements as baby grows, and less with just joy for your sister. Your child will be prayed for and longed for, making them a treasure anxiously waited and more adored. That's just been my experience.

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That's what I keep telling myself that when the day comes when I get that positive it will be the 2nd best day of my life (1st is wedding day lol) and whenever I get to see the little bugger they will be loved so much! It's just not my time yet , I have faith it'll happen. And if not then the hubby and I will travel together.

Kristyyylee: Exactly. My husband and I have given ourselves a cutoff date of next January. If it doesn't take, it'll have to be unplanned and unprepared for and a lot less likely. To dampen the blow, we've scheduled another family trip to Disney for our son's first Spring Break next April. I love Disney and we're hoping it'll either be to celebrate a second pregnancy or a salve for my heart.

Kristyyylee: So sorry hun for your pain, I know its hard-when someone else is pregnant even though I am happy for them I do also wonder why not me and feel pain but I am trying to remember to trust God and that will happen soon. I got pregnant with my 1st born fast so I did not think it would be, going on 8 months of not getting pregnant. Its really the most stressful and hardest thing to go through and sometimes its good to come to things like this group to be more understood as we are all going through this right now weather with our 1st or trying to have our second etc. All the best. Never lose hope! Praying for your BFP soon.

Amanada: Oh my bad-thought you told me you did have PCOS, I think that was another member-sorry for being wrong. Its really good to have an ultrasound to see what is going on I agree.

Well, Maggie, I don't think it's PCOS... Doctor says my hCG is elevated so, as long as my retest tomorrow is doubling, I'm pregnant. :-)