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Honey..

You could spend your whole life waiting for everything to be perfect such as finaces, getting a newer home, a new job opportunity etc.. But it doesn't matter because something else may come up and he might feel like your not ready for a different reason. I think you should be open and honest with him, tell him how you feel, that there is no better time to start trying.. and trust me, sometimes it doesn't "just" happen.. It can take awhile.. Good Luck with it all, hope everything works out for you :)

Thank you so much. It's good to know someone understands!

I'm very sorry to hear you're going through that. It's tough. But I agree. Be open with him, try to make him see your reasons. It's true, I was even telling a colleague of mine - I don't think I personally know anyone who planned, and everything was just right, and they got pregnant right away. Either it JUST HAPPENED by accident at a not ideal time, or when the person decided to plan they had fertility issues. LOL...I'm sure there are people it happens for, but I don't think we're ever REALLy really ready for kids. We just think they are. They change everything. That being said, if everyone was to wait for the perfect time, there'd be a lot less people on the planet. No one would have kids. Right? Explain it to him, maybe he feels afraid, or insecure. Try to ease up his fears a bit. It's always a "scary" thing to have a baby. It's a life changing moment, and I get the impression that a lot of men in general are afraid of it, even if they want to. I hope everything works out for you two. =)

(((Positive vibes)))

He's being somewhat selfish. It's not like this is something that was just brought up. And trust me, there is no "perfect" time to be "ready" for children. Even if your finances are in order, something will come up, and you will get financially strapped for some reason. Just "oopsie". Bad to say, but I have a friend who did and she's now 5 months pregnant and DH is actually excited. Who knew? Good luck to you!