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So discouraged-- 5-6m TTC

For the record, I posted this on 'the bump' first and they were horrible. Their callous, snobby responses made me cry. >_> Is it like that on all TTC boards?

My husband and I have been married since 9/14 and have been TTC since day 1. We were both sexually inactive prior to the wedding. We are both 25 and I have no apparent health issues or problems with my cycle. I have never been on BC. I have always been very aware of my body, so I had a very good idea of when I was fertile each month prior to and since we've been married, and I've been charting for going on two months now (including temping).

But nothing is happening. We are BD'ing for nearly 2.5 weeks to get the time before and after ovulation (basically from the last day of my period until a week or so after ovulation), just in case, using Preseed, I'm taking prenatals and he's trying to eat foods rich in anti-oxidants etc etc. We are both relatively healthy weights (maybe could lose 5-10lbs but nothing serious). My LP appears to be 14 days, and last month I O'd on CD12 (this month, it's CD14 and I'm still waiting, but I think it'll be in the next few days).

I have a breakdown every month that I get my period, and this past month when AF arrived I decided to make a doctor's appointment. I'm going in February, but in the meantime, I have just found out 3 more people I know are pregnant, including my sister in law, who is over 30 and still nursing a baby who had complications during pregnancy. I got a text from a 'friend' this morning asking "So when are you going to get pregnant? Wasn't it supposed to happen right away?!" as she is nearing her own due date in March, and I burst into tears. I can't even handle characters on TV shows we are watching being pregnant anymore. Facebook is a torment as I see baby pictures and hear about so and so hearing the baby's heartbeat for the first time, or so and so posting a picture now that she's showing, and so on and so on. It's horrible.

I know we haven't been TTC that long, but it seems like if we are timing our BD'ing for more than enough of my fertile time and beyond, for 5 going on 6 months, we should have had some results. What are we doing wrong? Can anybody give me some encouragement? I cry all the time and can't focus on anything but this (and I'm trying--I know that obsessing can only make it harder), and it's starting to wear on DH. He's patient and kind, but he can only take so much of me being a basketcase all month, and twice the basketcase when I get AF.

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