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Hi! I'm so sorry for your loss and it's good for you to vent even if people don't write or answer you. Alot of us women worry incessantly (I'm one of them) so we need to talk to someone so I'm here for you. You can write me/here anytime and I'll answer when I can!

It's great to have a hobby to take your mind off things, I've recently learned as well. My mind is also my worst enemy, my husband is always telling me that! ;) So kudos to you starting swimming again! The exercise is an added bonus!

Don't be sorry for raddling on or boring people! It's your right to talk and we're all here to help eachother!

Vent away! :)

I'm here, too. I agree with having a hobby and swimming seems like a low impact exercise that will only help you stay in shape for the next time. Yes, you will fall pregnant again!

I'm technically 10 weeks 2 days, but had a mc at 8 weeks. I picked up cytotec today, as I haven't started bleeding yet and opted to forgo the d&c (I'm scared of any type of surgery).

I know what you mean about people not knowing what to say after your mc. A good friend of mine has stopped calling, but said to call her if I needed to talk. I think it's just awkward for people and they don't know how to be supportive. In retrospect, I'm happy I didn't tell a lot of people, b/c it's nice to have a normal conversation to focus on other things besides this weird patch in our lives. You can also send me a message if you want.

I'm sorry for your loss. I also lost mine at 5 weeks, its not any easier regardless of how early it was, I'm sorry. Mine was in September and I still find it hard.

All I want to say to you is take a deep breath and spend some time pampering yourself, including the swimming etc. It'll happen again, dont worry. You're in my thoughts and prayers x

I'm right there with ya. I mc at 6 weeks. Afterward we started trying again bc doctor said we didn't need to wait then had a bunch of false positives a month later bc of past mc. So now my partner is scared to try bc he scared we will lose another child. He swears up and down he wants a baby but is scared. We have kept trying, I work 12 hr midnights and him 12 hr days. We see each other at shift change. Tonight we both are home and my app on phone says perfect day that we need to bd today! My opks been positive and surprise he is too tired and sleeping as I sit here crying writing on here looking for answers to my feelings. Some parts of me wants to quit trying. I just keep crying and have no one to talk to anymore. All of my friends who have miscarried were pregnant within 2 months of mc. They have lost interest in hearing me. Sorry for ranting. Just understand

You're going to be okay. I had a m/c at 6 weeks in november 2013, and then my next cycle I m/c again...50 days later. So I had a 50 day cycle where i tested every other day for three weeks, and then m/c a day after getting a BFP. It made me feel crazy, like I imagined I was pregnant. We weren't trying - we didn't even have sex until right before I was due to get my period, but it turned out I unexpectedly ovulated right after. We gave my body two cycles to recover and they have been really normal with normal ovulation. I had some fertility tests done during those aforementioned 50 days and everything was normal. M/Cs are hard, and so is TTC! It is really difficult to feel like you are in control of your life when it can all change so drastically so quickly. Definitely remember to make sure you are taking care of yourself and your needs - the things that keep your mind and body healthy. Knowing that there are other people out there feeling the things you feel can help, but you know yourself best. Grieve when you need to, but remember this is not your fault and you are not being punished in some way. We are at the mercy of nature. Take care.

Hi ladies sorry for such a long wait on the reply. I decided to try and not dwell on it and concentrate on my impending ovulation and positive thinking. I'm so sorry for all your loses, it's such a tough time isn't it. I'm still having my odd bad day but it doesn't feel like it's engulfing me so much anymore. Damn hormones ay!
I'm currently on CD 26 after the m/c, would normally be half way through my TWW but I have yet to ovulate this cycle. Was this the case for any of you? This is naturally causing the most of my worry now. I thought as it was such an early loss my body would bounce back, it definitely is not the case. I can't see my age being any sort of factor, I'm 27, my hcg levels were just 3 on the blood test so I'm sure would have returned to zero the day or next after. Just another waiting game I guess.
Sarah, I completely understand the friends pregnancy part. One of my partners friend found out the day we did, told us so we felt obliged to tell them. I of course lost and there she is having all the things I should be having right now. Find it very hard talking to them at the moment. Selfish on my part of course but that's how I'm feeling right now.
Edisaster I'm also testing like crazy. Although I know I haven't ovulated I manage to convince myself that I must have missed it somehow and actually I'm just on my TWW. even more crazy is that this is far too early for me to be testing on a normal cycle let alone after the m/c!
Eat2nourish, 10weeks must have been very hard to take. How are you doing now? As 5weeks was just horrific for me I can't imagine how you must have felt. :-(
Candi thanks for the support!

Xx

Hi all,
Toughts with all of you that have had to go through this.

I have just had a second MC in 7 months. The two experiences are playing out very diffeently. First time MMC, scan with heatbeat at 7 weeks, stopped growing at 9 weeks and began bleeding at 11. Had a D&C as was the best option for me at the time. Bled on and off for ages and many trips to GP and OBGYN and was brushed off as already have on child and was 'all bad luck' statistics. I self referred to OBGYN to ask if odd bleeding would affect a new conception on pregnancy. Was told not and that i should be on the olympic team for conception... raa.

This recent pregnancy attempted to not be the hypercondriac but stopped feeling preg sick at 9 weeks. Scan at 8 weeks showed 7.1 gest age. I was a bit suspicious. Bleeding started at 11 weeks, another MMC. But naturally miscarried and ended up in hospital 16.04.14 after 3 hours of unconrolled bleeding..... not the simple route.

Last time i was gobsmacked, and this time still mad that it has happened to me again after all the 'shell be rite' reassurances. AND In the off chance that there is something other than bad luck playing a part, i attempted to get screening done and was brushed off.

Last time i realised that i was an overthinker and buried my overactive mind in cross stitch and getting back to running. still it was veeery hard not to jump on here and over analyse anything and everything.

I have agood friend who has the misfortune of many miscarriages and she is by far the easiest to empathise with/to talk to. But dont hide it, talk about it and realise form your experience that until you have been through it you just dont know. It is a hard topic.
I hurts still for both, most times of the day are fine and then it catches you again. Stay strong, keep hope and keep moving.

Bb2pls.

Hello ladies. Just having a hard day so I thought I'd read all your thoughts that are so similar to mine. I had a D&C after no heartbeat back in March. We waited for a cycle but then decided to cautiously try on the second cycle.

The whole TWW I was convinced that the symptoms were similar to the first time. I was so excited to take a pregnancy test and show my husband on the day that was also our wedding anniversary, 5/25, but lo and behold it was negative. I

t's just so hard TTC when you feel like counting where you would have been in your pregnancy had it worked out. Thank you ladies for being so strong and sharing your thoughts with me. It really helps on those days where you can't quite stay happy. Good luck to all.

PM I hear you... the milestone dates are hard. On the due date for mc 1 a good friend came over and announced she was prego and due on my dd of mc 2. I was so happy for her as she had her own hurdles but as soon as she left I was a mess. Tears.

fyi universe. Got a second opinion from a gynae specialist. Had hysteroscopy last week and tadaa.... scar tissue from rpoc missed and adhesion limiting exit of cervix... cause of odd bleeding. I was rite and specialist 1 did me a miss justice. Grrrrrr.
listen to your bodies ladies. You know you best.

Fingers crossed for a safe journey this next round.