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First post - TTC first child - not first pregnancy.
I want to say hi to all the lovely ladies who are in the same chapter in their lives as I am! I am 28 years old (29 on December 20th) and my husband and I are now actively trying for our first child.
In 2006 at the age of 22, my husband and I (then engaged) became pregnant while I was on birth control. I didn't know I was pregnant until 10 weeks and 5 days. I was not having normal periods. I spotted about when I should have had my AF, I assumed it was just an unusually light period since after all I was on birth control. I then later on started getting intense cramping. My intense cramping would be followed by an unusually scary amount of blood literally POURING out of me. I would wake up sometimes at night with an approximate 2' by 3' pile of blood around me. I could sit on the toilet and it sounded like a bucket of water (in this case blood) was dropping into the toilet out of me all at once. I couldn't go to work because no tampon or pad could stop it. The women in my family tend to have problems with their reproductive organs that resulted in a hysterectomy in both my mother and grandmother when in their 20's. My mom was very concerned I was following in their place and I may not be able to have kids. I went to the doctor and was sent to an immediate ultrasound. The funny thing is that during the ultrasound I saw my child on the screen and was in such denial it didn't register completely that I was pregnant. The ultrasound technician sent me back to the doctor immediately where because of being in denial it didn't occur to me what she was about to tell me. I was pregnant. I was hemorrhaging which explained the blood. I had now realized that during my 10 week pregnancy I was on antibiotics, Dilantin for possible seizures, had my wisdom teeth taken out, and was taking Ibuprofen for the wisdom teeth surgery pain for approximately a month during. This is in addition to having a mental illness which I was still getting under control at the time. It was not the right time for me physically or emotionally to carry the baby. This pregnancy did not last.
Now that I am trying to conceive I am praying this was a unique pregnancy not typical to me, but rather because of the circumstances at the time. I have spent years getting myself physically and mentally prepared for having a child. I am now ready, and I hope history does not repeat itself.
For everyone reading - have you ever had something similar? This is such an emotional, beautiful, yet terrifying process. I wish the possible risks weren't serious enough to have such a negative emotional and physical toll on us as women.
To all who are pregnant - congratulations! To all who are trying - I pray for the best possible outcome for all of you! To all who can't - I am so sorry. If only life could be fair. I can't even imagine the feeling I would have if I knew my experiences at this time in life were not a possibility.
Best wishes to you all!
3 Replies • 11 years ago
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Hi...
So sorry for what you've been through. My husband I and conceived at age 23, and I didn't make it past 6 weeks. I am a teacher, and I started to miscarry during our open house. It was awful because no one even knew I was pg yet except for my husband. I was devastated and seeking any outlet for the love I had for that lost baby. We held off trying and decided to buy a fixer upper house.
Flash forward to now, age 25, my husband is deploying in 3 months. We aren't actively trying, but we aren't preventing it either. I think being pregnant while he's deployed would save my sanity... Needless to say, I know when I ovulate and I time things accordingly. I am 10dpo and having symptoms... the same as before.
The prospect of being pg again is incredible... but SO scary. What if I miscarry again? How would I EVER live with myself???
Good luck to you!
11 years ago
I'm very sorry. Pregnancy is just filled with so many uncertainties. I hope things go perfect the next time around for you!
I know the approximate time of my ovulation, and I am very near where you are. What symptoms are you having? My last pregnancy I had experienced what may have possibly been implantation bleeding (I hope this explains it and it wasn't a pre-sign of the hemorrhaging). I have had slight dull cramps the past couple of days, and early today I had really diluted brownish spotting that I only got slightly on about two toilet papers (after pushing from a BM - it came from the vagina). It stopped and my cramping has somewhat been relieved. This could easily be a sign my period coming, although my periods don't usually play around, my first day is always my heaviest. I'm going to just relax and give it about 5-7 days to test because I don't think it would come back BFP in the next couple days either way. Besides, if my AF comes before then I won't have to spend money on a test.
I'm so very excited and I admit very impatient. I want to get through the pregnancy right away because I am not looking forward to the nine months. The pregnancy is ultimately not the goal, a healthy child is. If I make it through the entire nine months once getting pregnant and have a healthy child it will truly be a blessing.
Keep me updated on how things turn out! I'd love to know! Good luck!
PS - What state are you teaching? I know it's not likely that we would have any connection. I'm just interested. My husband was a teacher in Texas and I was a teacher's aide in the Special Ed and PPCD rooms at the same school. We moved back to Minnesota to be with family a year ago. He plans on finding a teaching position here when the hiring process starts in the spring.
11 years ago • Post starter
Well things are sounding promising for you!!!
Last time, I really only had two symptoms- I was SUPER thirsty, and I knew from the moment my husband and I did the deed that I would get pregnant.
This time, I have also been thirsty, but I feel like AF is coming. Like you, my af usually doesn't mess around either- the first day is the heaviest and then I spot for the next 2-3 days. I've had a few moments of af cramps that convince me this isn't my month, but I always hold on to that piece of hope.
Do you ever fear that it'll never happen? I torture myself with visions of being 40 and childless.
My best friend is teaching in Texas right now! I am in Connecticut though, in a nice comfortable district.
Keep me posted!!
11 years ago
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