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That's a tough question for anyone to try and answer without being judgemental. So sorry for the situation you are in. I personally could never abort a baby given that thousands of women are wishing for one. Men come and go, what if you abort then your relationships ends up not lasting? How would you feel? This is what I would think about. Ultimately it's your decision and ofcourse i dont know your situation, but if he's not ready at the age of 40 will he ever be ready to have a baby with you if u wanted one? Sorry dear, I am not judging you, I am just giving you my honest thoughts and opinions. At the end of the day it's upto you whatever you decide to do. Good luck

Oh you poor thing! Do not make any decision based on what you think your boyfriend wants. It must be based on what u want. I'm sorry, ok, I'm NOT sorry but at 40 ure man should know that baby making sex will lead to a baby. How dare he do this to you! It doesn't matter if he hates you for any decision you make or not he has already deceived you in the most atrocious way. Maybe this is just nerves talking on his part but honey please please listen to me! This is a time where you do what is right for you and this baby not your man. A man who loves you the way you should be loved would never put you in this position so either he steps up or he steps out. Do not make your decision based on what he wants. Lots and lots of hugs your way, be strong, be wise. Wow, I'm never this outspoken! Please pardon my rant?

7ayaty said this so well! He definitely should be ready at the age of 40. Im not trying to judge either but I have heard of situations where women have abortions and then a few years down the road they can't get pregnant and go on to wish they never aborted. Your at a perfect age to have a baby hun and are truly blessed to be able to get pregnant, some of us aren't as lucky and cry ourselves to sleep about it at nights. Best of luck.

On a high level you have to ask yourself this question: What is the relationship between you and your partner based on? Has your 40 year old boyfriend intentions to get married to you? If he does not it is no surprise that he is not ready for a family. You are under the impression that you have an amazing relationship and friendship, however, suggesting an abortion does not fit into this picture. Please take a close look at your situation and your relationship with him. I would not sacrifice a precious life for fear of being rejected by a partner whose ultimate intentions in regards to you may be unclear. A new life is a blessing from above. Anyone suggesting an abortion does not treasure life nor acknowledge God, our creator. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

Do what's best for you, you have got some amazing advice here, I'm guessing u abort it, he leaves you.
You keep it, he leaves you.
He sounds very immature and do you really want a newborn and Achilles to look after..

If I was you, and I don't know your situation
I would keep baby and see what partner does.
Good luck and keep us posted xx