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How often does everyone 'BD' when TTC? Taking concensus!

Category: Trying to Conceive - Trying For Another
Posted by Mstout80 » Jun. 28, 2012 7:11am

Hi out there in baby land. Ok so, I am wondering how often all you ladies out there are BD when TTC?

I am a busy stay at home mom of 1 right now, a 20 month old, and even though I know I should probably be getting busy more often to increase my chances of conceiving #2... I am just not always in the mood! Even though I want another very badly. If you are a busy mom already you know how it is....you're tired a lot. On avg during my fertile week, the hubby and I are doing it twice....on the most fertile days. Not enough, right?

Got preg with my first very fast, on the 2nd try.....but I wasnt a tired out mom of a toddler then and I think we did it every day or at least every other day during my fertile week. Feel like I need to get back on the ball....

Anyone else going thru this?

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jun. 28, 2012 7:30am

I think two days could be enough! It only takes 1 time! I too am trying to conceive my second and my DH and I have been BDing 3 days (we keep skipping the day before O because we are trying for a girl) but since we just got through month 4 of TTC with no luck we will not be doing that method next cycle. I say 2-3 days of BDing those being the 2 days leading up to ovulation and the day of and you are good. You do not need to BD anymore than that of what I have read! Even the day before and day of and I think you have a very good chance! How long have you been TTC?

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Reply by callumsmum » Jun. 28, 2012 8:01am

I was told by my fertility specialist to bed every other day starting from cd10 thru to cd 20. its exhausting lol but atleast theres plenty of sperm there to catch the egg but everyones different good luck :-)

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jun. 28, 2012 8:07am

Holy cow! Yes I do not think I could that either! That is exhausting...I really do not think that is necessary unless maybe you have a very irregular cycle or are having fertility issues and don't know when you ovulate. Then I could understand. Good luck better get some rest! Lol

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jun. 28, 2012 8:42am

We have a boy and would love a girl this time around so that was my plan also...did it 2 of my most fertile days but not assumed ov day. I think my other issue might be that i had the LEEP procedure in April...and even though my cervix is otherwise healthy, there was a small area of precancerous cells removed, and i have read that sometimes LEEP can cause a decrease in cervical mucous which i obviously need to carry the hubby's little swimmers to madame egg! My doc said i shoud be fine, and i havent been dry...havent even needed to use any lube...but just to be safe i am starting fertile CM vitamins today. Supposed to help increase fertile cervical mucous! Hope it works!!

We have been TTC for 2 months so i know it hasnt been long, but i cant help feeling a bit bummed it didnt happen second cycle like it did with our first baby. How long have you ladies been TTC? Jjcwell i know you said 4 months so far...how long did it take you to conceive your first?

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jun. 28, 2012 10:42am

We conceived our son on cycle 3. And I do not remember going through all of this tracking and craziness. I was using OPK's but I swear we DTD one time around O and I was pregnant. I was 28 then and I am 32 now so I don't know if age is a factor and just can take a few more mos. But our son will be four at the end of this year and I was really hoping to have them closer in age, so I am dying for this to happen already! It is such a bummer when you get a BFN and have to start all over with the waiting, I cannot stand it. I thought for sure this would be the month. But BFN's at 10, 11 and 12 dpo and AF due tomorrow :(. So I have very little hope left, plus AF cramps have appeared.

Anyhow we want a girl too so we were trying the Shettles Method but I'm not getting pregnant at all so we are scratching that. Even though we DTD a maximum of 36 hrs before O this month. So frustrating!! We have definitely DTD on multiple occassions during fertile days for 4 months in a row now. I'm pretty sure (never confirmed with my dr) that I had a chem preg in March (our first mo trying). My cycle is very regular and I had all kinds of symptoms and AF came 6 days late but I kept getting BFN's. So that was my conclusion. Plus my AF that mo lasted 1-2 days and was just off for me. At least I know I can conceive is what I keep telling myself! Good luck to you!! Keep in touch!

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jun. 28, 2012 10:56am

Oh i am right there with ya! I was 29 when i conceived my son..30 when i had him, and now i am 32 (today actually). My son is going to be 2 in october so i was really hoping to get pregnant sometime this summer for good age timing, and just because i have been dying for a newborn again...having the itch since my son was a year. I think 32 is still young though, even though i know they say once you are into your 30s the ease of conceiving depletes some. If it took you 3 months with your son that is pretty quick, too. So...perhaps for us age is a little bit of a factor now. Lets pretend that it will take double the times of trying to get preg this time :) hehe. Heres hoping! That means our positive results could be around the corner!!

You never know...if you didnt get AF yet, could still be....first time for me i kept feeling like it was coming but it never did...i waited til i was 3 days late and the morning of the 4th day, tested positive. Even then was a very light second line. The same thing happened to me this cycle...i really thought i was pregnant and then AF cramps came on and i had my period within hours exactly on the day it was do. I am very regular, always exactly 26 days so when i was late the first time, just knew...but i waited a few days anyway. Plan on doing that this time....no more expectations and thinking i am having symptoms. This cycle and here on out however long it takes, i am only relying on if my period is late, then i start to think preg and i test.

Best of luck to you too!! Heres hoping both of us get pos results very very soon!! :)

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jun. 28, 2012 11:19am

Oh so funny! And happy birthday!! haha...yea I'm not worried about any issues just impatient! My DH does smoke which drives me crazy and makes me wonder if it is affecting anything. He has always smoked though so who knows. I wish SO bad he would quit its so awful. They say 80% of couples conceive within 6 mos and really last month was probably a wash for us because we DTD 4 days before I O'd which was a LONG shot. We were in the middle of a vacation and it just wasnt easy sneaking away :). So I guess I can only say its been 3 mos which is nothing. Lets hope July is our month!! KMFX

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Reply by Alishakaye » Jun. 28, 2012 11:24am

We just want a baby of any sex so we are bd twice a day, maybe a little overboard but if it gets the job done we will be one happy little couple!! Besides, who can complain with a little extra love??

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jun. 28, 2012 11:32am

Yea my strategy this month is 2 days before BD, 1 day before BD morning and night and day of O BD morning! We shall see!! This baby making thing is CRAZY!

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jun. 28, 2012 12:38pm

Thanks for the bday wishes! Yeah i dont have a specific plan of attack for DTD this next cycle...i mean i would love to have a girl next time around but id be happy with whatever. I just want another baby! If i have a girl next i might be able to stop but if i had another boy id wana try once more to get a girl. I just see that connection my hubby has with our son...and the fact he is his mini me...and i just think it would be so awesome to have a little girl that looks like me. Plus i have awesome girl names i wana use so bad LOL

Its always tough when you are in a situation where you are trying but you arein a place you cant sneak away. In may we only BD once on my most fertile day, because we were staying with my mother in law due to an SUV driving off the road and crashing thru our place and destroying it with us inside! Thankfully we werent hurt or worse. But, Ahh....the things that get in the way of TTC lol

we havent been trying long so lets keep our chins up. Like you said, most couples conceive within 6 months so...If we are in that 80% we dont have too long to go! Good luck and keep me posted! I will do the same :)

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Reply by Vicky31 » Jun. 28, 2012 12:55pm

almost every day lol, we haven't changed our "Loving" habits since we're TTC.
but the days Af's visiting, then there's no loving haha

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jul. 13, 2012 8:23am

Have you had any luck yet? I just ovulated (I believe) on the 11th...here goes another 2 WW! Got my pos opk a day earlier than usual this month and was much dryer in the cm area than usual. Im hoping that does not have a negative affect :(. Do you use opks? I test twice a day and when I tested mon morning it was neg but by 3pm it was positive so we BD mon afternoon, mon night, tues afternoon and wed morning. Then Wednesday afternoon it went neg again. I hope we got the days right!

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jul. 13, 2012 1:16pm

hi Jjcwell. Not sure if I have had luck yet.....in the TWW again right now as well =) I ovulated on the 8th-9th....tested 3 times those days and got a super dark line late the 8th into the day of the 9th...(based on my cycle my predicted ov date was the 8th and OPKs basically confirmed that! which is funny because I must be in tune with my body as I thought in the past when I could feel ovulation happening but wasnt 100% sure.....same feelings the 8th/9th and sure enough the OPK was pos. Good to know those things seem to work (this was my first month using OPKs btw). We BD every other day leading up to ov....didnt really have the option to do it after ov because my husband left on the 9th for a business trip....so, we BD 3 times leading up to it...the 4th, 6th, and 8th. when i checked CM on the 7th and 8th (the day ov started), it was plentiful and EW consistency! i have been taking fertile CM coral calcium supplements and drinking loads of water for the past few weeks and definitely noticed a difference in CM on my fertile days. hopefully it has done some good in increasing chances. we shall see what happens this month. honestly, i am trying not to think about it too much because I dont wanna get my hopes up and then be disappointed when AF rears her ugly red head again... so...I am telling myself i wont be pregnant this month. telling myself it will take at least another few months trying for something to happen. we will see. best of luck to you and keep posted on news!! =)

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jul. 13, 2012 1:39pm

I hate the 2WW!! So you are about 5dpo I'm 2dpo today. Good luck hope both of us get our BFPs this cycle. I too am not getting my hopes up and already assuming it won't happen! Funny. I just hope we didn't miss a crucial day (day before pos opk). I definitely caught my surge on the way up not down because I tested several hrs earlier that day and it was neg. And literally we dtd within mins of the pos opk. I'm cautiously hopeful! Sounds like you got your days pretty spot on. I just never know whIch day I actually o on after the initial pos opk. Because I get crampy for 3 days. I think I ovulate the day my test turns back to neg. is that true for you? Such a puzzle this whole thing is!

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jul. 13, 2012 6:24pm

Well, you should be good up to 3 days before ov and 1 day after...day before and after being more fertile and ov day being most. When you consider how long it takes the swimmers to meet your egg, sounds like your BD timing should also be good for your most fertile :) all we can do is try on our most fertile days and let nature take its course. I know we wish we could just place the sperm right in front of that egg ourselves though...lol

I hope we get our bfp this cycle, too. Really, best best luck to you!! :)





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Reply by bossmama83 » Jul. 22, 2012 9:51am

We are in our 2nd month TTC for #3 and hoping and praying for a girl. We have 2 wonderful little boys already 7 and 3 and getting preggo soon would make all the kids 4yrs apart perfect for us. We BD every other day the week before OV. Then about 3days before OV we start BD every day up until the day after just for good messure LOL.

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jul. 24, 2012 11:03am

Any luck this cycle? AF showed for me today :(

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jul. 24, 2012 11:32am

Yes, I got pregnant this cycle! :) AF was due on Saturday the 21st and didnt show. When it didnt come Sunday i was still feeling like it might but took a test late morning and got a faint positive! Still no AF and it is Tuesday (i am never late) and i have had about 6 positive tests so far...the line getting darker by the hour it seems! :) I am so excited. Due date around March 31st-April 2nd! My first appointment is scheduled for 8 weeks, on August 22nd

I am still kind of in shock..it is very surreal.

Best of luck to you this next cycle Jjcwell!! You will get your BFP soon! :)

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Reply by Jjcwell » Jul. 24, 2012 12:11pm

Oh so exciting! Congrats! So how many cycles did it take for you? I'm super bummed but trying to be positive. Looking ahead to o week starting next thurs :)

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Reply by Mstout80 » Jul. 24, 2012 2:19pm

Thank you! It was officially 3 cycles for me to get pregnant. But technically....2. I could have gotten pregnant in May based on the fact my hubby and I BD once right on O day-most fertile..but that was also only 2 weeks or so after I underwent LEEP procedure and heal time was 2 weeks...so i didnt expect to get pregnant right after when my cervix wasnt fully healed yet. June we officially planned on it and BD more often during my fertile week...but I think i miscalculated O date. I did some reading after that and found out LEEP can leave you more acidic...that is why i started taking fertile CM coral calcium supplements, to increase the quantity and quality of my cervical mucous...and tried OPKs for the first time this cycle to pinpoint O (which i was only off by a day..the OPKs worked and we BD every other day leading up to O, and the day of. I also started eating loads of sardines and salmon, and juicing veggies and fruits a few times a day. Drinkng lots of water too. I think all of these things combined worked for me!

You will get your BFP soon too! Keep trying! I know its a bummer when af shows but it will happen for you!!! :) i suggest trying fertile CM...coral calcium supplements. You only need to take it til you conceive....but i really noticed a diff in my CM on fertile days from taking it (and drinking lots of water). Increased quantity and perfect eggwhite consistency for carrying more of those little swimmers to the eggie! ;) good luck and keep me posted!!

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