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I ran out of room lol. I did the trigger shot on Thursday and first iui on friday his count was 125 million, then sat I had the second iui his count was 131 million. Doctor said they want to see 5 million post wash but it only takes one. I had my hopes up but everyday closer to af I am getting more and more depressed. Maybe it is the progesterone he has me on making me feel so down. I am just so scared it will not work. I can not talk to anyone around me bc I get the well quit trying so hard etc etc. I hurts that nobody gets it. None of them had problems getting pregnant and most got that way on accident. So depressing.

I get you.
Sadly and don't scream at me, it's so so true
Try reflexology and cut out the tabs and just relax.... Seriously the more stressed the lower your hormones go xx

Yea ive been there. Every one that it comes easy to says that. At first you think maybe their right but after years nothing. Even though they mean well, they just dont understand the consistent trying, the tests, the meds, etc. With no results. The frustration and the sadness that comes with it. I did 6 rounds of clomid nothing. Tried the "it will happen method" nothing. now femara, currently on my 3rd round. On my first round i surprisingly got pregnant for the 1st time. Never thought i could. It ended is an early miscarriage. Thats whats giving me some hope

2 years of medicated cycles including 9 IUIs with great sperm count and no problems + perfect timing every single time and no success so far. It is what it is.

Don't stress over this too much. It may be what is causing you to not get pregnant. I swear I tried for a year and say fuck this. I'm tired of being sad and disappointed each month. I am not going to do this to myself. Well, the next month we didn't even try at all. I just kind of gave up hope and I wasn't too sad or depress. I was actually pretty happy taking a break because all these baby making was making me an unhappy person and my husband wasn't too happy either because of me going crazy. Sex wasn't just fun sex. It was like a job. Do this do that. Put my legs up. It was not enjoyable. We did it because we want a baby not because we want to make love. That month that I actually got pregnant, we were actually making love and wasn't even thinking of making babies. I found out at 11dpo that I was pregnant not because we were trying but because I was going to start a weight lift training class and wanted to make sure I could lift heavy weights. Viola there goes my bfp. I was in shock.

@maddymommy, it's great that this worked out for you. But for those of us who need to take fertility meds and need ongoing monitoring to even have a chance this relaxed approach is not an option. So people who tell me to just relax have no idea how complex TTC is when one HAS to be on fertility meds.

Thank you Mozart and Cupcake510 it is so nice to have those understand what it is like. Everyone say to relax yea tried that for 5 years it didnt work. We did go with the when it happens it happens approach but as mozart pointed out some of us WILL NOT get pregnant simply by relaxing and it feels like being punched in the gut everytime some says just relax. I do not ovulate on my own and my husbands sperm are not the right shape to get into the egg so it has nothing to do with relaxing. There is no relaxing when you constantly have to pump your body with different hormones throughout the month, go to fertility office every 2 days, give bloodwork 5 times a month. I have been trying for almost 7 years, like I said 5 of them I just didn't use protection but yes now that I am 35 and my daughter is almost 9 it is not time to relax, it is time to get the help I need so i can have a chance to conceive.

My doctor pretty much told us on own we have no chance, he wanted me to IVF said it was our best shot but like I said I do not have 20k laying around the house. I was devastated. My only option was to try IUI which gives me maybe a 10% chance :( even with the iui my doctor wanted me to do the injections, that would have been 2000 a month for medicine with a low chance of success. So I just went with Femera and ovidril shot. Still costing about 400 a month. I did get two good eggs but husband count was low. I am trying not to stress this ttw or get my hopes up but I really am tired of going to the doctor, getting all this done for the same in result bfn.

Hear, hear. I get the whole thing, ckry28 . Wishing you the very best for your cycle!

Definitely aren't the only one. The whole relax and it will happen is so irritating. Me relaxing isn't going to make my husband produce sperm or make me ovulate, but thanks for the advice!

Just wanted to wish you the best for this cycle!