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How to keep positive and relaxed while TCC for so long?

So the secret to getting pregnant is keeping your cool, calm sane self. well it is easier said than done. every month while the "right" time approches all I can think about is getting it over with. I stopped enjoying the process. I think sex for pleasure and for conciving is two differnt things. We have been trying to concieve for about a year, on and off. How to keep positive when you feel you are giving up? how to keep the relationship with your partner romantic and not a to do list?

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Bumpin4Baby

I think the best thing that you can do is relax and try to become more intimate in a fun and sexy way with DH. Try to really connect with each other and not make sex a chore. Try some new fun things in the bedroom! Don't give up!

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DanaB1019

The "relax and let it happen naturally" practice actually has been researched and isn't shown to be any more effective than taking things into your own hands. It's actually better to know when you're ovulating to give yourself the best chance! I know that wasn't your question, but I did want to mention it.

My husband and I tried for 5 years for this BFP. I think more than anything, what kept me going even when we miscarried or just didn't have any luck was the thought of never having a family. The sadness I felt in my heart thinking about never having children was far worse than the failure to conceive.

To keep romance alive, do the things you'd normally do. It tends to be more spontaneous when you're not TTC, so try to follow the same patterns as then- dressing up, role playing, maybe even taking it outside of the bedroom. We found sex dare cards to draw when we needed inspiration! Keeping things fun definitely helps make it feel less like a chore!