Community post

I'm so very sorry :(. I can't completely relate to your situation, but can in some ways. I don't think there are words to make it seem it feel any better. No matter how you spin it, it's just a crappy situation. I think it's ridiculously insensitive of others to try and downplay the struggles, disappointments, and frustrations of not seeing something so important come to fruition. I think it's a knee-jerk reaction to try and soothe it with pep talks and pressure to "keep your chin up" and "look on the bright side." But it does suck and you're justified in letting it get to you. That said, it's really not going to do you any good to *stay* in that frame of mind all the time. I allow myself moments of railing against the unfairness, but try not to live like that all the time. At the end of the day, I'm the one who suffers if I let that frustration manifest itself as bitterness and anger. It's probably a good idea to distance yourself from those who expect you to not b

I know exactly what you're going through. I am trying something different this cycle as I've read many people say it has worked for them. I started taking mucinex (the one with ONLY Guaifenesin in it) the week of my fertile window all the way until a few days after ovulation and this is supposed to thin your CM to make it easier for sperm to travel. Most women that tried this ended up getting pregnant.

I've been there. To top it off I had helped my sister raise her children, I take care of my stepson, and I'm a teacher. Everyone would tell me that god gave me other peoples children to fill the void and that I should feel so lucky that I am surrounded with children. Lol I've actually daydreamed about punching the next person who said that to me in their fertile face. Yes, I am luck to have all of these kids in my life. I'm blessed actually, but it doesn't fill the void of experiencing pregnancy, of creating a baby that has a beautiful mix of both myself and my DH, and hearing someone call me mommy. Well, in August I finally got my BFP after I was told by several doctors that I would never conceive. So, you probably want to punch me in my face, but please please do not give up hope. I believe in miracles. Baby dust

I fully understand how you feel. TTC can be extremely frustrating, time consuming, physically, emotionally, and financially draining. We got married in our early 20s and it literally took us 13 years to conceive our first child, finally through ZIFT. After that we conceived three more children naturally but not without experiencing 6 miscarriages in the last 10 years.....My own experience taught me that conceiving is not in anyone's hand. From a human standpoint there is no rhyme or reason why some conceive right away and others have to toil for years. In the end it is a spiritual issue. God gives a life, God takes a life according to His plan and not ours. Prayer has been the answer for me during years of waiting, hoping, despairing, anger and frustration. TTC is a challenge for many, but at the same time it is an incredible opportunity for personal growth. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

I am on my 3rd cycle of Clomid as well, 2nd cycle I got a BFP but ended in a chemical pregnancy, so discouraging, but I was very hopeful for this cycle, I got some pre seed and my husband I have been using that, and I got a positive OPK on CD 14 and 15 and today is CD 19 and still no temp increase so now I'm wondering if I'm even going to ovulate this cycle. I have been so down and sad today, and to top it off, my sister is due with her 4th baby in a few weeks, so I totally understand how you are feeling, one thing I had to do was make a conscious choice that I was going to treat my husband like a teammate, instead of pushing him away, because that was my natural reaction. It has helped so much because I was feeling so angry over the holidays last year and I knew that if I continued down that road that my marriage would not survive. I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know the constant ache. Just know that you are not alone and believe the Lords promise in Psalm 113:9

"He makes the barren woman to be a homemaker and a joyful mother to many children. Hallluejah!"

Thanks so much ladies. It's so nice to read all of your encouraging words. I am now at 15 dpo, temp dip the last two days & no AF. I hope that crazy witch doesn't show. I feel out this month, but still can't help and wish that I get my BFP! I got a BFN this afternoon, very nauseous and sick to my stomach this morning.
I took some advice from you wonderful ladies and decided to try and relax, and accept the things that come my way. It is still hard to see others with children and not ache for the same joy. All I can do is pray and communicate with my DH and hope that we will get our BFP soon.

@Allinasmile- I have heard about the mucinex, but am not sure how to start taking it. Do you just take 1 pill a day for the entire fertile window? I am willing to try anything at this point.

@kvstone- Hoping that you get your BFP soon. Have you had any crazy symptoms on clomid? I hate that it mimics pregnancy symptoms :(

Try using PreSeed and soft cups. I don't know if it's just a coincidence or if there some validity to it. All I can say is that I heard about it and tried it. That month I got my BFP. There are so many women that swear by it. If and when I try for a second, I will use this method again.

This is what I did. Before bd I inserted a little PreSeed. Then after bd I immediately inserted a soft cup and slept with it in. In the morning I would remove the soft cup. It's that simple.

The theory behind it is that that PreSeed helps to mimic fertile cervical mucus and the softcup keeps his swimmers close to your cervix.

Definitely, worth the try in my opinion.