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I agree 100 percent with ya hopefully u will get you. BFP soon baby dust to u

I fully understand how you feel. TTC can be extremely frustrating, time consuming, physically, emotionally, and financially draining. We got married in our early 20s and it literally took us 13 years to conceive our first child, finally through ZIFT. After that we conceived 3 more children naturally..... My own experience taught me that conceiving is not in anyone's hand. From a human standpoint there is no rhyme or reason why some conceive right away and others have to toil for years. In the end it is a spiritual issue. God gives a life, God takes a life according to His plan and not ours. Prayer has been the answer for me during years of waiting, hoping, despairing, anger, and frustration. TTC is a challenge for many, but at the same time it is an incredible opportunity for personal growth. Best wishes and the Lord's blessings.

Phillips, I couldn't have said it better myself. That really struck a cord with me. I have been trying for baby for over 3 years and even with all the tears and bad days, it does get better. I always look at it as when my child is finally here, I will have a level of appreciation for my struggle and for my child that will totally make it all worth every crappy moment.

I felt like that when my sister fell pregnant, the worse thing was she wasn't even trying and she tricked her boyfriend at the time, she didn't tell him she wasn't taken her pill and they had only been together a few months. I tried for 25 months, I found conceive plus lube and now have an 18 month old son. I highly recommend the stuff.

i understand completely as well. I got pregnant in december and my sister did as well... then jan 25 i lost my baby... while my sister remained pregnant, a heroin addict, then she got arrested and thrown in jail. I got pregnant again, and lost it a few weeks later... my sister gave birth to her 3rd child, a healthy 7 and some pounds... but im not on drugs why did i lose both of mine but someone on drugs had no problem. im pregnant now going on 13 weeks... so far so good. so dont give up. it will happen for you.

Thanks ladies, I know youre all right and when I get to hold my little bundle of joy one day itll be worth the wait.... but until then I have a feeling this will be a hard road ahead of us :(
I still think its unfair for women/couples like us who want nothing more, but cant have it as easily, and women/couples who don't get it... I don't think ill ever understand the rhyme or reason behind that

This riddle cannot be understood and is not meant to be understood. It is the mystery of life and it all points to a sovereign creator. Our desperate situations may feel unfair but they are not. We are not owed anything in the TTC department. We obviously don't like that we are not in control but nothing will change that. So it's best to patiently and humbly keep trying.
All the best.