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Your not in the wrong, I went through the same thing 8 months ago and its one of the worst feelings in the world. You feel like one really understands what your going through and to have that happen is quite insensitive. Im sorry love. Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to.Iv been there and actually had some nasty remarks too from my fiance's fam.

Wooo! you my dear have every RIGHT to be pissed off. Sometimes people speak without realizing their words could hurt. There are a million reasons she could have said what she did and acted the way she did. Bottom line is to swallow pride and ask her for yourself. For all you know she could be handling this loss in a different way then you, she might not like you for some crazy reasoning that could be fixed, she could be bitter and remembering something from her past, she might just be a plain bitter old lady. Now i am not sticking up for her because i have been through a loss myself and i dare anyone to bring that up negatively! All i am trying to say is be angry as long as you want, but eventually you will have to speak with this lady. After all she is family.....

Go ahead and be pissed at her! I am the same way with my dh's grandmother at the moment. I have recently been losing a bit of weight and she told me that if I keep messing around losing weight that I'm going to fall pregnant and maybe I'll be able to actually carry it this time...So yeah I totally understand.

If people would just mind their own business and remember this old saying: " If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all." It's my husband's favorite when we feel violated.

Thank you all so much for your replies, and I know eventually it's gonna get brought up. However she won't be notified when I get pregnant again I'll let his parents tell her and maybe she'll take a hint why. My Fiance who's pretty pissed also pretty much says he dares her to say something negative when I get pregnant again so I guess I'll see how it all plays out.