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My hubby dealt with this too. I just kept reasurring him that we're a team. It takes two to make a baby. There's no reason to place blame on anyone, and that I wouldn't love him any less. Turns out we just needed to quit trying to make a baby and just make love. Worked for us :) baby dust!

Thank you. That makes sense. We are quite busy for a few days around ovulation but the rest of the month was dry... so not like us. And it's definitely not me who wasn't interested. Here.I thought he didn't find me attractive. Every fertile week is "a mission". We need to get back to us. No more counting and scheduling. Then it's work. With shared parenting time we get a lot of alone time & we're not enjoying it. I felt so bad when he called himself a failure. I never looked at him that way. I love him to pieces and it broke my heart. We are both blaming ourselves and didn't know it. Thank you for your support!!

Bless ya's, I would suggest stop making it a chore, BD every other day anyway and just hope lady luck is on your side. Good luck :)

Now he says he wants to try again but "won't punch a clock" and "It's too much like work." I'm sorry I only ovulate one day a month so scheduling is par for the course, however I've TRIED to initiate.. I've cried at night feeling rejected. What kills me is he's the one pushing to BD every night when I O. One night I REALLY wanted to go to sleep. I was so uncomfortable from the clomid and I was positive that we were passed our window but he insisted! Now he says he's pressured. (only by himself!) I tell him what days I'm fertile and when we should BD, but last month for instance, my OPK said "GO!" and he went to sleep. We BD'd the next night ..and 5 more nights after.. UGH on HIS call. But WE NEEDED to do the nights before & including the +OPK I think instead. He's not getting that now means now, but doesn't want to be scheduled...well ya kinda have to schedule a LITTLE?! It's a very small amount of time available to catch the egg. Having a baby isn't

I can understand his side, trying to make babies and not being successful straight away can be annoying. I don't think it has anything to do with attractiveness of the partner or love. I do think you have to just keep trying and relax, then one day bingo, good luck :)

When it is time it will happen. Stressing will just make it harder. Upon you next upcoming OD plan something fun for it. Calculate the date it should be then for the days around it your not TTC Act like your in your teens again and your hiding from parents trying not to get caught doing the naughty. Make that you goal. Do it in the back seat of the car like teenagers, Sneak into to old room at mom and dad's! Have fun with it. Make a list of place to try with out getting caught. Focus on the fun of that experiment this time and not getting Prego, and if this experiments just so happens to take place over the course of your ovulation who knows! Two line to ya! I challenge you to find a lovers lane and go "parking".

I LOVE THAT! The last 2 cycles were tough cuz the kids were with us but this cycle we will be alone. Hmmmm.... now I have some fun planning to do. We have a great sex life usually. I don't want to lose that. Bad enough it can happen later in a marriage. We're still newlyweds! Thanks so much.