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Hey 70s sisters

Destiny: that is so exciting, everything is progressing as it should, cant wait to hear about your scan next week.

Hopefull: I really like pineapple, core and all, had some in the first week of the tww, but only coincidently.

Lisserb: hope you are recovery from your surgery, what are your plans now? I understand the recommendation to wait varies from doctor to doctor, my fertility specialist said "no time to wait, as soon as you feel ready go for it" Mind you I think you have more time than myself.

MM: where are you at now, getting close to ovulation??

Jwantsababy: thats tough, i guess AF has been?

To all our other sisters, sorry if I missed you but would love to know how things are for you all. Its a hard journey.

AFM: well I am 12dpo and any delusions I had of waiting to test til now have been well and truely shattered. I have been POAS more than I am prepared to say and all of the tests have been negative, with the dreaded evaps, I havent tested today and think I really wont til sunday when AF is due. I realise there is still time for a BFP but to be honest I really think I am out this month. I have PMS symptoms, nothing like the symptoms in January when I was pregnant. I was so hopeful as the first month after a miscarriage can be a more furtile time. My third miscarriage was concieved immediately after a miscarriage. I feel frustrated as every month counts, it feels like extra pressure when time is ticking...Dumb bilogical clock, tick tick ticking away...
As a distraction I have started weight watchers, I have about 15 kgs to loose, which should help my body to provide the best home for a little poppy seed to settle into. So far so good with 1.7 kgs down (not sure how many pounds that is).
Thats enough from me, hopefully we have some BFPs coming up soon and if not december babies would be lovely too.

Justine

TTC 41, I hope that it's just been too early for you so far. Good Luck!

AFM, my physical recovery has been good. I refused pain meds at the hospital because I didn't need any, and so far I've only needed the occasional naproxen or ibuprofen to help with minor cramping at home. My incisions seem to be healing well. Wearing jeans irritates them, so I'm pretty much living in yoga pants unless I go out somewhere. I have been laying low and not doing too much, and I think that helps. I started bleeding on Tuesday, had some clots pass this morning, but otherwise it's been okay.

Emotionally, I'm up and down. I pass through all the stages of grief and then go back again, but at this particular moment I'm okay. I'm resilient, I will get back in the saddle and I will try again. If I don't succeed, I will adopt a child in need of a family, and if I do succeed I will probably still adopt, so my future isn't much different than it was 7 weeks ago when I went in for the 4th IUI. It still hurts that my hard fought for pregnancy had to end so cruelly, but I can't change it, so I have to move on.

I have to do an HSG again before resuming the fertility treatments, and I'll probably get that done after my next cycle starts. Once that's done we will follow up with the RE again to see what's what and go from there. I hope to be able to start trying again the next cycle after the HSG, so hopefully in May. My DH is more than likely going to be out of town during my HSG and for the two weeks after, so even if we could proceed then he wouldn't be here. I feel right now like I can do three more IUI's, hopefully back to back, so by the end of the summer I'll either be pregnant again or looking towards the mini IVF again.

Luck and hugs to all!

Im 43, Ive been trying (not obsessively) for over a year. I have 5 children 4 are young adults. I really really want another child. Im 8 DPO today and Ive gone through this before last year, I even miscarried once right away, It hard to hope and not be obsessed at the same time. I have the symptoms of pregnancy, we hit the right two days to do the job, but I cant stop thinking what if this is just an early period. I wish I were back in my twenties when I didnt have access to the internet and just had to preoccupy my mind and I wasnt as knowledgeable about signs and symptoms as I am now. This wait is making me crazy. Every day I am happy one more day is behind me and I am one more day closer to knowing.

Oh yes do I hear you on that! Those were the pre Internet, pre inknow my bidy so well, pre premenopausal wind down of low AMH. The days of ignorant bliss! It is great to get the support from groups like this but the Internet is the trade off!
Good luck hope you get your BFP soon

Hi ladies,

I've been thinking of all of you, what a journey we are all on. Thank you, Hopefulat40 for initiating this forum.

So, I was 16 DPO yesterday and AF was due. I could have just poas but I didn't, I guess I'm strange like that. Anyway, AF showed up last night. I'm bummed:(. I read everyone's posts and you all seem so in tune with your bodies - I didn't know whether to think I was preggers or not. There were no real indicators that I was nor that I wasn't (I don't get PMS). I guess as the day went on, I was hoping for the best and I planned on taking a test this morning.

Oh well, I need all the best advice you ladies can muster up for someone like me who was ntnp at age 35 and just got pregnant, 2 months after I got married. Now that I'm trying, it's not happening. I'll be 39 in May.

Thinking and praying for each of you.

Welcome new ladies to the forum; MamaBelle - Lifeismosaic...!! :)

Oh it was great to hear from lisserb, ttc41..everyone! I was just getting ready to crawl in bed and read - but I just had to respond - Mamabelle inspired me!

This is hard isn't it!

I am currently 7dpo, no symptoms and no I don't feel pregnant this cycle. I could of course talk myself in to anything!! :) And since I love to spend money on negative pregnancy tests.....hee hee, I am still gonna be positive! And that's what we MUST be! This is a journey that's joyous, funny, heartfelt, hopeful, heartbreaking....but it's ours that we choose! We choose to discover how our body works, to get us ready for the most amazing process, we choose to be moms.

I'll do everything I can to conceive and I will keep believing! Sometimes it gets the best of me...but I will not falter.

Stay strong ladies, our age works against us; but our hearts are unyeilding! No matter what our paths, there are wonderful options for each of us and perfect little people that we will either give birth to or welcome into our homes that need our love.

Here's to each of us!! May we soon find our paths! Chins up and love madly!! xxoo

T

It is good to learn of the progress everyone is making. I am climbing out of my funk after the very intense beginning to my current cycle. Dh and I will get to spent 90% of this month and the next together which the doctor says is so important on terms of having the emotional and chemical closeness required for ttc.

I may have o'd early but I start the opks tomorrow to see what's going on. Otherwise, I really expect to o in another few days and have pineapple on hand for the first time! I also picked up preseed.

The biggest thing, I have decided, is to let go of expectations and simply enjoy practicing with hubby. :)

Take care all, continued H&H9 to our currently pregnant 70s sisters and baby dust to all of us,
MM

Hey everyone

Just want to re-iterate what has been said, its a journey unique to each of us that we have chosen to take, it is full of so many emotions which is just the beginning of motherhood however that journey ends. I dont regret anything except perhaps the wasted hpts!!!!

I have peed on soooo many sticks, and my line eye is on high alert, but AF showed which is why line eye was out seeing what was not there. I was disappointed, Im not going to lie but I was not surprised.

So we are looking to december for a baby, fingers crossed for all of us, those waiting for BFPs, on the tww or at the end goal with a pregnancy.

thinking of you all
Justine

i am 37, 38 in july. i already have 2 children 13 and 9. i have a new partner and he has no children of his own. he is very excited. we lost a baby jan 11. and have been trying but not totally dedicated untill after last xmas. i am starting to worry now thinking i am maybe to old!

I extracted more potentially useful information fom dh earlier this afternoon.

Doc said a lot of things, the important ones being about how the game we are playing right now is to ensure our hormonal systems get Enough of the right chemical signals. This doesn't have to mean bd'ing all the time. It does mean lots of foreplay and being all over one another, especially lots of mouth on skin contact. Again, does not have to lead to bd but does get all the right, supportive hormone signals going.

Doc also spoke to the importance of bd before and after o because dh's contribution to the party sets up the right chemical and hormonal conditions for fertilization and bean stickiness.

An important factor stressed by Doc is emotional closeness as a key ingredient in the mix. Lots of folks he sees are ready to use medicine when, in his not so humble opinion, the emotional and physical closeness will accomplish much of what medical procedures might be sought to do.

I believe this last point is an unspoken part of why patients are asked to wait a period of time before seeking fertility assistance. It isn't, Doc said, a matter of odds of conceiving so much as having all the right pieces on the table for the couple's dynamic.

As I drag more nuggets of wisdom from Doc, via dh, I will share them.

Hope this helps someone!

As for us, I have noticed that in January 2011 and this month, dh and I have been following this prescription. Like January (early m/c), my personal body odors are aligned with what I would say are my fertility scents so that excites me. What excites me more is that it appears dh and I are separately aware of olfactory signifiers of fertility potential. So we will see how this month of ttc goes, but I will say I am in a romantic daze already from the shift in perspective dh and I are enjoying right now. So much so that I am much less invested in opk and hpt results and way more interested in my sense of smell and the magic in our relationship.

So I'll be reporting on both those objective and subjective measures of my ttc journey.

MM