Community post

So let me get this straight...you're with a guy who is essentially "practicing" making babies with you but if you get knocked up and won't abort hes threatened he'd end the relationship, is that correct? I'm sorry, maybe I'm a little moody today, but that's an easy choice for me. I wouldn't end the child's chance at life over this guy who wants to have sex but would break up with you over something he helped create. Doesn't sound like a real keeper to me, but that's obviously your decision. This new life is innocently here even after you tried the morning after...id day he/she is maybe really meant to be here. Sorry if I sound harsh...but I don't think I sound as harsh as your partner's threats to your relationship over a new life. to you either way. I'm having #6 and I've never regretted any of my pregnancies, planned or otherwise. Hope you have peace with whatever you decide

BTW, there's plenty of couples who'd love to adopt because they can't conceive which is also another option. Just a thought

Hi, sorry I'm not in exactly the same boat but in our last pregnancy we had to have some hard discussions around whether to continue with the pregnancy. Unfortunately the pregnancy ended in loss. It's hardly ever black and white and what you decide *before* a pregnancy isn't always the same. I know it's heartbreaking having to even have that discussion but probably best to get it over with so you don't spend ages fretting. I can't tell you it will all be fine but I can tell you that you will decide what's best for you. Sending hugs.

I had a similar problem 2 years ago. He manipulated me to get rid of the baby and not only did it make me suicidal afterwards and need tons of therapy, but in the end it didn't work out. I don't regret losing him, but I regret losing my baby. Now I'm with someone who wants kids and now we're struggling. Now I feel like my karma is coming back to me. If you want the baby, keep it. It's your decision and no one else's.

No matter what you decide, stick by your guns. Don't let anyone make you do anything you don't want to. There are plenty of guys out there that would love to have a family. They're out there. But if the one you're with is so adamant, I'm sorry, but he should've had a vasectomy instead of threatening you over something that clearly takes two to make.