I just went through a chemical pregnancy. It was first for me and I was really sad about it even though the pregnancy was really only confirmed on a digital test 2 days before AF reared her miserable head . It also took 3 days to get that positive result. It was a very weird thing for me because I have always gotten easy and dark positives; this time was different.
Would my next pregnancy be considered a baby/pregnancy? Would this loss really be considered a loss since it was only 4 weeks and 2 days into it?
3 Replies • 6 weeks ago
If you talk to an OB about it, they will most likely tell you that it is not a loss, it happens all the time and it’s only a thing because manufacturers made tests way too sensitive. However I think most women who experienced a CP would tell you it absolutely feels like a loss and I think that feeling shouldn’t be minimized or discounted. I’ve had 3 chemicals and 2 miscarriages in the past 2 years and I can tell you they all hurt, and they all felt like losses to me. So if it was a loss in your experience, then that’s what you should call it. I am sorry for your loss and hope your is coming soon
6 weeks ago
Thank you! I have had so many different feelings about it. I know it was early and part of me is like; its hardly a mc! Its just a late period. I feel like it was more of the loss of an idea of a baby. Not an actual loss of a baby. I would have been so much worse had I gone through an ultrasound and told the fetus wasn't viable. I'm still not 100% how I feel yet. Maybe once we conceive again I'll feel differently.
Thank you again!
6 weeks ago • Post starter
I'm sorry for your loss, and I totally understand how you feel. Because of my beliefs about life beginning at conception (and baby having a soul from that moment) I consider even a chemical pregnancy the loss of a baby. Medically speaking it is still considered miscarriage as well. With mine I had more pain than a normal period, so even though there wasn't any visible remains of the baby because it was so small, it was still awful and very sad. I have two Angel babies in Heaven that I lost in chemical pregnancies, and my DH and I named them. We have one son and I just found out I'm expecting again today (after not trying this month lol) and hoping this one sticks to be #2! Best of luck to you and I hope you get your soon!
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