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So a little update....cramps have completely gone, lower back is slightly niggly, nipples seems to be back on fire again today and I’m back to white creamy cm....talk about a bloody rollercoaster of emotions! Ladies I am not....I repeat I am not testing now until the weekend when my af is meant to start...I have one early detection test left and one cb digital which had been gathering dust in my drawer ready for whenever I get a second line!

Lady-hubby wasn't up to it the last 2 days and even this morning :( It's becoming frustrating. Is it bad that I'm beginning to resent him because he refuses and it seems like he is just pushing me away

Lady - I think it is a completely natural feeling ....I have that sometimes too and it makes me feel awful...especially with trying so long and oh not gone to be tested yet...even though we have a son I just worry because we’re not getting any younger...he is 10yrs older than me so you just want peace of mind don’t you. Have you tried sitting down and explaining what this means to you, and how it makes you feel. It’s not a nice feeling you say being pushed away when you should be a team...after all it takes two to tango so the pressure shouldn’t just be in you. Maybe try talking to him at least with it all out in the table he knows and then it’s up to him to decide what to do with information as he may not realise he’s making you feel this way, wishing you all the luck xxx

Amy- I have told him numerous times how I've felt. He is too d*mn stubborn. Only thing I can do is keep on dropping hints and trying to get it through his head. So frustrating. I'd rather have my kids now rather then how my parents did and ended up with a surprise baby at 45 and 52. Yes my dad was 52 when my youngest sister was born and my mom was 45 and a very high risk. I don't want that at all and the hubby knows it.

Hberry- I get it. When we were trying a while back before I got pregnant 5 years ago, that was happening too.
Alot of times when u are trying to conceive, bd turns into a chore and most men get turned off by it. Some men begin to think its no longer enjoyable because now there is an agenda attached.

With me, I just let it go and relax....it makes no use forcing the issue..then get upset and it turns into a big thing.

As Amy said, just maybe sit and talk with him. Also remember, the older some men get, their libido lowers.

I don't force it, I drop hints that I'm in the mood and he would rather play his stupid xbox one. I feel like he thinks that's more important then having "us time."

Hberry- I have the same exact problem! I feel like my hubby is always super pushy for sex when I’m on my period and not in the mood or don’t want the mess, but the closer to my fertile window I get the less interested he is! I have made a plan that we only bd every 3rd day during the follicular phase. Once I hit my fertile window we go every other day, then once I get my positive test we go 3 days in a row. That is getting my timing to be better. Although as soon as my fertile window hits, I want it every damn day, that was too much and he fizzled out a few days before O day. I always felt so rejected and unattractive and hurt. Good luck with it all! It’s not easy and all the frustration and emotions involved in ttc are so hard on us!

Feeling a bit sad today. Have had niggling pains in my lower abdomen most of the afternoon feels like AF is on the way ???? this is such a difficult journey at times.

Kahlan- the hubby makes other excuses to get out of not bding down... I don't feel like I'm worth his time anymore. And he's usually the one who is wanting it, but if I want it, it's never a good time for him and the excuses just flow out of him