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37 years old TTC #1 for years // Never been pregnant

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Hello everyone!
I feel so alone sometimes seeing everyone in here trying for #2, #3 etc and in early ages too while I’m 37YO and never been pregnant even though I’m trying for years! I never saw those two pink lines. Not a chemical, nothing! My body just cannot do it and I feel so defeated...
I really would like to see if there is anyone in same situation as mine. I made a similar post a while ago but all ladies close to my age had at least one child or been pregnant before.. I don’t wanna be rude and I understand that going through a chemical or a miscarriage must be the worst thing in the world when ttc but for me I don’t even know if my body is a even able to get pregnant, you know? And I’m not trying for 1-2 years too... I’m trying for almost 9 years.....
Anyone on the same boat? If you’re here... I would love to hear how you cope..


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Much love and baby dust to you all. Just want you to know that i'm still here waiting to see BFP's from you guys! I wanted to chime in and make sure you are taking the ubiquiNOL version of CoQ10 because it is better. Also it takes up to 3 months to start working, so don't get discouraged and keep at it. I took 100 mg per day, but i have read the more you take the better (i read someone was taking 800 mg per day), but it can get very expensive. We also used pre-seed. Tried femara (similar to clomid) for one cycle with no BFP (couldn't afford more because the RE wouldn't prescribe it without ultrasound monitoring) I have mild PCOS and it turns out that metformin was my fertility drug -- got my first ever sticky bean 6 weeks after starting it with nothing else.

2 years ago


Roses Hey! Welcome and I’m so sorry you’re also struggling for so long. I’m not hoping to find more ladies like us! Never heard of soy Isoflavones but I’ll definitely check it! I’m pretty open to hear some success stories! Hopefully it will work for you as well! What cd are you?

Bug I’m praying that a sticky bean is on its way and 2020 will come full of joy for you!!

Lissa thank you hun! I did order the ubiquinol version of cq10 and I’m hoping it will help. It won’t be here till January tho so this cycle is on our own. I’m not expecting anything to work wonders and in a short time but I’m praying that eventually something will work. Glad to here from you! Hope everything running smoothly for you!

AFM I’m on my fertile days and thankfully we’re on holidays break too! Fingers crossed and lots of prayers for a new year’s miracle! Today is my bday. I’m turning 37 and even though hubby got me some amazing bday surprises I can’t help feeling a bit depressed... I really thought I would have a family by now...


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2 years ago • Edited • Post starter


1dpo today and the dreadful tww has begun!
Bug how are you?


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2 years ago • Post starter


Hey, Alex. I am somewhere between 6dpo and 8dpo. I started taking my temp around CD 18 and it's hard for the charts to determine my O. So, I am guessing that I am more closer to 8dpo if this cycle stays like my others. Dont feel pregnant. My temp is dropping and my RHR is dropping. So, not to hopeful for that xmas miracle. But I am still seeing the chiropractor and listening to my medications and learning to trust my body and God.
My poor fiance has been saving money for lasix surgery and we talked about using that money for the specialist route. I told him maybe we will not need the specialist and he can have his eye surgery. I am trying to be hopeful.


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2 years ago


Bug Happy new year hun!! I’m crossing everything that you won’t need to use the money for the specialist route and you’ll be having a bfp in few days!
May 2020 be the year that will fulfill what we were struggling the majority of this past decade!


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Happy New year Ladies!!! Wishing us all Bfps this year!
I decided that this year I would like to fully dedicate to me getting this bfp. I took a break for Dec because I've realized trying every month causes discouragement and stress once you noticed it's not happening. So I'm gonna start fresh this month. Expecting my cycle in a week and my first plan on the agenda are these soy isoflavones. My plan is to start them the 3rd day of my cycle. The information that I researched are as follows.
Soy isoflavones

WHEN?

You take Soy Isoflavones, like Clomid, on either CD (cycle day) 1-5 , 2-6, 3-7 , 4-8 or 5-9.

A lot of women will choose the middle cycle (3 -7) 

 1-5 = you produce more eggs, and ovulate sooner, with a stronger ovulation.

2-6 = you produce more eggs that usual, but not as many as taking it 1-5. Eggs may be more mature, and ovulation will be slightly more strong than 1-5.

3-7 = The best of both worlds, a few more eggs, and all eggs will be strong & mature, and ovulation will be alot stronger than 1-5.

4-8 = No more eggs will be produced, but the ones already there, will be matured alot more than usual, and ovulation will be very strong. Ovulation may only be brought forward a teeny bit.

5-9 = You'll have one very mature strong egg, from the ones you already produced on your own. Ovulation will either happen when it usually does, or a few days later, but your egg will be of great quality.

You can also take them with your prenatals, EPO, Ubiniquol,DHEA, B vitamins,Royal jelly etc.
I've heard of many women conceiving with various fertility issues such as PCOS, long cycles, short luteal phase, anovulatory cycles, weak ovulation, or just impatient to get a bfp. Even some women conceived taking them although DH have low sperm count issues and were able to conceive.
Also, I've noticed the dosages on the bottle can be very confusing at first. So it's important to read the back of the bottle to know exactly which amount of soy Isoflavones there are per capsule/ serving. The pills are usually sold as menopause relief pills so the doseages on the bottle aren't the exact serving you'd take for fertility.
The doses women take for fertility are between 80mg-200mg doses per day. With some of the capsules only containing 15,20,40mg of soy Isoflavones . It may say a certain mg on the front, but may not be the exact amount of soy as it say on the front. I know that some women get confused by that so just thought I'd put that in here.You may have to take many pills at a time depending on the brand you choose to use to equal to the dose you choose to use each day. Some women start on a low dose and increase each day. Starting with 80mg. And some ladies stay on a fixed dose throughout the 5days. It's totally up to you. All pills have to be taken at once with most women choosing to take at night to minimize side effects. Such as hot flashes, or headaches. Some women have no side effects at all. Although some women claim they have better sleep during the five days they take the pills. Also, they claim to feel really strong ovulation during the month that it's taken. As well as increased CM on fertile days of the cycle.
I'm very excited in trying these for this month and just wanted to spread some information to other ladies that may not have tried it and who may also want to look into it. It's a shot if nothing else. But I hear so much success from taking these pills. I figured to try it for at least 3cycles. Praying for us all and baby dust to us all. 2020will be a great year Ladies.


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2 years ago


Roses thank you! So informative and sounds so promising. I can’t believe I never heard that before. I will definitely talk about it with my doctor!!
I really hope it’ll work for you! Having my fingers crossed!!


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2 years ago • Post starter


Thanks Alex! Although your Doctor I don't think would recommend soy
Isoflavones over artificial hormonal drugs such as clomid, femara, etc because that's what they're more familiar with rather than a more natural way to conceive. I still feel he/she may be able to give you a better insight on the benefits / side effects of taking them. I also noticed this sight as well has a lot of information of many different women that have tried them and succeeded as well. Just look up soy Isoflavones in the search bar and a whole list will pop up about women who tried it. I can't wait to start and will be posting my journey on them.


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2 years ago


Alex, happy new year! I started spotting today which means AF is probably knocking only door. I said I want going to be upset but I am. I found out someone I know is pregnant today. It never gets easy. Skipped my medications this week. Just feeling down today.

Rose's good luck and hope that works for you. I have tried everything. So far nuttin has worked for me.


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2 years ago


Roses thanks! I did searched it on google and indeed found many success stories. Something that concerned me though is that I also read somewhere along the search that it may have the opposite results for some women. Anyways for now m going to try the Cq10 when my order decides to arrive and I’ll keep in mind to research it more if this too won’t do the trick! I really hope tho you’ll be having results with it. Keep us updated

Oh bug I’m so sorry! It never gets easier even if you say yourself you’ll be ok. Last cycle had the same.. af came same day I heard someone I know is pregnant. It really broke me. I stayed for hours in the bathroom floor crying and hubby was so helpless.
I know that there’s nothing to say at this point to make you feel better really. Just know that we’re here for you if you need someone to talk! In few days you’ll be feeling better. You got this girl. We only get stronger

AFM I’m 4dpo and I really cannot understand something that is happening to me almost each cycle. Around 3-4 dpo I’m getting pinches and some dull cramps.. it’s like more O pains rather period pains. I know it cannot be anything pregnancy related first of because I have it so often and never been pregnant and secondly even if I was pregnant it’s too early for symptoms. I tried to google it but i only get results for “early pregnancy signs at 3-4 dpo” which I know is not the case. I asked once in the forum but never got an answer if anyone knows. Does any of you had the same? Do you know why my body gives me those pains?
Some may say that is post ovulation pains but I’m not having them at 1 or 2 dpo.. then sometimes stops for 5-6 dpo and then my normal pre af cramps are starting at around 8-9 dpo... I’m so confused!


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