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Anna... every month I look at 'what I did' that messed up my chance. I drank caffeine, I drank beer, I let my feet get cold, I used lube, I had an orgasm during implantation time, I was dehydrated, I miss timed sex.
There are so so so many factors in making it work.... I have to believe that no one single thing I do is going to 'ruin' my chance.
If you hadn't used the lube maybe you would worry that your cm wasnt good enough....I feel like we will over analyze because we want it so bad!!!
You're a rockstar...you got this.

@lalou aww I'm sorry babe hopefilly it closes up again and your temp rises

@espence its true though but I came to realize that nothing we do actually has an effect I mean last month I timed everything perfectly we didnt miss important days or skip ovulation or anything we timed sex perfectly and I still didnt conceive where as with that pattern I did conceive before so I'm at a point where I kinda feel hopeless because we try but nothing happens but I also dont want to lose hope because it's something I want so much and I want to give SO because he deserves it more than anyone

Well to add on the cycle weirdness I'm having period cramps again... WTF lol

Hello ladies! 9 dpo for me today and I woke up from an amazing dream this morning .. I saw it was my birthday and that I got my BFP
But after I woke up I came back to reality! First of all is not my bday and secondly I got another BFN.. I’m really disappointed and I’m pretty much sure that I’m out for this month! And tbh who am I kidding? 8 years never happened... it’s never gonna happen.. at least naturally.

I hope and I’m crossing my fingers to see a lot of bfps from all of you ladies this cycle!!

@Alex that is an amazing dream and so sorry you got a bfn I'm hoping it's still too early for you. @Anna you are having a funny cycle! I've only used preseed lube but I'm sure if you only used a little it is still OK xxx

As for me, another stark white cheapie. Not even a shadow. I'm super sick. Not sure if my temp rise is hormonal or because I'm sick xxx

@alex I hate it when that happens like you dream you have a baby or your lines are so in your face positive and you wake up hopefully to test and it just hits you again... I'm sorry you're feeling a bit down and out girl but it'll happen and hopefully soon

@scuba I hope you feel better soon and that your flu/virus goes away There's still time for your bfp

@Anna thank you xxx

So scary thing happened this morning... 2 people tried kidnapping a little girl out of a car in front of a school this morning... Literally in the neighborhood of where I work and my cousins go to school... Human trafficking is a major struggle here and just knowing that it happened so close to home is terrifying... Kind of makes me wonder why we would want to bring more people into this world eventhough it's something that I want so bad

@Anna oh my gosh! That's awful! We had something last week when someone was trying to sell their car and the guy stole it with the baby still inside! Thankfully after a massive search they abandoned the baby and the police found her. Just so scary! xx

@scuba it's terrible and I mean personally if I had to go through something like that I'd be the most clingy mother ever I would be so terrified that my kid will be taken from me especially after struggling for so long and have miscarriages and and and