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Wow....thats a rough situation, I'm very sorry. Honestly given the dates of her lmp and the scan dates it could really be you or the other guy. On average a woman will ovulate some where between 10 to 16 days past her period start date and semen can stay alive for something like 3 to 5 days inside a woman and the egg only survives for around 24 hrs. Really there is no way to know for sure unless you can pin point and be certain of the last time you two were together. I'm sorry I can't give you a definitive answer, there just isnt a way to tell right now.

Thank you for trying. And however much I try to tell myself my gut is right that I'm going to be a father as I'd suspected from the dates from the start I have a real worry I'm going to be devastated if I'm not. Then two souls that love each other will be empty and alone because of a mistake (cheating)that is regretted beyond belief but the outcomes can't be changed.

The scan date will be more accurate for the age of the fetus
But with no accuracy regarding ovulation and implantation no one can tell you yet

I'm sorry xxx

Start date of her period was 10th July ovulation dates would be between the 18th and 24th July we had sex somewhere in the week around those dates but she met this person on the 24th and even with only a few hours window still could be possible. She has now decided to terminate as she doesn't want me driving myself crazy but only seems to have made me paranoid instead as she believed it to be this other persons until Friday she spent the weekend with me and our kids and now decided Monday too terminate after 13 weeks

If you love her, could you not accept her child regardless of if you are the biological father or not? It seems harsh to terminate at 13 weeks just because you don’t know who the father is. Seems selfish. Sorry that’s my opinion.

I'm already looking after a child she had previous which ive brought up since 6 months old and I see as my own so I can keep everything stable during this rocky period.and yes I do believe I could take this child on as my own if it turns out that way especially in time but I've not had any decision making in this at all just found out today that's what her plans are after spending the weekend with her

You seem like a very kind, forgiving man. I do hope your partner deserves you.

In my heart I know she is better than she has acted I just hope she has the same faith in herself and puts right all her wrongs x

This is all just my opinion.... the choice to terminate a pregnancy shouldnt be taken lightly, it will effect everything in your lives. And regret and resentment may play a strong part. If I were you I would urge her to reconsider and look at all of the options before jumping to something so drastic. Make sure she knows that you would be there for this baby regardless if it is yours or not. Maybe just having the knowledge will put her mind at ease. This is a really tough situation and you sound like you are up for the challenge of healing the relationship, I just really hope she can step up to the plate and fix the mistakes she has made before she makes and even bigger one. But this is just 1 womans opinion.

I'll be making many things as clear as I can over the next few days but I do appreciate your comments and agree with almost everything you've said I'll also update as I know if I was looking in on this is want to know the final outcome