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I would only tell those who are close enough that you would want to talk to in the case of a miscarriage. Until 12 weeks anyways.

I'm with you Emerald - I'd rather hold off on telling people until I'm through the first trimester. However, DH says if we do that, I can't complain that I have no one to talk to about it. I can see the benefit in a few people knowing just so you have someone to share the journey with (in real life, of course).

So I'd agree with Olive if you're going to tell anyone. But make sure the people you tell understand you're not telling everyone yet because it's so new so that they don't go out and share their excitement with the world. I know I'm going to have to have a very VERY clear chat with my MIL about this, not to mention DH.

I, would wait until your first drs appointment at least. Just to make sure everything its ok so far.

With my first, everyone pretty much knew right away. I was just so sick 24 hours a day, it was hard to hide. Plus, I was excited. Second ended early in miscarriage. I told a few people after the fact as I needed support. Third pregnancy - it went in stages. I decided I was just going to tell my parents and make them keep it secret. I told a close friend who'd guessed I was pregnant when I thought I had an ear infection instead (the lightheadedness) - that she'd been right. Again 24 hour sickness was hard to hide, but wasn't working full time anymore so that helped. Then I shared with siblings and a couple of more close friends, but begged them to keep it a secret. Other friends did not know until 16 weeks, when I finally had the first fetal echo and we knew that we were not going to terminate the pregnancy (our first had some severe congenital heart defects, and died at 3 months old. We were not going put another baby through the pain. So we waited. He was perfect!

I'm 13 weeks and my close friends know, my partner hasn't told anyone, my kids will find out Monday after scan, as will partners parents n siblings

Thanks for the replies! I guess it's better to wait. Last night, my husband and I talked to his mom to help us out and so she is the one who knows right now, and also told us it's better not to tell anyone until I'm 4 months along! So, a little less than 3 more months. I'm gonna tell my mom as soon as she gets back from a trip (she lives in Europe) and that's all. Everyone won't know until the end of August probably! :)
Thanks a lot for your help.

@ iulia07, oh my, tell your husband you should be able to complain to him as much as you want lol!
I guess I would tell a close girl friend as well. it's always nice to talk to someone who can give support and what not. :)

When i get finally get pregnant i'm telling everyone...after 20years of TTC I don't care how to 'Untell". They can be sad with me if anything happens with pregnancy.