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It happens when it happens....lol....meaning it turns my stomach and makes me angry everytime someone happens to say that to me. We have been trying since last December as well and have had no such luck meanwhile very one around me is having unexpected pregnancies so of course they all say it will happen when it happens because they weren't even trying to get pregnant. They were all probably trying not to conceive however they weren't being smart about their birth control. I hear you and I feel your hurt, frustration and anger. I also hate the "don't think about it and it will happen" Thank you, but we are PLANNING a pregnancy, not an OOPS BABY....so how do you not plan or think about it??? I feel like I put so much to a and effort into making sure I'm doing everything right and I get a BFN everyday that I test. Good luck to you and baby dust to us all on this site. I really feel for all the women that have been trying for so much longer than us.

I've been ttc since July 2011. I work as a children's ministry director at a church. Trust me I've heard them all... "You'll understand kids when you have your own?", "are you planning on adopting since its not happening?", "hey, she's pregnant when are you going to have one?" and the list goes on and on and on. Some times people just say the stupidest things. And I don't think I'll ever be numb to it.

I am totally with you ladies on this!!

DH and I have only been properly TTC since Feb this year after a miscarriage in October 2009.

Everyone around me is getting pregnant, while we still are not, and they just seem to be so insensitive.

I know a girl who was in this exact same position not that long ago, now she's pregnant and she keeps saying to me, "hurry up and join me", "it'll happen when it happens" etc and I'm like, ummmm, WHAT??!! Do you suddenly not remember what this FEELS LIKE??!!!

On top of which, DH's best friend back in the UK has got his girlfriend pregnant. I saw it on Facebook. DH doesn't hardly ever go on his Facebook and so he doesn't know.

I can't tell him. God knows I've tried! I can not get the words out of my mouth.

They have been together 2 minutes, and it's an OOPS BABY!!

Makes me want to cry, constantly! I often wonder if there's such a thing as TTC depression? I dunno, it's bizarre, ever since I miscarried in 2009, ALL! i have been able to think about is babies! Babies, babies, babies!

Sorry for my rant, needed to get it off my chest.

Baby dust to all you lovely ladies, and hoping we see these very, very soon!!

xx

Thank you cabeana for this post!!! I needed to hear that I'm not alone. We have been trying sine August 2011. I have heard them all and it wasn't so bad when my best friend was trying too. But she just found out she is pregnant. Now things between us are weird because every month she is asking if I am....this last month I most definitely had TTC depression :( Now its time for to try again and I'm in a rut or just scared it will be another negative. It's just nice to know I'm not alone. Baby dust to you all!!!

Thank you ladies for replying! I means a lot to know that I'm not alone :) I've just gotten to the point where I haven't even mentioned anything to people anymore. My step mother pulled me off to the side during a family event and asked me if I was pregnant yet....I really had to fight the urge to smack her lol! I don't know what people are thinking. Do they really think I'm going to go through a whole pregnancy, give birth to the child and then tell them? Come on people!! Use your head please! I'm not going to roll up one day to a family reunion with a 6 month old and say "Oh...I'm sorry I forgot to tell you"! Grrr...

And don't get me started on facebook! It's all over the place and I don't know how much more of it I can take. If i have to hear about one more lady stuffing her face with ice cream because "baby" wants it I'm going to scream.

Wow... I feel better now :) Good luck to all you ladies out there and try not to hurt anyone! lol

Lol it wont happen when it happens.

Ive experienced that before.
Once i was trying for a while, then mid love making i thought, i love him & want us to last forever and this feeling..and i jus gave up, which was so hard to do but i think i was ovulating anyway..i was 3 months pregnant before i found out.

My is issue was i was slightly insulin resistant, i got put on metformin and got a normal cycle, and i may have conceived the first time, waiting to test may 3rd.

When insulin is under control everything works much better, ive heard alot of good things, ive only been on it for 1 and a half months, it helped me lose weight, regulated my cycle and eating habits.

Theres no real side effects but nausea/diarrhea for the first month.
:-) research it if youre curious, or have pcos, definitely helps with that.

Hope ya feel better.

Mine are people saying,

"Just wait you shouldn't rush something like that, because things change when you have a baby"
Okay you know what, I know things change. I know you have to wake up all throughout the night, I know they cry a lot and can get fussy. I know you can't go out and do stuff whenever you want. I KNOW THIS STUFF STOP TELLING ME!!

"You need to hurry up and have a baby"
Well, no dip. Really? Of course I know this. Stop making me feel like I am even more of a failure than I already feel like. It's hard enough that I am having trouble. I don't need other people telling me how much I need to hurry when I can't help it.

"It will happen when it happens"
MOST of the time when people tell me this, they already have babies. Yes, it's easy for you to tell me that it will happen. It has already happened for you! This one is my favorite one because people just act like your supposed to be okay with them FLAUNTING their pregnancy or baby all in your face. When they know that you are having major issues getting pregnant.

I also hate when my sister in law is always asking me to feel the baby kick or this or that. I do it because I don't want to hurt her feelings. But it hurts VERY bad.

Sorry, these are the things I hate the most that people say to me.

*BABY DUST*

Hi there i am new to this site, been trying since July 2011 and nothing, no postive tests, i am 34 and i have never ever been pregnant in my life even though i have tried with every partner. I know how much it hurts, i cry myself to sleep every night, i prey to god all day, i scream, beg and yet nothing happens, i am almost feeling like killing myself it has gotten so bad, i just can't take living like this anymore, i just feel pain every second of every day and i have tears in my eyes all day, i makes me so angry at all the women who don't even try to have a baby and it happens.

I hate when people say to "just enjoy trying"...or "not to try and just do it". I feel like slapping the fire out of people. I'm sorry but there aren't enough orgasms in the world to make it ok that I have to keep working to try and start a family while some women can get sneezed on and magically conceive. I know they mean well but its annoying.

I was told by a pregnant with an "osps baby X2!!!" yesterday "[b] Just have lots of sex[b]"
Umm.... YOU DON'T SAY!? lol I dunno what she thinks I do every month.
Urgh. But yes she got pregnant with her 1st after only being with the dad for 1 month. Now that baby is 18 months old and "OOPS!" she's pregnant with #2

I have been TTC for 3yrs 3 months now. Yes, I realise I need to have sex thank you very much.